to help kids thrive
A few years ago I surveyed my listeners and you told me that while you love the podcast, you still need help applying many of the concepts and strategies at home. My first membership helped parents to support their children's development (while making parenting easier) was born, and was followed by a second to help them support their children's intrinsic love of learning.
I had a vision of offering an environment which would nurture parents in all aspects of their growth, which would enable them to nurture all aspects of their children's growth - both learning and development.
For most of you, however, the idea of a parenting or learning membership might be foreign. And the idea of a course, while more straightforward, quite transactional and academic. You learn; you move on; you have problems applying the information and nowhere to turn for help. So over the last two years, I've re-imagined, what a Membership is and can mean.
I started as a reluctant parent myself, I never saw myself as a mother. I don't really 'do' nurturing and yet we're here - by choice, and not by accident. I made up for my lack of parenting instinct by leaning heavily into my research skills. And since I had already done the work, I figured I might as well share - which is how the podcast started.
I've learned so much along the way, by talking with the world's experts on child development, putting in work towards two additional Master's Degrees - one in Psychology focused on Child Development, another in Education. I'm also a CoActive Coach. But in reality, the 15 - 40 hours of research that go into each individual podcast episode, along with the work I do in my workshops and membership groups alongside real parents are individual real-world Master's degrees in themselves. I never imagined that the podcast would be downloaded a hundred times, let alone the million + and counting to date.
In a nutshell, my own parenting journey is one I would have never predicted; one where I have surprised myself. And through it all, while I've become more proficient at listening and helping other parents, I'm also continuing to work on my own journey, listening to myself. And I really believe I've found my purpose.
We are really in this together.
We want the best for our children, but at what cost? We try our hardest, yet sometimes we can feel so lost, wondering if we're doing the right thing - for us or for our children. I think it's important to recognize that perfect parenting is a myth and that pressure we put on ourselves can be just as bad or even worse than pressure from outside.
It's not just our children that are growing, we too are growing alongside them as parents. But where are we learning and getting our tools?
There's no lack of information about parenting online; it's just a clickbait headline away. When I started the podcast, I longed for useful information I could trust - and that kind of information seemed few and far between. As such, two main principals have since guided my work:
1. Scientific Research
- I look across the entire body of research on a topic. I've read hundreds of books and thousands of peer-reviewed journal articles on parenting and child development, and I connected ideas across topic areas (did you know that research on why children won't eat vegetables can help get your child's homework done?) in a way that few others have done
- I point to the strengths of the research, as well as its limitations. I call out the biases in how the research was shaped, conducted and analyzed, and discuss how these issues may have influenced the results. I also look at topics where academic research may not be the best way to understand our experience.
- I interview the researchers who are deep experts in their specific field. I ask them the the questions parents wish they could ask, and I don't hesitate to question discrepancies or challenge their conclusions.
2. Respectful Parenting
Societal problems are perpetuated through the way we raise our children. Our interactions with our children today (teaching them about race (or not…); telling our boys to “stop crying;” telling our girls to “stop being loud” shapes how they will treat others and expect to be treated in relationships.
If we want our children to be part of solving the world’s problems, we need to equip them with the leadership skills to do this.
A critical component to my Parenting and Learning Memberships is the wealth of research-driven content with parents specific needs in mind delivered through a custom built platform.
Each member gets a user name & login to "My Premium" where they can access the learning component and Membership Dashboard.
That Dashboard then allows easy self-navigation through video, audio and written content each month, covering foundational topics first, then additional areas to build on. Every step of the way you get the support you need to address the challenges you're facing.
As I transitioned to helping parents full time, many advisors told me that developing a course (and not a membership) would be the wiser path from a business perspective.
But while more people might purchase a course, I know that the truly meaningful positive change comes from the right tools, combined with interaction withe like-minded parents - to get unstuck, hold each other accountable and celebrate the steps along our journey with us.
Wouldn't it be great if someone could just write a script to solve life's problems? I have heard so many times from parents... "... but my child doesn't follow the script!" I believe that's actually a good thing.
As a society we're so focused on fast-forwarding to the solution and offering our thoughts that we've lost the art for listening and capacity for true empathy. How can we get down to our children's level and see the world through their eyes?
When we can do this, instead of just trying to make them see things our way, solutions appear that never seemed possible before.
Would it blow your mind to find out that while most parents want their children to have an intrinsic love of learning, the way that we've been interacting with them was not only not supporting their love of learning, but was actually working against it?
We want our children to love learning - and so we teach them. We try to teach them all about whatever it is that we love.
But when was the last time you wanted to learn something just because someone wanted to teach it to you? Our children are the same. When we connect with them through their interests, we don't have to teach them. We become the guides on their own learning journey.
As parents, we're often just trying to survive. It's not that we don't have aspirations, it's just hard... today more than ever. But I'm here for you. And my memberships nurture you, so you can nurture your child.
I truly believe we are the best people not only support our child's development and support our children's love of learning, but the way we do this is also the greatest tool we have to effect positive societal change.
Will you join me on this parenting journey?
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