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Taming Your Triggers
Taming Your Triggers
Spring Workshop
2026
Spring Workshop
2026
Feel triggered less often by your child's behavior
Respond with calm instead of exploding
Break the cycle of hurt, guilt, and shame
What is the Taming Your Triggers workshop?
What is the Taming Your Triggers workshop?
Taming Your Triggers is a 10-week, all online workshop for parents to help you feel triggered less often by your child's behavior.
The workshop is for you if you:
The workshop is for you if you:
You'll stop feeling like you're failing your kids, and they'll stop doing the things that drive you up the wall.
Support for Neurodivergent Families
Maybe you know you're neurodivergent. Maybe you're starting to wonder.
Or maybe you're parenting a neurodivergent child and finding that traditional parenting strategies backfire.
However you got here, you might notice that your triggers show up differently than other parents describe.
Your nervous system might get overwhelmed faster.
Executive functioning challenges may leave you with less capacity to regulate.
Demand avoidance could make it hard to use the strategies you know would help.
Or your child's meltdowns might trigger you in ways that seem impossible to manage.
I've completed specialized training in supporting neurodivergent children and adults
Or maybe you're parenting a neurodivergent child and finding that traditional parenting strategies backfire.
However you got here, you might notice that your triggers show up differently than other parents describe.
Your nervous system might get overwhelmed faster.
Executive functioning challenges may leave you with less capacity to regulate.
Demand avoidance could make it hard to use the strategies you know would help.
Or your child's meltdowns might trigger you in ways that seem impossible to manage.
I've completed specialized training in supporting neurodivergent children and adults
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Certified ADHD Professional (ADHD-CCSP) Intensive Training Course: Evidence-Based Strategies for Managing ADHD Across the Lifespan
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Neurodivergent-Affirming Executive Functioning Skills
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Becoming a Neurodivergent-Affirming Clinician: Understanding ADHD and Autism through a Strengths-Based, Neurodivergent-Affirming Lens
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Understanding and Supporting Demand Avoidance (PDA) and using the PANDA model
This means you'll find strategies in Taming Your Triggers that:
Work with your nervous system instead of demanding you override it
Account for sensory sensitivities, executive functioning challenges, and other neurodivergent experiences
Help you understand your triggers as communication about unmet needs - not personal failures
Respect that traditional "self-regulation" advice often doesn't work for neurodivergent brains
Respect that traditional "self-regulation" advice often doesn't work for neurodivergent brains
Support you in meeting your own needs so you have more capacity for your kids - and yourself!
This approach helps you understand what's happening in your body and brain -
so parenting gets easier instead of constantly depleting you.
What is the Taming Your Triggers workshop?
What is the Taming Your Triggers workshop?
Taming Your Triggers is a 10-week online workshop to help you feel triggered less often by your child's behavior.
The workshop is for you if you:
You'll stop feeling like you're failing your kids,
and they'll stop doing the things
that drive you up the wall.
and they'll stop doing the things
that drive you up the wall.
Support for Neurodivergent Families
Maybe you know you're neurodivergent.
Maybe you're starting to wonder.
Or maybe you're parenting a neurodivergent child and finding that traditional parenting strategies backfire.
However you got here, you might notice that your triggers show up differently than other parents describe.
Your nervous system might get overwhelmed faster.
Executive functioning challenges may leave you with less capacity to regulate.
Demand avoidance could make it hard to use the strategies you know would help.
Or your child's meltdowns might trigger you in ways that seem impossible to manage.
I've completed specialized training in supporting neurodivergent children and adults
Maybe you're starting to wonder.
Or maybe you're parenting a neurodivergent child and finding that traditional parenting strategies backfire.
However you got here, you might notice that your triggers show up differently than other parents describe.
Your nervous system might get overwhelmed faster.
Executive functioning challenges may leave you with less capacity to regulate.
Demand avoidance could make it hard to use the strategies you know would help.
Or your child's meltdowns might trigger you in ways that seem impossible to manage.
I've completed specialized training in supporting neurodivergent children and adults
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Certified ADHD Professional (ADHD-CCSP) Intensive Training Course: Evidence-Based Strategies for Managing ADHD Across the Lifespan
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Becoming a Neurodivergent-Affirming Clinician: Understanding ADHD and Autism through a Strengths-Based, Neurodivergent-Affirming Lens
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Neurodivergent-Affirming Executive Functioning Skills
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Understanding and Supporting Demand Avoidance (PDA) and using the PANDA model
This means you'll find strategies in Taming Your Triggers that:
Work with your nervous system instead of demanding you override it
Account for sensory sensitivities, executive functioning challenges, and other neurodivergent experiences
Help you understand your triggers as communication about unmet needs - not personal failures
Respect that traditional "self-regulation" advice often doesn't work for neurodivergent brains
Respect that traditional "self-regulation" advice often doesn't work for neurodivergent brains
Support you in meeting your own needs so you have more capacity for your kids - and yourself!
This approach helps you understand what's happening in your body and brain -
so parenting gets easier instead of constantly depleting you.
Real parents - just like you -
are transforming their family life...
Real parents - just like you -
are transforming their family life...
are transforming their family life...
Jamie
Sally
Liann
Real parents - just like you - are transforming their family life...
Real parents - just like you - are transforming their family life...
Jamie
Sally
Liann
By the end of this workshop,
you will:
By the end of this workshop,
you will:
you will:
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Understand why your child's behavior triggers such intense reactions (hint: it isn't really all about your child!)
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Create space between your child's difficult behavior and your reaction, so you don't just explode but instead respond with empathy and compassion
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Know how to understand and articulate your needs, and get these met while also meeting your child's needs - skills that set them up for success in relationships with you and others throughout their lives
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Effectively repair your relationship with your child on the fewer occasions when you fall into old habits so you strengthen your relationship rather than harm it
By the end of this workshop,
you will:
By the end of this workshop,
you will:
you will:
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Understand why your child's behavior triggers such intense reactions (hint: it isn't really all about your child!)
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Create space between your child's difficult behavior and your reaction, so you don't just explode but instead respond with empathy and compassion
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Know how to understand and articulate your needs, and get these met while also meeting your child's needs - skills that set them up for success in relationships with you and others throughout their lives
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Effectively repair your relationship with your child on the fewer occasions when you fall into old habits so you strengthen your relationship rather than harm it
When you sign up for Taming Your Triggers
you'll receive:
When you sign up for Taming Your Triggers
you'll receive:
you'll receive:
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10 weekly modules with lifetime access (the pace is relaxed so you can really take in the content)
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Short weekly homework to think about, write, and practice new tools with your child
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Connect with other parents in the online community (not on Facebook!)
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Get ongoing support with a small weekly ACTion group (optional)
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Get guidance directly from me when you're stuck
When you sign up for Taming Your Triggers
you'll receive:
When you sign up for Taming Your Triggers
you'll receive:
you'll receive:
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10 weekly modules with lifetime access (the pace is relaxed so you can really take in the content)
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Short weekly homework to think about, write, and practice new tools with your child
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Connect with other parents in the online community (not on Facebook!)
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Get ongoing support with a small weekly ACTion group (optional)
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Get guidance directly from me when you're stuck
If we haven't met before then Hi! I'm Jen
If we haven't met before then Hi! I'm Jen
Deepening the Experience: AccountaBuddies
Deepening the Experience: AccountaBuddies
You'll learn a lot by engaging with the content and being in our private community. But the folks who really want to take it to the next level sign up for an AccountaBuddy.
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You can bring your own Buddy by signing up with a friend, or we'll help to match you with someone who resonates with you.
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You'll communicate via whatever means you prefer: some Buddies do phone or Zoom calls; some only text or email; others send Marco Polos.
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We'll help you learn how to listen, empathize, and support your Buddy in finding their own solutions to the challenges they face - and they'll do the same for you!
It's also possible that you'll end up communicating so regularly about so many different topics that you become friends that far outlast the workshop.
That's what happened to Marci and Elizabeth.
That's what happened to Marci and Elizabeth.
Deepeningthe Experience:
AccountaBuddies
Deepening
the Experience:
AccountaBuddies
AccountaBuddies
You'll learn a lot by engaging with the content and being in our private community. But the folks who really want to take it to the next level sign up for an AccountaBuddy.
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You can bring your own Buddy by signing up for the workshop with a friend, or we'll help to match you with someone who resonates with you.
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You'll communicate via whatever means you prefer: some Buddies do phone or Zoom calls; some only text or email; others send Marco Polos.
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We'll help you learn how to listen, empathize, and support your Buddy in finding their own solutions to the challenges they face - and they'll do the same for you!.
It's also possible that you'll end up communicating so regularly about so many different topics that you become friends that far outlast the workshop.
That's what happened
to Marci and Elizabeth
That's what happened
to Marci and Elizabeth
Get Personal Support Through Group Coaching Calls
Get Personal Support Through Group Coaching Calls
For Kaja, adding group coaching calls was invaluable
We meet for 90 minutes every other week during the 10 week workshop, on Tuesdays at 11am and 5pm Pacific (join whichever one fits your schedule best) starting on March 17. Calls are recorded in case you can't attend live.
People who are new to group coaching are often shocked that they learn just as much from seeing other parents being coached from being coached themselves. Very often after one participant describes a very unique experience, another participant will speak up: "You just described me. The situation was different but my experience was exactly the same."
I don't teach any content on the calls; rather it's a place to process what you're learning and be witnessed by others. Nobody is required to talk - it's a consent-based environment!
People who are new to group coaching are often shocked that they learn just as much from seeing other parents being coached from being coached themselves. Very often after one participant describes a very unique experience, another participant will speak up: "You just described me. The situation was different but my experience was exactly the same."
I don't teach any content on the calls; rather it's a place to process what you're learning and be witnessed by others. Nobody is required to talk - it's a consent-based environment!
Helping a therapist
put knowledge into practice
put knowledge into practice
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In this short video, therapist Sasha shares how the workshop helped her to go from knowing what to do, to actually doing it with her child
Want to hear more about the tools Sasha is using to interrupt the cycle?
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Becoming a fulfilled parent
whose needs are met
whose needs are met
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Chrystal learned tools to inspire genuine cooperation from her children where there used to be resistance and struggle.
Breaking Generational Trauma:
Real Parent Stories
Breaking Generational Trauma:
Real Parent Stories
Real Parent Stories
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J.F.
I cannot stress enough how much weight this workshop has lifted off my shoulders. It has helped me to tie in everything I've learned on my own journey of respectful parenting, understanding why I was having such a hard time even though I had all the knowledge, and given me a framework to navigate the difficult moments I have with my child more effectively.
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E.B.
I never would have imagined that my own childhood experiences were having such a huge impact on my daily life as a parent.
Through this workshop I've discovered that my outbursts aren't a character flaw, they're something that can be healed, creating a stronger, healthier relationship with my own children in the process.
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M.M.
I used to feel really alone and 'out at sea' with my triggered feelings; I didn't know how much my past trauma had impacted the feelings I have right now. Now I have a plan and support structure, and I've learned really helpful tools to change the way I talk with my children in these difficult moments.
I've realized that how I feel and behave sets the tone for the rest of my family, and when I felt triggered my actions haven't been aligned with my values. Now I have specific tools I can use that DO align with my values and believes, and that alone makes me feel more calm and grounded.
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A.H.
The whole workshop was really well structured to both give me insight and help find solutions that work for me. Now I understand much more about how the intergenerational trauma that has happened in my family is impacting my relationship with my son.
And I had always known I had issues with my mom, but not the extent to which it affected me on an hourly basis - that module of content dropped a bomb on me that I never saw coming. I'm so glad that I learned tools in the workshop so I don't have to be ruled by that any more.
Let's see if this is a good fit
Let's see if this is a good fit
Book a free 20-minute call with Associate Coach Denise, and tell her about the moments when you lose it with your child and what you've already tried.
She'll help you understand if Taming Your Triggers
can give you the tools you're looking for.
No sales pitch - just honest guidance.
(And don't forget: we have a money-back guarantee!)
Let's see if this is a good fit
Let's see if this is a good fit
Book a free 20-minute call with Associate Coach Denise, and tell her about the moments when you lose it with your child
and what you've already tried.
She'll help you understand if Taming Your Triggers can give you the tools you're looking for.
No sales pitch - just honest guidance.
(And don't forget: we have a money-back guarantee!)
Breaking Generational Trauma:
Real Parent Stories
Breaking Generational Trauma:
Real Parent Stories
Real Parent Stories
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E.B.
I never would have imagined that my own childhood experiences were having such a huge impact on my daily life as a parent.
Through this workshop I've discovered that my outbursts aren't a character flaw, they're something that can be healed, creating a stronger, healthier relationship with my own children in the process.
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J.F.
I cannot stress enough how much weight this workshop has lifted off my shoulders. It has helped me to tie in everything I've learned on my own journey of respectful parenting, understanding why I was having such a hard time even though I had all the knowledge, and given me a framework to navigate the difficult moments I have with my child more effectively.
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M.M.
I used to feel really alone and 'out at sea' with my triggered feelings; I didn't know how much my past trauma had impacted the feelings I have right now. Now I have a plan and support structure, and I've learned really helpful tools to change the way I talk with my children in these difficult moments.
I've realized that how I feel and behave sets the tone for the rest of my family, and when I felt triggered my actions haven't been aligned with my values. Now I have specific tools I can use that DO align with my values and believes, and that alone makes me feel more calm and grounded.
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A.H.
The whole workshop was really well structured to both give me insight and help find solutions that work for me. Now I understand much more about how the intergenerational trauma that has happened in my family is impacting my relationship with my son.
And I had always known I had issues with my mom, but not the extent to which it affected me on an hourly basis - that module of content dropped a bomb on me that I never saw coming. I'm so glad that I learned tools in the workshop so I don't have to be ruled by that any more.
Common Questions About Parent Anger and Breaking Generational Trauma
Common Questions About Parent Anger and Breaking Generational Trauma
1. How is this different from other workshops for parents?
Most parenting workshops focus on changing your child's behavior or teaching you techniques to use "in the moment." This workshop focuses entirely on you - healing the trauma and triggers that cause your intense reactions in the first place.
We're not looking for a cognitive shift where you just know more information. We're creating a non-cognitive shift in your nervous system so you actually respond differently. You'll have lifetime access to materials, daily support in our community, and optional AccountaBuddy matching for personalized accountability.
2. Is this different from other anger management for parents programs?
Completely different. Traditional anger management teaches you techniques to control your reactions - breathing exercises, counting to ten, walking away. This workshop heals the root causes of your triggers so you don't have to work so hard to manage your anger.
You'll understand why your child's behavior creates such intense reactions (hint: it's not really about your child), address the trauma and nervous system responses behind your triggers, and create lasting change rather than just coping strategies.
3. Will this help with breaking generational trauma in my family?
Yes, this is exactly what this workshop is designed to do. As one parent shared: "By doing MY work I free all of us from carrying unhealed pain forward into future generations."
You'll learn how your childhood experiences are impacting your daily parenting, understand how intergenerational trauma shows up in your reactions, and get specific tools to heal these patterns so they don't continue with your children. Many parents discover trauma impacts they never realized were affecting them "on an hourly basis".
4. How does this support parent mental health?
This workshop addresses the underlying trauma and nervous system dysregulation that contributes to parenting overwhelm, anxiety, and reactive patterns. You'll learn to recognize when you're in a mental state that makes you susceptible to being triggered, understand concepts like hypoarousal (which many parents experience without knowing it), and develop practices that support your mental health daily. Parents report feeling "more calm and grounded" and having their actions align with their values rather than being driven by past trauma.
5. How do I stop getting angry at my kids?
The key isn't trying harder to control your anger in the moment - it's healing what causes those intense reactions in the first place. You'll learn to recognize when you're in a mental state that makes you susceptible to being triggered, understand the trauma and nervous system responses behind your anger, and develop daily practices that help you stay regulated. When you heal the root causes, you're simply triggered less often.
6. How to stop yelling as a parent when nothing else has worked?
If you know all the peaceful parenting tools but still find yourself yelling, the problem isn't your knowledge - it's that your nervous system is hijacked by triggers. You'll learn stress management techniques for parents that address the underlying trauma and nervous system dysregulation. When you heal these root causes, you won't have to work so hard to avoid yelling - you'll naturally respond with more patience and understanding.
Note: I'm indebted to Alexis Cunningham at Worts & Cunning Apothecary for her ideas on sliding scales that I have adopted.
Logistical Questions & Answers
Logistical Questions & Answers
1. I want to do this, but I’m already spread wayyyy to thin. How much time is this going to take?
I hear you:-)
The amount of benefit you get for the work you put into this workshop is unparalleled.
You'll receive new content once a week which will take you 10 minutes to read. A homework exercise will take another 5-30 minutes. The Pattern-Breaking Practices will take 10-15 minutes each day.
You'll likely appreciate giving support to others and receiving it from them in our private community as you see that you are not alone on this journey.
It's a very minimal time commitment for what most parents find to be a life-changing benefit.
2. Do I need to be on Facebook to participate in the community?
No! I've been hearing from parents for a while now that they want to join my programs but don't want to be on Facebook, so I'm using a new (distraction-free!) service to host this community. No Facebook required.
3. Do you offer any kind of discount?
In the past, parents have found the interaction between sliding scale pricing and the coaching calls to be difficult to understand. Many thought that coaching calls were included in the main workshop price, but to do this with four sliding scale options would require eight different prices - too much for anyone to navigate.
This is why we have simplified the options this time around. If you cannot afford even the lowest potential option, please get in touch at support@yourparentingmojo.com and propose a price that balances the value you think you will get out of the workshop and your ability to pay.
My ability to provide this option relies on other parents' willingness to pay the full fee. Please do pay the highest price you can afford.
4. I'd like to take this workshop with my partner. Do we need to pay twice?
Firstly, welcome! I definitely encourage couples to take this workshop together as it helps you to be more supportive of each other in the difficult moments because you'll both know how hard you're working on this. I ask that couples who are taking the workshop together each sign up individiually.
This enables each of you to be able to post and comment in our community, and also be matched with your own AccountaBuddy. Your partner has too much at stake in your relationship to be an effective Buddy - it sounds strange, but someone you'll never meet can provide a container for complete honesty as you're addressing trauma much more effectively than your partner can. You can always share your insights with your partner later!
If you cannot afford to pay for two enrollments at the full fee, please email support@yourparentingmojo.com and propose a price that balances the value you think you will get out of the workshop and your ability to pay.
Because this workshop offers so much support, it does add work for me and my team to support two people than to support one, and my ability to offer discounted pricing relies on other parents' willingness to pay the full fee. Please do pay the highest price you can afford.
5. Who will benefit most from the workshop?
If you find yourself having (what you feel to be) extreme reactions - whether these are the yelling/punishing kind, the shutting down kind, the walking away kind or even the "I'll do anything to make it stop" kind - to your child's age-appropriate behavior, this workshop is for you.
If you know all the peaceful/respectful parenting tools but just can't figure out how to apply them in the heat of the moment, this workshop is for you.
If you realize you've been trying to change your child's behavior so you won't have these kinds of reactions any more (so you're focusing on your child, instead of yourself), this workshop is for you.
6. For how long can I access the workshop materials?
You'll have lifetime access to the materials on our beautiful, custom-designed learning platform.
But please don't sign up for the workshop thinking "I don't really have time now but I'll sign up and come back to it later." I want you to gain the full benefit of being in the workshop and you're most likely to do that if you go through most of the material with the group, when we can support you in staying on track and answer your questions as you go.
7. How much access do I get to Jen during the workshop?
I'm in the community almost every day. This isn't me selling you a workshop and then waving goodbye as you go off and access all the materials by yourself, and talk only with the other participants.If you have a question, you'll hear thoughts shared by other participants, but you'll also get input from our community manager, one of our amazing peer coaches, and/or me.
We make sure you get the information and support you need to make progress on this journey.
Fortunately I type quickly, and you may even get long responses. But we are limited by how much I can physically type in the hours I have, but you can join the group coaching calls so we can speak directly.
8. I'm still just not sure the workshop is right for me. How can I decide?
If you were my coaching client, I’d encourage you to take these steps to help you make the decision:
Ask your logical left brain: What are the benefits I would get from joining?
Ask your intuitive right brain and your body: Do I want to join? Do you feel a sense of longing or anticipation in your body as you imagine creating a different relationship with your child? Does it ‘feel’ like a fit, even if you can’t fully articulate why in words? We are taught to ignore our intuition in favor of rational arguments, but our physical sensations can tell us a lot about our experience if we know how to listen.
Ask both your logical left brain and intuitive right brain/body: What’s holding me back? Are you wondering how this could work when so many other tools you’ve tried have failed? Are you worried about needing to interact with other parents as you do this work? What’s behind these fears? Are these voices the ones that should make the decisions about your relationship with your child?
Cast your mind forward just ten weeks. What would you like your relationship with your child to be like by then? Would you like to feel confident that no matter what your child does, that you can respond (rather than react!) with calm and confidence - and that you won't wish afterward that you'd handled it differently? If so, come on in!
Have more questions? Just email support@yourparentingmojo.com and we’ll get right back to you.
9. Do I HAVE to match with an AccountaBuddy?
We highly encourage, but do not require you to match with an AccountaBuddy.
We tend to find that it isn't the knowledge I offer but rather how you process that knowledge in community with others that helps you to actually make the changes you want to see.
You could certainly do that processing in our not-on-Facebook community and/or on group coaching calls, if those options would be a better fit for you.
The AccountaBuddy structure can also help you to stay on track with the content when life might otherwise get in the way, which is important to us because we want you to get the benefit you signed up for! We trust that you'll make the best decision for you.
Note: I'm indebted to Alexis Cunningham at Worts & Cunning Apothecary for her ideas on sliding scales that I have adopted.
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