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Parents of children aged 1- 10 years old: If you want gentle parenting that's also gentle on parents (and isn't permissive), you're in the right place!
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Understand why your child won't listen, stop walking on eggshells to avoid their explosions
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Get your own needs met (you don't only exist to provide an ideal environment for your children)
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Really enjoy spending time with your kids!
      
If life at home feels hard, you aren't alone...
      
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Emily
  Gentle parenting doesn't have to be permissive parenting, it doesn't have to be hard on you, and you deserve to enjoy time with your children.

The Parenting Membership has helped families eliminate friction at home for six straight years - join and receive the home-changing benefits of clarity, coaching & our community.  
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Understand why your child won't listen, stop walking on eggshells to avoid their explosions
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Get your own needs met (you don't only exist to provide an ideal environment for your children)
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Really enjoy spending time with your kids!
      
If life at home feels hard,
you aren't alone...

      
Katerina
Audrey
Emily

You’ve listened to the podcast

You’ve read the blog posts

You’re in (so many) parenting groups online

But somehow, parenting is still so hard

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... Maybe you just don’t see exactly how the advice you get online and in books
applies to your unique family

... Or you get lost in the heat of the moment,
and everything you planned to do just flies out the window

... Or your child doesn't follow the script, and you have no idea
how to get them to do basic things like brush their teeth or put their shoes on

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Things fall apart just like they did every other time, and you
wonder why you bothered trying something different

You’ve listened to the podcast

You’ve read the blog posts

You’re in (so many) parenting
groups online

But somehow, parenting is
still so hard

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... Maybe you just don’t see exactly how the advice you get online and in books applies to your unique family

... Or you get lost in the heat of the moment, and everything you planned to do just flies out the window

... Or your child doesn't follow the script, and you have no idea how to get them to do basic things like brush their teeth
or put their shoes on

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Things fall apart just like they did every other time, and you wonder why you bothered trying something different

You know you want to
parent differently...

So your child doesn't hurt
in the same way that you hurt...

But how do you translate that into the day-to-day decisions?

It can seem so confusing
You're here because you want to:
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Make Parenting Easier
    
    
Stop the frustration and exasperation so you can be more intentional and less reactive. You'll know: "I've got a plan," instead of just: "I don't want to yell at you."
    
Do Right By Your Kids...
But Not Lose Yourself

Gentle/respectful parenting helps kids be their whole selves. And I'll show you how it can make space for your whole self as well.
Find Your People
Parenting in a way that's different from your family and friends can be incredibly lonely.  Being with others who share your values and commitment helps you to de-stress, address the challenge you're facing, and get back out into life.
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You're here
because you want to:
face
    
Make Parenting Easier
    
    
 Stop the frustration and exasperation so you can be more intentional and less reactive. You'll know: "I've got a plan," instead of just: "I don't want to yell at you." 
    
Do Right By Your Kids...
But Not Lose Yourself

 
 Gentle/respectful parenting helps kids be their whole selves. And I'll show you how it can make space for your whole self as well. 
Find Your People
 
 Parenting in a way that's different from your family and friends can be incredibly lonely.  Being with others who share your values and commitment helps you to de-stress, address the challenge you're facing, and get back out into life.
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I want you to know that you're not alone.
The Parenting Membership was designed with you in mind!

I want you to know that
you're not alone
.

The Parenting Membership was designed with you in mind!

You'll Receive:
Clarity
 

This is the only membership grounded in a deep understanding of scientific research on parenting and child development.  I don't just read books on these topics, I go back to the original source to understand whether today's trendy ideas (e.g. Polyvagal Theory) are worth paying attention to, before analyzing how to use them.  No other parenting coach understands the research like I do.

 
 

+Coaching

 
Parents tell me that I have an "amazing ability to draw out insights and connections" from them - you'll get to talk with me directly and uncover answers to your own challenges as well.

Even if you choose not to be coached, the process of seeing others achieve breakthroughs helps you to apply the knowledge in your own life as well.

 

+Community

 
The right knowledge is only part of the puzzle.  You also need a place where you can exhale deeply with the sense that my people are here.

When the weather is stormy, our community provides a safe harbor to anchor in - with a place to get questions answered, as well as support in making profound and lasting change.

Here are just a few examples of the changes that parents have seen:
Claire | Back on Solid Ground
Akiko | It Was Really About Connection
Anne | Parenting Is Personal
Sometimes parenting is really hard. When you feel like you're at the end of your rope, it can seem like you just need the right nugget of knowledge.

Claire found that the acceptance modeled  by our community helped her to accept herself, which has released her from her struggle.
Meeting needs makes parenting easier. Like many parents, Akiko was initially hesitant to spend money on resources for parenting.

The membership has given her the knowledge and support to implement new ideas in a way she couldn't do alone.
Anne experienced a crippling anxiety about parenting.  She wanted to give her son every possible advantage - and ran herself into the ground doing it.

Now she can relax and enjoy spending time with her son, knowing that she has the tools to navigate any situation that comes up.
Here are just a few
examples of the changes
that parents have seen:

Claire | Back on Solid Ground
Sometimes parenting is really hard. When you feel like you're at the end of your rope, it can seem like you just need the right nugget of knowledge.

Claire found that the acceptance modeled  by our community helped her to accept herself, which has released her from her struggle.
Akiko | It Was Really About Connection
Meeting needs makes parenting easier. Like many parents, Akiko was initially hesitant to spend money on resources for parenting.

The membership has given her the knowledge and support to implement new ideas in a way she couldn't do alone.
Anne | Parenting Is Personal
Anne experienced a crippling anxiety about parenting.  She wanted to give her son every possible advantage - and ran herself into the ground doing it.

Now she can relax and enjoy spending time with her son, knowing that she has the tools to navigate any situation that comes up.
  Growing as a parent can
be terrifying,
inspiring, agonizing, & rewarding -
for us and our children 

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 Ruth T.
 
 

"I joined the membership group hoping for evidence-based advice on what to say, or how to react to predictable, albeit challenging situations with my kids.

Instead, the past eight months have transformed me as a parent, deepening my understanding of childrearing and helping me discover ways to communicate with my girls that feels authentic and aligned with my overall parenting goals.

What I've learned from the membership helps me get through the day-to-day toddler grind without feeling mind-numbingly drained at the end of the day."

 
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Jonathan & Christy T.

Before the Parenting Membership, we felt like we were just trying to survive!  Then we learned how to explicitly and proactively think about our approach to parenting, rather than just reacting to our son.

Now we know we're heading in a direction that feels right for our family, even on areas where we used to disagree.

Also, Jen makes a huge amount of complicated research really approachable and easy to understand, which kept us from feeling overwhelmed by information!

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Emily G.

 As a Parenting Membership member, I've found that I am being more intentional, having the right kind of conversations with my husband, working with my kids the way I want to be, and enjoying learning, too.

Plus, it's nice to know that I'm not alone and that there are plenty of resources and other parents with whom I can connect on this parenting journey!"
 

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Kesha J.

“Jen’s body of work has been an incredible blessing to our family.  

The community that’s been built with the Parenting Membership is incredible, and I just love how deep the materials and the conversations go on the calls — this is not a membership for surface-level thoughts!

We are vulnerable, we process deeply and we build better futures for ourselves, our children and the generations to come. So grateful for Jen and this community!

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Kathryn D.

 "The membership has been different from anything else I have seen in helping think about and articulate your own goals and really focus on putting problem solving strategies into place in your family.

Knowing how you want to parent and developing the skills in the everyday situations that come up can be two different things and this membership presents both invaluable focused guides and just the right questions to apply this knowledge tailored to your own family.

I particularly like the focus on your own goals versus advocating a “one best way” type philosophy." 

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Elizabeth K.

Jen's work has given me two precious gifts. The first, is a different attitude towards, and different perspective of, children. Now I see children as full and equal human beings, deserving of respect, deserving of dignity. 

As a result, I'm less stressed about the daily small things that children do (or don't do). Our relationship is marked with more ease, because I can respond with an attitude of trust.

The second is the gift of relationships. During the weekly ACTion group meetings, we have a safe space to talk about struggles and things that are working well. These meetings are an anchor - there is sharing, learning together, growing, and holding space for each other. Being in community is key to changing ingrained patterns, and Jen's work facilitates community in exactly that way.

Joining the
Parenting Membership

will help you to:
        
Stop parenting from a place of fear (and the exhaustion that comes with fear). Instead, feel ease -  which comes from knowing you're doing the best you can
  
      
        
Radiate a calm confidence - no longer beating yourself up about getting frustrated, because dinner time will be easier, there will be mutual trust, and you won't have to beg, nag, threaten or punish to get cooperation
  
      
        
Find your whole self. You'll learn to direct your care for others inward, treat yourself with the compassion you need and deserve, and feel worthy of asking for help getting your needs met.
  
      
 This isn't a course that you take once and forget, and things go back to the way they always were. Whenever a new challenge pops up, we're here to support and guide you for as long as you're a member. 
Nicole | Making Genuine Connections
Milda | A Strong Foundation
Caroline | Overcoming the 'Sensitive Child' Label
Adriana & Tim | Nothing Worked - Until Now
From the past to the future - breaking the trauma cycle. Nicole learned about the links between the ways she was raised and her fear that she was "doing it wrong" - and has now forged a stronger connection with both her husband and children.
From fear to joy - Milda is no longer scared of parenting.  Now she isn't worried about individual problems, because she has a framework that addresses any challenge parenting - and life - throws her way.
From searching for belonging... to connectedness. Caroline yearned to be seen and understood as a child.

Now confident in herself, she can appreciate the present moment with her children.
From desperation to siblings who solve their own problems. Adrianna & Tim were skeptical for good reason: nothing was working, and they had no time!

No longer counting the moments until they get a break, they finally enjoy parenting!
Nicole
Making Genuine Connections
From the past to the future - breaking the trauma cycle. Nicole learned about the links between the ways she was raised and her fear that she was "doing it wrong" - and has now forged a stronger connection with both her husband and children.
Milda
A Strong Foundation
From fear to joy - Milda is no longer scared of parenting.  Now she isn't worried about individual problems, because she has a framework that addresses any challenge parenting - and life - throws her way.
Caroline
Overcoming the 'Sensitive Child' Label
From searching for belonging... to connectedness. Caroline yearned to be seen and understood as a child.

Now confident in herself, she can appreciate the present moment with her children.
Adriana & Tim
Nothing Worked - Until Now
From desperation to siblings who solve their own problems. Adrianna & Tim were skeptical for good reason: nothing was working, and they had no time!

No longer counting the moments until they get a break, they finally enjoy parenting!
 Hi, I'm Jen
(& That's Carys)

 
I host the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which compiles the more than 10,000 hours I’ve spent researching parenting and child development to help you really understand your child.

I know that when you want to make a change you need two things: the right information, and how to go beyond an understanding to make the new way a habit.  

There's no shortage of parenting information online.  What you need is someone who can help you sort through what’s worth paying attention to from what isn’t (I have a Masters in Psychology focused on Child Development and another in Education).

And because I’m trained in Co-Active Coaching and the Gottman Method of couples coaching, I can help you go far beyond just memorizing the right words to say to your child - and your partner! -  to truly taking on this new way of being in relationships.  

Hi, I’m Jen (and that’s Carys)

I host the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which compiles the more than 10,000 hours I’ve spent researching parenting and child development to help you really understand each issue.

I know that when you’re shifting your approach to interacting with your child you need two things: you need the right information, and you need to know how to go beyond a understanding to make the new way a habit.  

We aren’t short of information on parenting; it’s available everywhere online.  What you need is someone who can help you sort through what’s worth paying attention to from what isn’t (I have a Masters in Psychology focused on Child Development and another in Education).

And because I’m trained in Co-Active Coaching and the Gottman Method of couples coaching, I can help you go far beyond just memorizing the right words to say to your child - and your partner! -  to truly taking on this new way of being in relationships.

 
 The Parenting Membership Helps Today,
Without Sacrificing Tomorrow

 
 
     

Right now it seems like you need help with individual challenges: screen time meltdowns, picky eating, or bedtime struggles.

We learn how to address these challenges not just with 'tips & tricks' or scripts but by deeply understanding both your and your child's needs.

     
 
 The Parenting Membership Helps Today, While
Not Sacrificing Tomorrow

 
 
     

Right now it seems like you need help with individual challenges: screen time meltdowns, picky eating, or bedtime struggles.

We learn how to address these challenges not just with 'tips & tricks' or scripts but by deeply understanding both your and your child's needs.

     
3 Core Modules
Provide Immediate & Lasting Impact

Module 1 | How to Cope with
Tantrums & Bad Behavior
Module 2 |
Intro to Parenting As a Team
Module 3 |
Parenting As A Team Deep Dive
Difficult behavior like tantrums, resistance, and back-talk often feel unpredictable, but they really aren't.

We'll learn how to see them coming and navigate them collaboratively with your child.
Parenting feels extra hard when your partner has different ideas, and conversations usually end in fights.

Using custom-made, evidence-based Gottman Method tools, you'll practice having connecting conversations and finding greater alignment.

Building on the tools from Module 2, we'll spend extra time on issues that have been ongoing for years.

The Gottmans say that 69% of couples' arguments aren't resolved, but we can find movement where it seems like none is possible right now.

3 Core Modules
Provide Immediate &
Lasting Impact

Module 1
How to Cope with Tantrums
& Bad Behavior
Difficult behavior like tantrums, resistance, and back-talk often feel unpredictable and frustrating.

We'll uncover why your child is doing these things and find new ways to meet both of your needs on a more regular basis.
Module 2
Intro to Parenting As A Team
Parenting feels extra hard when your partner has different ideas, and conversations usually end in fights.

Using custom-made, evidence-based Gottman Method tools, you'll practice having connecting conversations and finding greater alignment.
Module 3
Parenting As A Team Deep Dive

Building on the tools from Module 2, we'll spend extra time on issues that have been ongoing for years.

The Gottmans say that 69% of couples' arguments aren't resolved, but we can find movement where it seems like none is possible right now.

Clare joined the Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop to learn how to set limits...but discovered so much more.  At the end of our last group coaching call she typed in the chat:
"Also... how can we join the Parenting Membership?

I want more of this.

I didn't think I could find community in an online forum, but this has shown me I was wrong."


- Clare S.
 

9 Additional Modules
Help You Through
Your Parenting Struggles

 
 

After you've completed the core modules, you'll have the basic tools to decide on and implement an approach to many other parenting challenges, as well as to feeling more confident and comfortable in your role as a parent.

Topics covered in your first year:

 
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Module 4
Goals & Values
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Module 5
Raising Healthy Eaters
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Module 6
Emotion Regulation
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Module 7
Raising Siblings Who Love Each Other
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Module 8
Navigating Screen Time
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Module 9
Rhythms, Rituals, Routines
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Module 10
Self-Compassion
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Module 11
Healing the Shame
We've Experienced
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Module 12
Supporting Children in Navigating Shame
  

9 Additional Modules
Help You Through
Your Parenting Struggles

  
 

After you've completed the core modules, you'll have the basic tools to decide on and implement an approach to many other parenting challenges, as well as to feeling more confident and comfortable in your role as a parent.

Topics covered in your first year:

 
settings
Module 4
Goals & Values
settings
Module 5
Raising Healthy Eaters
settings
Module 6
Emotion Regulation
settings
Module 7
Raising Siblings
Who Love Each Other
settings
Module 8
Navigaing Screen Time
settings
Module 9
Rhythms, Rituals, Routines
settings
Module 10
Self-Compassion
settings
Module 11
Healing the Shame
We've Experienced
settings
Module 12
Supporting Children in Navigating Shame

 After your first year, I develop content that addresses the current challenges faced by members. You also get bonus access to previous content on the anniversary of your enrollment, including topics like: 


Peer relationships
All About Sex
Resilience
Playful Parenting
Post-Capitalism
Emotion Regulation in Middle Childhood
Internal Family Systems

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Different people learn in different ways, so we have lots of ways to learn - and connect.  They're all entirely optional - you can access everything from your very first day, or add more when you're ready.  We'll help you to figure out what's right for you!

Monthly Group Coaching Calls
for Individualized Help

Sometimes you do need to talk with me about your unique situation so you can find a path forward. Each month I host two group coaching calls, on the same weekday at 11am and 5pm Pacific.  You won't be one of hundreds in listen-only mode; you'll get a chance to talk with me directly.  Join live or listen to the recording later & get on the right track.

I'm a Co-Active Coach, and I'll work with you to offer the help you need in the way you need it: from brainstorming potential solutions to a coaching conversation where we uncover your true needs, so you can get these met.

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Different people learn in different ways, so we have lots of ways to learn - and connect.

They're all entirely optional - you can access everything from your very first day, or add more when you're ready.

We'll help you to figure out what's right for you!

Monthly
Group Coaching Calls
for Individualized Help

Sometimes you do need to talk with me about your unique situation so you can find a path forward. Each month I host two group coaching calls, on the same weekday at 11am and 5pm Pacific.  You won't be one of hundreds in listen-only mode; you'll get a chance to talk with me directly.  Join live or listen to the recording later & get on the right track.

I'm a Co-Active Coach, and I'll work with you to offer the help you need in the way you need it: from brainstorming potential solutions to a coaching conversation where we uncover your true needs, so you can get these met.

   
The Magic of ACTion Groups Make the Impossible, Seem Possible
   
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Break big goals down into manageable steps

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Variety of time options to suit any schedule

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Gain friends for life who will be there for you no matter what!

 
Listen to how ACTion groups became an unexpectedly magical part of membership
 
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You'll have the option to join an ACTion group of up to five peers who meet weekly with a seasoned peer coach to break down the changes you want to make into manageable steps.

Many parents initially doubt whether ACTion groups can help them.  But very quickly the parents become kindred spirits: the kind of people they can tell anything, and know it won't be judged.  Members laugh, cry, and celebrate together, and hold each other (gently!) accountable to keep moving forward.

 
 Listen to how ACTion groups became an unexpectedly magical part of membership 
 
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The Magic of ACTion Groups Make the Impossible,
Seem Possible

   
people

Break big goals down
into manageable steps

people

Variety of time options
to suit any schedule

people

Gain friends for life who will be there for you no matter what!

You'll have the option to join an ACTion group of up to five peers who meet weekly with a seasoned peer coach to break down the changes you want to make into manageable steps.

Many parents initially doubt whether ACTion groups can help them.

But very quickly the parents become kindred spirits: the kind of people they can tell anything, and know it won't be judged.

Members laugh, cry, and celebrate together, and hold each other (gently!) accountable to keep moving forward.

1:1 (or 1:2!) Consults
to Get to the Bottom
of Especially
Thorny Challenges

Sometimes we need a little more time than we have on a group coaching call to help you find a path forward.  When this happens, I'll invite you to a 30 minute consult.

Kathryn and George gave me permission to share this clip of their consult: after 13 1/2 minutes, and with no prior knowledge of their relationship, I accurately summarized one of their most disruptive forms of communication.

By the end of 30 minutes we had identified three steps that they both thought were doable to interrupt that pattern the next time it came up.


These impactful insights lead
to meaningful change.
   DAD'S CIRCLE
Special Resources
- Just for Dads -   

It's not easy being a dad these days... you may feel very unsure about new ways of parenting - especially when it seems like they don't even 'work' for your partner. But it can be hard to discuss this with your partner without ending up in a fight!

Our Dads' Circle offers a dedicated space to discuss the challenges you're facing, and monthly group coaching calls led by a peer Dad (who also happens to be practicing psychologist working with families). It's a safe, non-judgmental space to get real help with your children's difficult behavior.

If your partner questions the value of a membership like this, here's a short summary of what's involved and the benefits to share.

   DAD'S CIRCLE
Special Resources
- Just for Dads -   

It's not easy being a dad these days... you may feel very unsure about new ways of parenting - especially when it seems like they don't even 'work' for your partner. But it can be hard to discuss this with your partner without ending up in a fight!

Our Dads' Circle offers a dedicated space to discuss the challenges you're facing, and monthly group coaching calls led by a peer Dad (who also happens to be practicing psychologist working with families). It's a safe, non-judgmental space to get real help with your children's difficult behavior.

If your partner questions the value of a membership like this, here's a short summary of what's involved and the benefits to share.

 
The 2024/25 Parenting Membership
 
   

ClarityCoaching + Community 

   
   

Enroll now, begin June 1st!

   
 
The 2024/25 Parenting Membership
 
   

ClarityCoachingCommunity 

   
   

Enroll now, begin June 1st!

   

Life Becomes Easier
& Your Family More Harmonious

 You’ll spend a LOT less time dealing with your child's difficult behavior, and a lot more time snuggling on the couch.

You’ll feel deeply connected to your child (even the child whose behavior seems so irritating right now!) when you know that you are truly working as a team.

You'll likely also improve your relationship with your spouse, and feel more settled in yourself. 

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"I feel confident now that this “new” way of parenting works better for my family and I have the proof to share with people who suggest other tactics. Confidence leads to calm, and has helped me hold my boundaries better and also soften to support my children much more in their struggles.

I’m seeing effort more than flaws these days in everyone I encounter and have flipped to a positive and hopeful mindset rather than complaining about parenting."

 - Katie S. 

 
Questions that parents just like you have asked before saying ‘Yes’ to the Parenting Membership

1. I'm not clear on what a membership is. Can you explain?

Sure! In a course, you get access to a defined set of content, and perhaps support in implementing it over a short period of time. Courses work really well when new knowledge is the primary thing you need, as well as targeted help to implement the ideas.

In a membership, you know where you want to start making changes, but you might not know where you're going to end up. You need ongoing support as you address the initial challenges you know about - and new ones pop up.

I'm always adding new content even to the core modules, because hearing ideas in different ways can make them 'click' in a way they hadn't before.

You retain the access to the content for as long as you're a current member. And on your anniversary you gain access to bonus content that we've covered previously on topics like All About Sex, Navigating your Sense of Self in Parenthood, and Supporting Children in Middle Childhood.

After five consecutive years of membership you unlock lifetime membership - for free!

Members tell me that they often explain it to other people as "parenting coaching and community." Imagine if Netflix was a cool place to hang out with people who share your values - new content keeps showing up for as long as you're enrolled.

2. I want to do this, but I’m already spread wayyyy to thin. How much time is this going to take?

I hear you:-)

Here’s the thing. Yes, it takes work to be in this membership. You’ll probably spend a couple of hours reading, watching, or listening to each module - perhaps less if you’re a skimmer rather than a reader.

You might take a couple more to discuss them with your partner.

And there are (optional) super tightly focused 40 minute small group calls each week to help you keep taking the next tiny step forward.

So that’s perhaps six hours a month, if you’re fully engaged in all the steps (and there's NO requirement to do all of those things!).

I calculated how much time you might save if you’re currently arguing with and yelling at your child on a regular basis to try to get things done, with inevitable explosions following. By the time you count up all those hassles related to breakfast, getting dressed, brushing teeth, transitions, lunch, screen time, dinner, bath time, brushing teeth (again!) and shortening your bedtime routine so it no longer involves 5+ visits to your child’s room, you are going to conservatively save about 96 hours a month. And that’s even after you factor in the six hours you’ll spend on the content.

Hmmmm….could you use an extra 96 hours a month?

If you're not sure which resources will best support you, just drop in to one of our four Office Hours calls in the first month and we'll help you get on the right track.

3. I’ve read dozens of books on parenting, and I’m in a bunch of free parenting groups online. How is this going to be different?

Please do forgive me for being blunt, but if what you had learned from all those books and in all those parenting groups was actually working, would you have read this far down this page?

The gap between reading something in a book or a parenting group once (even if you completely agree with it!) and actually being able to implement it can be deceptively vast. It’s like the distance between your vomiting child and the open toilet: just a few feet in reality with the right support, but tantalizingly out of reach in the moment.

The membership provides the three critical components you need to make actual change happen: the right (research-based!) information, a supportive community, and (this is the really critical part) help when you get stuck.

Because you will get stuck. We all do. And when that happens you can either drop back into your old habits or figure out what didn’t go the way you’d hoped and why, and how to come back and try again differently next time. That’s why this is going to be different for you.

4. I'm in Madrid / Manila / Melbourne. Will I still be able to participate?

Yes! The only thing that happens at a designated time is our group coaching calls, held on a weekday around the middle of the month at both 11am and 5pm Pacific. You can attend whichever call best suits your schedule - usually the 11am Pacific one for Europe/the Americas and the 5pm Pacific one for Asia/Australasia. Some super-keen parents do join both!

All the calls are recorded, so if you can't attend live you can watch the replay anytime you like.

We have ACTion groups that meet at all hours of the day and night. Even if you're the only person joining from your country we'll match you with people who are available at the same time, no matter where they are (one of our groups is called Cali 2 Kenya for this reason!).

Parents are often surprised at how well the online community functions asynchronously. Post your question in a special Need Help Now space if you are having a hard time, or post in a discussion space for less time-sensitive issues. Come back in 24 hours, and you'll have perspectives from folks around the world!

And of course all of the module content can be read / watched / listened to on your schedule.

5. My partner really (really) is not on board. What do you suggest?

I hear you. Mine wasn’t at first either. We were both raised using traditional parenting methods and he has had a hard time using approaches that don’t rely on bribery and implied or actual punishments.

If this is happening in your house, I would find a time when you’re not (especially) stressed about something else - so not right after a time when your child has refused to do something your partner asked them to do, but maybe later that day.

You could say something like: “Hey; I love you and it’s really important to me that we feel like a team in parenting. It seemed like you were having a hard time when [describe difficult event] happened. Can you tell me how that looked from your perspective? [Listen. Summarize and reflect your understanding back to your partner.]

It seems like we’ve both been having a hard time with the kids lately. It doesn’t feel like we’re a team as a family. I’ve been learning about some new methods to work with the kids that would invite them to work with us more, without us totally giving in to everything they demand. I’d like to give it a try. Would you be willing to learn more about it with me?”

I know cost can also be an issue. If you regularly pay for classes, museum memberships, or sports teams, you might compare how much value you think a harmonious, joyful family life will create, compared with these other expenses.

6. I really don't know if I can spend the money on this. What do you suggest?

I get it. It might seem like this is a lot of money to spend on yourself (while your parenting partner and other caregivers are welcome to join under your membership, the person who signs up is usually the one who participates the most). And it can be doubly difficult when you see the value and promise of parenting methods that are grounded in peer-reviewed research and respectful parenting but your partner doesn’t.

I would say two things in response to this. Firstly, you are worth it. It’s so common for women, particularly, to not feel as though they can or should buy something for themselves. After all, are we really worth this much? Shouldn’t we save the money and spend it on something for our child? Will we really get enough out of it to justify the price (and couldn’t we figure this stuff out for free by ourselves anyway)?

You’re here reading this because you sense that there’s a gap between the relationship you have with your child right now, and the potential for what this relationship could be. You really could spend thousands of hours like I’ve done reading books and peer-reviewed research over the last six years and come develop these tools yourself. But starting down that path hasn’t yielded tools that work for you yet.

In these years while your child is young, ruptures in your relationship are more easily healed because your child doesn’t have a choice: they need your love. As they mature they will seek out support in other places if they aren’t getting it at home, setting the stage for some very difficult teenage years. The investment you’re about to make in this membership will lay the groundwork for a relationship based on mutual respect that will help you maintain your own connection with your child as they age, as well as teach them how to treat others and how they want to be treated by other people for the rest of their lives. This is an investment in you, for sure.

And so my second response is that this is also an investment in your child. In fact, it might be the most important thing you ever buy for them.

7. Do you offer any kind of discount?

I have experimented with offering hardship discounts, and the one thing that I have learned since then is that the people who pay a deeply discounted rate rarely participate in a way that allows them to really get the benefits that the group offers if you are fully engaged. I think you need some ‘skin in the game’ to see the value that doing this kind of work can bring.

That said, having studied inequality for a couple of years now, I do now offer sliding scale pricing for this very reason. I would never want the membership to be truly inaccessible to someone who feels it will really benefit them. If joining the group would strongly benefit you but the price would take meals out of your children’s mouths, then please email me at support@yourparentingmojo.com to (briefly) explain your situation and I’ll do what I can to accommodate you.

8. Who will benefit most from this membership?

The membership is geared toward parents of children who are between 1-10 years old. If you’re on the earlier side but like to feel prepared, come on in! If your child is on the older side but you don’t have a vision for parenting (and you’d like one), and you’re struggling with tantrums, power struggles, setting boundaries, and the like – you’ll definitely find a home here. The tools 'work' with people of any age, but if you want most of the examples we discuss to be relevant to your situation, then you'll be most at home if you have children aged 1-10.

9. I’d like to join with my spouse/co-parent/grandparent/nanny. Do I have to pay the monthly fee twice/multiple times?

No! The monthly fee covers you and any other member of your family/caregiving team who regularly interacts with your child/ren. After you sign up, please send an email to support@yourparentingmojo.com giving me the names and email addresses of the additional individual(s) who will need access and I will set up user accounts for them, which will also get them access to the community group.

10. What’s your approach to parenting? How can I know that your ideas will fit with the way I’m raising my children?

Great question! My approach is grounded in scientific research (although I’m not afraid to question its assumptions) and principles of respectful parenting. This means that I read all the research on a particular topic related to parenting and child development and try to understand what it says as a body of work (not just what the latest study with the clickbait title says).

But I also look to anthropological literature to understand how parents and children in other cultures deal with these issues to see whether our problems are of our own making (and thus we can also look to other cultures for potential solutions) or whether parents and children everywhere face this particular issue.

I view everything through a lens of respectful parenting. In general, I find that the research tends to support respectful parenting methods (e.g. not using rewards to try to motivate children; modeling emotional regulation rather than saying “You’re OK!”, not forcing a child to eat vegetables...). But I don’t get hung up on whether I’m perfectly aligned with any particular philosophy – I help you to pick and choose what works for your family.

Finally, I view learning and development as interconnected. If we ask a child to do something they aren’t yet developmentally ready to do, we’re setting ourselves up for trouble. But sometimes we can scaffold their learning, and thus their development, if we decide that’s something we want to do. This intertwined push/pull is part of the dance of parenting.

I will also say that I bring a commitment to helping all of us heal from the harmful impacts of White supremacy, patrairchy, and capitalism. It isn't something that I bring up every time I offer thoughts on the parenting challenges you're facing, but I will mention it where it seems especially relevant and where I know the person is interested in and receptive to deepening their understanding of these topics. These social forces are perpetuated - or healed - within our families, so the Parenting Membership can be a key component of understanding this better if that's something you'd like to do.

11. I'm still just not sure the membership is right for me. How can I decide?

If you were my coaching client, I’d encourage you to take these steps to help you make the decision:

Ask your logical left brain: What are the benefits I would get from joining?

Ask your intuitive right brain and your body: Do I want to join? Do you feel a sense of longing or anticipation in your body as you imagine creating a different relationship with your child? Does it ‘feel’ like a fit, even if you can’t fully articulate why in words? We are taught to ignore our intuition in favor of rational arguments, but our physical sensations can tell us a lot about our experience if we know how to listen.

Ask both your logical left brain and intuitive right brain/body: What’s holding me back? Are you wondering how this could work when so many other tools you’ve tried have failed? Are you worried about needing to interact with other parents as you do this work? What’s behind these fears? Are these voices the ones that should make the decisions about your relationship with your child? Cast your mind forward just three short months. What would you like your relationship with your child to be like by then? When you hear their feet pattering down the hallway and they enter the room you’re in, how do you feel right now? How would you like to feel when you see them? What would you do with the time you weren’t spending arguing with them? The membership comes with a 90 day guarantee. If you aren’t on track to making your vision a reality at the end of that period, I’ll insist on giving you your money back. (I’m completely confident in this because nobody has ever invoked the guarantee since I’ve been running the memberships.) Have more questions? Just email jen@yourparentingmojo.com and I’ll get right back to you.

Note: I'm indebted to Alexis Cunningham at Worts & Cunning Apothecary for her ideas on sliding scales that I have adopted.

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The “Fewer Tantrums in 90 Days Guarantee”
 

The promise is simple.

Follow the module content, join the coaching calls (or watch the replays) and ask your questions in our private community.

If you aren't seeing fewer tantrums and less resistance to everything you ask your child to do in 90 days, I’ll give you 100% of your money back.  (It's actually going to happen much sooner than that!)

Just email us at support@yourparentingmojo.com for an an immediate and full refund.

Why am I so confident doing this?

Because I’ve seen the results.

Not just with parents who are ‘doing pretty well,’ but even parents who feel like things are falling apart every single day are going to see improvement.

 

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