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You know that “all behavior is communication”…
But what on earth is your child’s intense, difficult, and annoying behavior trying to communicate?
So many books, podcasts, and articles these days tell us that our child’s behavior is trying to tell us something.
But if you don’t have a degree in mind-reading, how the heck are you supposed to figure out what your child is trying to tell you - especially when they often go from 0 to 60 in just seconds?
But if you don’t have a degree in mind-reading, how the heck are you supposed to figure out what your child is trying to tell you - especially when they often go from 0 to 60 in just seconds?
Here’s how you can finally figure it out for your child aged 1-10...
You know that
“all behavior is communication”
“all behavior is communication”
But what on earth is your child’s intense, difficult, and annoying behavior trying to communicate?
So many books, podcasts, and articles these days tell us that our child’s behavior is trying to tell us something.
But if you don’t have a degree in mind-reading, how the heck are you supposed to figure out what your child is trying to tell you - especially when they often go from 0 to 60 in just seconds?
But if you don’t have a degree in mind-reading, how the heck are you supposed to figure out what your child is trying to tell you - especially when they often go from 0 to 60 in just seconds?
Here’s how you can finally figure it out for your child aged 1-10...
Your child is a fabulous, lovable human being
When we were little we had a lot of needs. We wanted to be seen and known and understood for who we really were. We wanted to make decisions about things that mattered to us. And we wanted to belong in our family.
Our parents found it hard to cope with our behavior, so they told us (verbally or nonverbally): “You are too much. When you stop being too much, we will reward you with love and attention and belonging in our family.”
You may have tried to resist when you were small (or perhaps it didn’t come out until the difficult teenage years) but over time you stopped communicating your need to be seen and known, and for autonomy, because the threat of not belonging was so scary it was impossible to consider.
Eventually you may have even forgotten that you have needs.
You were squashed…your needs were squashed…but your child hasn’t been squashed yet.
Your child is still telling you: “I HAVE NEEDS!”
They just don’t always know how to communicate those needs to you in a way that you can easily understand.
That’s where I can help.
Our parents found it hard to cope with our behavior, so they told us (verbally or nonverbally): “You are too much. When you stop being too much, we will reward you with love and attention and belonging in our family.”
You may have tried to resist when you were small (or perhaps it didn’t come out until the difficult teenage years) but over time you stopped communicating your need to be seen and known, and for autonomy, because the threat of not belonging was so scary it was impossible to consider.
Eventually you may have even forgotten that you have needs.
You were squashed…your needs were squashed…but your child hasn’t been squashed yet.
Your child is still telling you: “I HAVE NEEDS!”
They just don’t always know how to communicate those needs to you in a way that you can easily understand.
That’s where I can help.
Your child is a fabulous, lovable human being
When we were little we had a lot of needs. We wanted to be seen and known and understood for who we really were. We wanted to make decisions about things that mattered to us. And we wanted to belong in our family.
Our parents found it hard to cope with our behavior, so they told us (verbally or nonverbally): “You are too much. When you stop being too much, we will reward you with love and attention and belonging in our family.”
You may have tried to resist when you were small (or perhaps it didn’t come out until the difficult teenage years) but over time you stopped communicating your need to be seen and known, and for autonomy, because the threat of not belonging was so scary it was impossible to consider.
Eventually you may have even forgotten that you have needs.
You were squashed…your needs were squashed…but your child hasn’t been squashed yet.
Your child is still telling you: “I HAVE NEEDS!”
They just don’t always know how to communicate those needs to you in a way that you can easily understand.
That’s where I can help.
Our parents found it hard to cope with our behavior, so they told us (verbally or nonverbally): “You are too much. When you stop being too much, we will reward you with love and attention and belonging in our family.”
You may have tried to resist when you were small (or perhaps it didn’t come out until the difficult teenage years) but over time you stopped communicating your need to be seen and known, and for autonomy, because the threat of not belonging was so scary it was impossible to consider.
Eventually you may have even forgotten that you have needs.
You were squashed…your needs were squashed…but your child hasn’t been squashed yet.
Your child is still telling you: “I HAVE NEEDS!”
They just don’t always know how to communicate those needs to you in a way that you can easily understand.
That’s where I can help.
Hi, I’m Jen!
I have a Master’s in Psychology (focused on Child Development) and another in Education.
I’m also a Co-Active Coach (which basically means that I’ll listen to you like nobody else has listened to you before).
I host the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which helps you to use scientific research as a guide in raising your children (and also goes far beyond the research). I’ve talked with academics who are the leaders in their fields, and listeners have downloaded episodes over 3 million times.
I wrote a whole book on how to understand and meet your child’s needs - but if you only have a few minutes and need help now, this quiz will give you some insight and some practical tools to help.
I have a Master’s in Psychology (focused on Child Development) and another in Education.
I’m also a Co-Active Coach (which basically means that I’ll listen to you like nobody else has listened to you before).
I host the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which helps you to use scientific research as a guide in raising your children (and also goes far beyond the research). I’ve talked with academics who are the leaders in their fields, and listeners have downloaded episodes over 3 million times.
I wrote a whole book on how to understand and meet your child’s needs - but if you only have a few minutes and need help now, this quiz will give you some insight and some practical tools to help.
Hi, I’m Jen!
I have a Master’s in Psychology (focused on Child Development) and another in Education.
I’m also a Co-Active Coach (which basically means that I’ll listen to you like nobody else has listened to you before).
I host the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which helps you to use scientific research as a guide in raising your children (and also goes far beyond the research). I’ve talked with academics who are the leaders in their fields, and listeners have downloaded episodes over 3 million times.
I wrote a whole book on how to understand and meet your child’s needs - but if you only have a few minutes and need help now, this quiz will give you some insight and some practical tools to help.
I have a Master’s in Psychology (focused on Child Development) and another in Education.
I’m also a Co-Active Coach (which basically means that I’ll listen to you like nobody else has listened to you before).
I host the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which helps you to use scientific research as a guide in raising your children (and also goes far beyond the research). I’ve talked with academics who are the leaders in their fields, and listeners have downloaded episodes over 3 million times.
I wrote a whole book on how to understand and meet your child’s needs - but if you only have a few minutes and need help now, this quiz will give you some insight and some practical tools to help.
Take the quiz: Tell Me What My Child Needs!
Answer just 10 easy questions about your child’s (aged 1-10) behavior and I’ll help you see what are the most important needs in their life.
I’ll also send you information on how to meet those needs on a more regular basis.
Because when your child’s needs are met more regularly, they stop resisting you.
And when they stop resisting, parenting gets easier.
If you’re ready for parenting to be easier, then it’s just 10 questions away…
I’ll also send you information on how to meet those needs on a more regular basis.
Because when your child’s needs are met more regularly, they stop resisting you.
And when they stop resisting, parenting gets easier.
If you’re ready for parenting to be easier, then it’s just 10 questions away…
Take the quiz: Tell Me What My Child Needs!
Answer just 10 easy questions about your child’s (aged 1-10) behavior and I’ll help you see what are the most important needs in their life.
I’ll also send you information on how to meet those needs on a more regular basis.
Because when your child’s needs are met more regularly, they stop resisting you.
And when they stop resisting, parenting gets easier.
If you’re ready for parenting to be easier, then it’s just 10 questions away…
I’ll also send you information on how to meet those needs on a more regular basis.
Because when your child’s needs are met more regularly, they stop resisting you.
And when they stop resisting, parenting gets easier.
If you’re ready for parenting to be easier, then it’s just 10 questions away…
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