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6 straight years helping parents via membership | Enroll May 5 - 15 & Begin June 1st!
6 straight years helping parents via membership Enroll May 5 - 15 & Begin June 1st!
The 2024/25 Parenting Membership
Clarity + Coaching + Community
Gentle parenting doesn't have to be permissive parenting, it doesn't have to be hard on you, and you deserve to enjoy time with your children. The Parenting Membership has helped families eliminate friction at home for six straight years - join and receive the home-changing benefits of clarity, coaching & our community.
6 Years of Membership & Counting
Enroll May 5 - 15, begin June 1st!
Enroll May 5 - 15, begin June 1st!
The 2024/25
Parenting
Membership
Parenting
Membership
Clarity + Coaching + Community
6 Years of Membership & Counting
Enroll May 5 - 15, Begin June 1
Parents of children aged 1- 10 years old: If you want gentle parenting that's also gentle on parents (and isn't permissive), you're in the right place!
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Understand why your child won't listen, stop walking on eggshells to avoid their explosions
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Get your own needs met (you don't only exist to provide an ideal environment for your children)
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Really enjoy spending time with your kids!
Gentle parenting doesn't have to be permissive parenting, it doesn't have to be hard on you, and you deserve to enjoy time with your children.
The Parenting Membership has helped families eliminate friction at home for six straight years - join and receive the home-changing benefits of clarity, coaching & our community.
The Parenting Membership has helped families eliminate friction at home for six straight years - join and receive the home-changing benefits of clarity, coaching & our community.
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Understand why your child won't listen, stop walking on eggshells to avoid their explosions
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Get your own needs met (you don't only exist to provide an ideal environment for your children)
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Really enjoy spending time with your kids!
You’ve listened to the podcast
You’ve read the blog posts
You’re in (so many) parenting groups online
But somehow, parenting is still so hard
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... Maybe you just don’t see exactly how the advice you get online and in books
applies to your unique family
... Or you get lost in the heat of the moment,
and everything you planned to do just flies out the window
... Or your child doesn't follow the script, and you have no idea
how to get them to do basic things like brush their teeth or put their shoes on
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Things fall apart just like they did every other time, and you
wonder why you bothered trying something different
You’ve listened to the podcast
You’ve read the blog posts
You’re in (so many) parenting
groups online
But somehow, parenting is
still so hard
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... Maybe you just don’t see exactly how the advice you get online and in books applies to your unique family
... Or you get lost in the heat of the moment, and everything you planned to do just flies out the window
... Or your child doesn't follow the script, and you have no idea how to get them to do basic things like brush their teeth or put their shoes on
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Things fall apart just like they did every other time, and you wonder why you bothered trying
something different
You know you want to
parent differently...
So your child doesn't hurt
in the same way that you hurt...
But how do you translate that into the day-to-day decisions?
It can seem so confusing
parent differently...
So your child doesn't hurt
in the same way that you hurt...
But how do you translate that into the day-to-day decisions?
It can seem so confusing
You're here because you want to:
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Make Parenting Easier
Stop the frustration and exasperation so you can be more intentional and less reactive. You'll know: "I've got a plan," instead of just: "I don't want to yell at you."
Do Right By Your Kids...
But Not Lose Yourself
But Not Lose Yourself
Gentle/respectful parenting helps kids be their whole selves. And I'll show you how it can make space for your whole self as well.
Find Your People
Parenting in a way that's different from your family and friends can be incredibly lonely. Being with others who share your values and commitment helps you to de-stress, address the challenge you're facing, and get back out into life.
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You're here
because you want to:
because you want to:
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Make Parenting Easier
Stop the frustration and exasperation so you can be more intentional and less reactive. You'll know: "I've got a plan," instead of just: "I don't want to yell at you."
Do Right By Your Kids...
But Not Lose Yourself
But Not Lose Yourself
Gentle/respectful parenting helps kids be their whole selves. And I'll show you how it can make space for your whole self as well.
Find Your People
Parenting in a way that's different from your family and friends can be incredibly lonely. Being with others who share your values and commitment helps you to de-stress, address the challenge you're facing, and get back out into life.
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I want you to know that you're not alone.
The Parenting Membership was designed with you in mind!
The Parenting Membership was designed with you in mind!
I want you to know that
you're not alone.
The Parenting Membership was designed with you in mind!
you're not alone.
The Parenting Membership was designed with you in mind!
You'll Receive:
Clarity
This is the only membership grounded in a deep understanding of scientific research on parenting and child development. I don't just read books on these topics, I go back to the original source to understand whether today's trendy ideas (e.g. Polyvagal Theory) are worth paying attention to, before analyzing how to use them. No other parenting coach understands the research like I do.
+Coaching
Parents tell me that I have an "amazing ability to draw out insights and connections" from them - you'll get to talk with me directly and uncover answers to your own challenges as well.
Even if you choose not to be coached, the process of seeing others achieve breakthroughs helps you to apply the knowledge in your own life as well.
Even if you choose not to be coached, the process of seeing others achieve breakthroughs helps you to apply the knowledge in your own life as well.
+Community
The right knowledge is only part of the puzzle. You also need a place where you can exhale deeply with the sense that my people are here.
When the weather is stormy, our community provides a safe harbor to anchor in - with a place to get questions answered, as well as support in making profound and lasting change.
When the weather is stormy, our community provides a safe harbor to anchor in - with a place to get questions answered, as well as support in making profound and lasting change.
Claire | Back on Solid Ground
Akiko | It Was Really About Connection
Anne | Parenting Is Personal
Sometimes parenting is really hard. When you feel like you're at the end of your rope, it can seem like you just need the right nugget of knowledge.
Claire found that the acceptance modeled by our community helped her to accept herself, which has released her from her struggle.
Claire found that the acceptance modeled by our community helped her to accept herself, which has released her from her struggle.
Meeting needs makes parenting easier. Like many parents, Akiko was initially hesitant to spend money on resources for parenting.
The membership has given her the knowledge and support to implement new ideas in a way she couldn't do alone.
The membership has given her the knowledge and support to implement new ideas in a way she couldn't do alone.
Anne experienced a crippling anxiety about parenting. She wanted to give her son every possible advantage - and ran herself into the ground doing it.
Now she can relax and enjoy spending time with her son, knowing that she has the tools to navigate any situation that comes up.
Now she can relax and enjoy spending time with her son, knowing that she has the tools to navigate any situation that comes up.
Here are just a few examples of the changes that parents have seen:
Claire | Back on Solid Ground
Sometimes parenting is really hard. When you feel like you're at the end of your rope, it can seem like you just need the right nugget of knowledge.
Claire found that the acceptance modeled by our community helped her to accept herself, which has released her from her struggle.
Claire found that the acceptance modeled by our community helped her to accept herself, which has released her from her struggle.
Akiko | It Was Really About Connection
Meeting needs makes parenting easier. Like many parents, Akiko was initially hesitant to spend money on resources for parenting.
The membership has given her the knowledge and support to implement new ideas in a way she couldn't do alone.
The membership has given her the knowledge and support to implement new ideas in a way she couldn't do alone.
Anne | Parenting Is Personal
Anne experienced a crippling anxiety about parenting. She wanted to give her son every possible advantage - and ran herself into the ground doing it.
Now she can relax and enjoy spending time with her son, knowing that she has the tools to navigate any situation that comes up.
Now she can relax and enjoy spending time with her son, knowing that she has the tools to navigate any situation that comes up.
Growing as a parent can
be terrifying,
inspiring, agonizing, & rewarding -
for us and our children
be terrifying,
inspiring, agonizing, & rewarding -
for us and our children
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Ruth T.
"I joined the membership group hoping for evidence-based advice on what to say, or how to react to predictable, albeit challenging situations with my kids.
Instead, the past eight months have transformed me as a parent, deepening my understanding of childrearing and helping me discover ways to communicate with my girls that feels authentic and aligned with my overall parenting goals.
What I've learned from the membership helps me get through the day-to-day toddler grind without feeling mind-numbingly drained at the end of the day."
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Jonathan & Christy T.
Before the Parenting Membership, we felt like we were just trying to survive! Then we learned how to explicitly and proactively think about our approach to parenting, rather than just reacting to our son.
Now we know we're heading in a direction that feels right for our family, even on areas where we used to disagree.
Also, Jen makes a huge amount of complicated research really approachable and easy to understand, which kept us from feeling overwhelmed by information!
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Emily G.
As a Parenting Membership member, I've found that I am being more intentional, having the right kind of conversations with my husband, working with my kids the way I want to be, and enjoying learning, too.
Plus, it's nice to know that I'm not alone and that there are plenty of resources and other parents with whom I can connect on this parenting journey!"
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Kesha J.
“Jen’s body of work has been an incredible blessing to our family.
The community that’s been built with the Parenting Membership is incredible, and I just love how deep the materials and the conversations go on the calls — this is not a membership for surface-level thoughts!
We are vulnerable, we process deeply and we build better futures for ourselves, our children and the generations to come. So grateful for Jen and this community!
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Kathryn D.
"The membership has been different from anything else I have seen in helping think about and articulate your own goals and really focus on putting problem solving strategies into place in your family.
Knowing how you want to parent and developing the skills in the everyday situations that come up can be two different things and this membership presents both invaluable focused guides and just the right questions to apply this knowledge tailored to your own family.
I particularly like the focus on your own goals versus advocating a “one best way” type philosophy."
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Elizabeth K.
Jen's work has given me two precious gifts. The first, is a different attitude towards, and different perspective of, children. Now I see children as full and equal human beings, deserving of respect, deserving of dignity.
As a result, I'm less stressed about the daily small things that children do (or don't do). Our relationship is marked with more ease, because I can respond with an attitude of trust.
The second is the gift of relationships. During the weekly ACTion group meetings, we have a safe space to talk about struggles and things that are working well. These meetings are an anchor - there is sharing, learning together, growing, and holding space for each other. Being in community is key to changing ingrained patterns, and Jen's work facilitates community in exactly that way.
Joining the
Parenting Membership
will help you to:
Parenting Membership
will help you to:
Stop parenting from a place of fear (and the exhaustion that comes with fear). Instead, feel ease - which comes from knowing you're doing the best you can
Radiate a calm confidence - no longer beating yourself up about getting frustrated, because dinner time will be easier, there will be mutual trust, and you won't have to beg, nag, threaten or punish to get cooperation
Find your whole self. You'll learn to direct your care for others inward, treat yourself with the compassion you need and deserve, and feel worthy of asking for help getting your needs met.
This isn't a course that you take once and forget, and things go back to the way they always were. Whenever a new challenge pops up, we're here to support and guide you for as long as you're a member.
Nicole | Making Genuine Connections
Milda | A Strong Foundation
Caroline | Overcoming the 'Sensitive Child' Label
Adriana & Tim | Nothing Worked - Until Now
From the past to the future - breaking the trauma cycle. Nicole learned about the links between the ways she was raised and her fear that she was "doing it wrong" - and has now forged a stronger connection with both her husband and children.
From fear to joy - Milda is no longer scared of parenting. Now she isn't worried about individual problems, because she has a framework that addresses any challenge parenting - and life - throws her way.
From searching for belonging... to connectedness. Caroline yearned to be seen and understood as a child.
Now confident in herself, she can appreciate the present moment with her children.
Now confident in herself, she can appreciate the present moment with her children.
From desperation to siblings who solve their own problems. Adrianna & Tim were skeptical for good reason: nothing was working, and they had no time!
No longer counting the moments until they get a break, they finally enjoy parenting!
No longer counting the moments until they get a break, they finally enjoy parenting!
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Nicole | Making Genuine Connections
From the past to the future - breaking the trauma cycle. Nicole learned about the links between the ways she was raised and her fear that she was "doing it wrong" - and has now forged a stronger connection with both her husband and children.
Adriana & Tim | Nothing Worked - Until Now
From desperation to siblings who solve their own problems. Adrianna & Tim were skeptical for good reason: nothing was working, and they had no time!
No longer counting the moments until they get a break, they finally enjoy parenting!
No longer counting the moments until they get a break, they finally enjoy parenting!
Hi, I'm Jen
(& That's Carys)
(& That's Carys)
I host the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which compiles the more than 10,000 hours I’ve spent researching parenting and child development to help you really understand your child.
I know that when you want to make a change you need two things: the right information, and how to go beyond an understanding to make the new way a habit.
There's no shortage of parenting information online. What you need is someone who can help you sort through what’s worth paying attention to from what isn’t (I have a Masters in Psychology focused on Child Development and another in Education).
And because I’m trained in Co-Active Coaching and the Gottman Method of couples coaching, I can help you go far beyond just memorizing the right words to say to your child - and your partner! - to truly taking on this new way of being in relationships.
I know that when you want to make a change you need two things: the right information, and how to go beyond an understanding to make the new way a habit.
There's no shortage of parenting information online. What you need is someone who can help you sort through what’s worth paying attention to from what isn’t (I have a Masters in Psychology focused on Child Development and another in Education).
And because I’m trained in Co-Active Coaching and the Gottman Method of couples coaching, I can help you go far beyond just memorizing the right words to say to your child - and your partner! - to truly taking on this new way of being in relationships.
Hi, I’m Jen (and that’s Carys)
I host the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which compiles the more than 10,000 hours I’ve spent researching parenting and child development to help you really understand each issue.
I know that when you’re shifting your approach to interacting with your child you need two things: you need the right information, and you need to know how to go beyond a understanding to make the new way a habit.
We aren’t short of information on parenting; it’s available everywhere online. What you need is someone who can help you sort through what’s worth paying attention to from what isn’t (I have a Masters in Psychology focused on Child Development and another in Education).
And because I’m trained in Co-Active Coaching and the Gottman Method of couples coaching, I can help you go far beyond just memorizing the right words to say to your child - and your partner! - to truly taking on this new way of being in relationships.
The Parenting Membership Helps Today,
Without Sacrificing Tomorrow
Without Sacrificing Tomorrow
Right now it seems like you need help with individual challenges: screen time meltdowns, picky eating, or bedtime struggles.
We learn how to address these challenges not just with 'tips & tricks' or scripts but by deeply understanding both your and your child's needs.
The Parenting Membership Helps Today, While Not Sacrificing Tomorrow
Right now it seems like you need help with individual challenges: screen time meltdowns, picky eating, or bedtime struggles.
We learn how to address these challenges not just with 'tips & tricks' or scripts but by deeply understanding both your and your child's needs.
3 Core Modules
Provide Immediate & Lasting Impact
Provide Immediate & Lasting Impact
Module 1 | How to Cope with Tantrums & Bad Behavior
Module 2 | Intro to Parenting As a Team
Module 3 | Parenting As A Team Deep Dive
Difficult behavior like tantrums, resistance, and back-talk often feel unpredictable, but they really aren't.
We'll learn how to see them coming and navigate them collaboratively with your child.
We'll learn how to see them coming and navigate them collaboratively with your child.
Parenting feels extra hard when your partner has different ideas, and conversations usually end in fights.
Using custom-made, evidence-based Gottman Method tools, you'll practice having connecting conversations and finding greater alignment.
Using custom-made, evidence-based Gottman Method tools, you'll practice having connecting conversations and finding greater alignment.
Building on the tools from Module 2, we'll spend extra time on issues that have been ongoing for years.
The Gottmans say that 69% of couples' arguments aren't resolved, but we can find movement where it seems like none is possible right now.
3 Core Modules
Provide Immediate &
Lasting Impact
Provide Immediate &
Lasting Impact
Module 1
Dealing with Tantrums &
Bad Behavior
Dealing with Tantrums &
Bad Behavior
Difficult behavior like tantrums, resistance, and back-talk often feel unpredictable and frustrating.
We'll uncover why your child is doing these things and find new ways to meet both of your needs on a more regular basis.
We'll uncover why your child is doing these things and find new ways to meet both of your needs on a more regular basis.
Module 2
Intro to Parenting As A Team
Intro to Parenting As A Team
Parenting feels extra hard when your partner has different ideas, and conversations usually end in fights.
Using custom-made, evidence-based Gottman Method tools, you'll practice having connecting conversations and finding greater alignment.
Using custom-made, evidence-based Gottman Method tools, you'll practice having connecting conversations and finding greater alignment.
Module 3
Parenting As A Team
Deep Dive
Parenting As A Team
Deep Dive
Building on the tools from Module 2, we'll spend extra time on issues that have been ongoing for years.
The Gottmans say that 69% of couples' arguments aren't resolved, but we can find movement where it seems like none is possible right now.
Clare joined the Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop to learn how to set limits...but discovered so much more. At the end of our last group coaching call she typed in the chat:
"Also... how can we join the Parenting Membership?
I want more of this.
I didn't think I could find community in an online forum, but this has shown me I was wrong."
I want more of this.
I didn't think I could find community in an online forum, but this has shown me I was wrong."
- Clare S.
9 Additional Modules
Help You Through
Your Parenting Struggles
After you've completed the core modules, you'll have the basic tools to decide on and implement an approach to many other parenting challenges, as well as to feeling more confident and comfortable in your role as a parent.
Topics covered in your first year:
9 Additional Modules
Help You Through
Your Parenting Struggles
After you've completed the core modules, you'll have the basic tools to decide on and implement an approach to many other parenting challenges, as well as to feeling more confident and comfortable in your role as a parent.
Topics covered in your first year:
After your first year, I develop content that addresses the current challenges faced by members. You also get bonus access to previous content on the anniversary of your enrollment, including topics like:
Peer relationships
All About Sex
Resilience
Playful Parenting
Post-Capitalism
Emotion Regulation in Middle Childhood
Internal Family Systems
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Different people learn in different ways, so we have lots of ways to learn - and connect. They're all entirely optional - you can access everything from your very first day, or add more when you're ready. We'll help you to figure out what's right for you!
Monthly Group Coaching Calls
for Individualized Help
Sometimes you do need to talk with me about your unique situation so you can find a path forward. Each month I host two group coaching calls, on the same weekday at 11am and 5pm Pacific. You won't be one of hundreds in listen-only mode; you'll get a chance to talk with me directly. Join live or listen to the recording later & get on the right track.
I'm a Co-Active Coach, and I'll work with you to offer the help you need in the way you need it: from brainstorming potential solutions to a coaching conversation where we uncover your true needs, so you can get these met.
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Different people learn in different ways, so we have lots of ways to learn - and connect.
They're all entirely optional - you can access everything from your very first day, or add more when you're ready.
We'll help you to figure out what's right for you!
They're all entirely optional - you can access everything from your very first day, or add more when you're ready.
We'll help you to figure out what's right for you!
Monthly Group Coaching Calls for Individualized Help
Sometimes you do need to talk with me about your unique situation so you can find a path forward. Each month I host two group coaching calls, on the same weekday at 11am and 5pm Pacific. You won't be one of hundreds in listen-only mode; you'll get a chance to talk with me directly. Join live or listen to the recording later & get on the right track.
I'm a Co-Active Coach, and I'll work with you to offer the help you need in the way you need it: from brainstorming potential solutions to a coaching conversation where we uncover your true needs, so you can get these met.
The Magic of ACTion Groups Make the Impossible, Seem Possible
people
Break big goals down into manageable steps
people
Variety of time options to suit any schedule
people
Gain friends for life who will be there for you no matter what!
Listen to how ACTion groups became an unexpectedly magical part of membership
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You'll have the option to join an ACTion group of up to five peers who meet weekly with a seasoned peer coach to break down the changes you want to make into manageable steps.
Many parents initially doubt whether ACTion groups can help them. But very quickly the parents become kindred spirits: the kind of people they can tell anything, and know it won't be judged. Members laugh, cry, and celebrate together, and hold each other (gently!) accountable to keep moving forward.
Listen to how ACTion groups became an unexpectedly magical part of membership
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The Magic of ACTion Groups Make the Impossible,
Seem Possible
Seem Possible
people
Break big goals down into manageable steps
people
Variety of time options to suit any schedule
people
Gain friends for life who will be there for you no matter what!
You'll have the option to join an ACTion group of up to five peers who meet weekly with a seasoned peer coach to break down the changes you want to make into manageable steps.
Many parents initially doubt whether ACTion groups can help them.
But very quickly the parents become kindred spirits: the kind of people they can tell anything, and know it won't be judged.
Members laugh, cry, and celebrate together, and hold each other (gently!) accountable to keep moving forward.
1:1 (or 1:2!) Consults
to Get to the Bottom
of Especially
Thorny Challenges
to Get to the Bottom
of Especially
Thorny Challenges
Sometimes we need a little more time than we have on a group coaching call to help you find a path forward. When this happens, I'll invite you to a 30 minute consult.
Kathryn and George gave me permission to share this clip of their consult: after 13 1/2 minutes, and with no prior knowledge of their relationship, I accurately summarized one of their most disruptive forms of communication.
By the end of 30 minutes we had identified three steps that they both thought were doable to interrupt that pattern the next time it came up.
These impactful insights lead to meaningful change.
Kathryn and George gave me permission to share this clip of their consult: after 13 1/2 minutes, and with no prior knowledge of their relationship, I accurately summarized one of their most disruptive forms of communication.
By the end of 30 minutes we had identified three steps that they both thought were doable to interrupt that pattern the next time it came up.
These impactful insights lead to meaningful change.
DAD'S CIRCLE
Special Resources
- Just for Dads -
Special Resources
- Just for Dads -
It's not easy being a dad these days... you may feel very unsure about new ways of parenting - especially when it seems like they don't even 'work' for your partner. But it can be hard to discuss this with your partner without ending up in a fight!
Our Dads' Circle offers a dedicated space to discuss the challenges you're facing, and monthly group coaching calls led by a peer Dad (who also happens to be practicing psychologist working with families). It's a safe, non-judgmental space to get real help with your children's difficult behavior.
If your partner questions the value of a membership like this, here's a short summary of what's involved and the benefits to share.
Our Dads' Circle offers a dedicated space to discuss the challenges you're facing, and monthly group coaching calls led by a peer Dad (who also happens to be practicing psychologist working with families). It's a safe, non-judgmental space to get real help with your children's difficult behavior.
If your partner questions the value of a membership like this, here's a short summary of what's involved and the benefits to share.
Life Becomes Easier
& Your Family More Harmonious
You’ll spend a LOT less time dealing with your child's difficult behavior, and a lot more time snuggling on the couch.
You’ll feel deeply connected to your child (even the child whose behavior seems so irritating right now!) when you know that you are truly working as a team.
You'll likely also improve your relationship with your spouse, and feel more settled in yourself.
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"I feel confident now that this “new” way of parenting works better for my family and I have the proof to share with people who suggest other tactics. Confidence leads to calm, and has helped me hold my boundaries better and also soften to support my children much more in their struggles.
I’m seeing effort more than flaws these days in everyone I encounter and have flipped to a positive and hopeful mindset rather than complaining about parenting."
- Katie S.
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The 2024/25 Parenting Membership
The 2024/25 Parenting Membership
6 Year Anniversary & Counting
Enroll May 5 - 15, begin June 1st!
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