Parenting is hard - there's no doubt about that. And the pressure we put on ourselves can sometimes be overwhelming, and make life more difficult for ourselves. But when we attach ourselves to a specific outcome, even when we know not to fixate on things that are not in our control, simply telling ourselves not to worry doesn't work. Because as much as believe we can control certain things, we really can't. What we need is what I call a non-cognitive shift, in order to truly live the idea of being a calm, confident parent - no matter what the future holds.