You nurture your children and prepare them to fly.
But who nurtures you?
Maybe parenting feels pretty easy to you most of the time.
Maybe you know you're struggling.
Either way, there are times when your child does something that all children do:
- Expresses uncomfortable emotions
- Makes a big mess
- Wastes food
- Doesn't eat enough
- Eats too much
- Climbs too high
- Makes loud noises...
And you snap.
I want you to know that this isn't your fault.
It's not something you're doing 'wrong.'
It's not something your children are doing 'wrong.'
It's often caused by some kind of unresolved trauma.
And when you understand and begin to resolve that trauma, you feel triggered less often.
The Taming Your Triggers workshop is currently closed. To join the waitlist for the next session, just enter your name and email address below and I'll send you a FREE infographic on 13 reasons why your child isn't listening to you (and what to do about each one) to tide you over...
"The Taming Your Triggers Workshop is an excellent tool for any parent interested in understanding the “why” behind their triggers. This workshop is trauma informed and aligns with best practices in trauma treatment.
As a trauma therapist, I see every day how unresolved stressors and trauma can show up every day if not addressed. This workshop is a great first step to mitigate trauma reactions from affecting our parenting. I highly recommend it!"
- Joanna Filidor, LMFT
More often than you would like, your child:
When this happens, you feel:
After you've calmed down, you feel:
The feeling of being triggered tells us:
"Those old traumas that you thought you had a lid on are still there."
And because it's our trauma that causes the triggering, not our child's behavior, we need to look to change ourselves rather than our child
But what if things could be different?
"I’ve been determined to break the generational chain of trauma with my own children while holding my triggers like an inevitable nuisance at best and as only human when I lose it and react. It’s so incredibly freeing to consider the possibility that I could lay down those chains all together.
Since the workshop I’m more patient and have greater capacity. And that’s really saying something because it’s summer; I’m with my kids 24/7 for 11 weeks!
I knew coming in that the work to do was my own and only my own. My children are quite literally perfectly imperfect. My triggers are about ME, not them. By doing MY work I free all of us from carrying unhealed pain forward into future generations. What I am constantly searching for is HOW to do my work. What does “do my work” even mean?
The Tame Your Triggers workshop was a clear, concise and actionable path forward. The workshop gave me very clear steps to take toward being the mother I aspire to be by helping me heal my own hurt. Writing the letter to my mother using the framework provided opened space for me to grieve the mother I desperately wanted and do not have. Using stories to heal trauma has been beneficial for *all* of us.
I’m so grateful for the workshop!"
"I never would have imagined that my own childhood experiences were having such a huge impact on my daily life as a parent.
Through this workshop I've discovered that my outbursts aren't a character flaw, they're something that can be healed, creating a stronger, healthier relationship with my own children in the process."
"The Tame Your Triggers course helped provide insight into why I sometimes reacted to my children in ways I was unhappy with.
After taking the course I've been able to stop and evaluate why I'm upset before reacting negatively. It's still a work in progress but I'm on a better track to treating my children and their emotions respectfully."
"Thank you Jen for hosting the Tame Your Triggers workshop. Parenting 3 children under 5 isn’t easy and it’s even harder when my own childhood trauma surfaces.
It really helped me identify my own issues that need work and self love/compassion and helped me find ways to stay calm when the tension rises with my toddlers."
When you join the Tame Your Triggers workshop, you'll learn:
By the end of the online workshop, you will:
How do I participate in the online workshop?
It's only $4.99 until September 23rd ($9.99 until end of day October 1)
Nine emails over the course of the month, each containing a short quiz, exercise, or journaling prompt
Most can be done in 10-20 minutes per day; if you are feeling triggered often then spending closer to 30 minutes could yield great benefits
I'll be live in the Your Parenting Mojo Facebook group on a regular basis to help you dig deeper and to answer your questions (you can watch these anytime you like if you miss them live)
- You feel triggered less often;
- You feel more in control of your reaction when you are occasionally still triggered;
- You and your children are more connected and better able to work together to solve problems
Already took the workshop in July?
If you already took the workshop the last time I ran it in July and felt as though you made good progress on taming your triggers then I wouldn't recommend doing it again.
But if you meant to participate and then got swamped with kids being of school...and vacations...and life...then I'd highly recommend joining again this time around.
I've slowed down the pace so you get more time to engage with the materials, and have also created summaries of the deeper resources so you can skim and still get something out of them. Plus there'll be lots more Lives and opportunities to ask me questions!
Hi! I'm Jen (and that's Carys)
I never saw myself as a mother. I don’t really ‘do’ nurturing – at least not of things that have a lot of needs and can’t be reasoned with. In hindsight, I spent rather too much time on my birth plan, and not nearly enough time thinking about what the time after the birth might be like.
When Carys was about four months old I was actually starting to think about discipline (a bit early, I know…). I didn’t know how I was going to be a parent whose kid didn’t walk all over them without being a parent who always said “no.”
A couple of weeks after that, some friends were visiting with their toddler son. We were in the living room and he went running down our hallway to our bedroom. His Mom called after him: “Jack, please don’t go in there – it’s private. You can go in the nursery or come back to the living room.”
Jack stopped on the threshold of our bedroom, peeked in, and then ran back to the living room.
“How did you do that?” I said.
The answer launched my journey as a parent: toward a Master's in Psychology (focused on Child Development), followed by another in Education, all underpinned by principles of respectful parenting.
Then I launched a podcast to share what I learned with others (I'll send you updates after you’re done with the workshop).
I’ll be right beside you every day with information, support, and resources, starting on Tuesday October 1st.
Have questions about the workshop? Just drop me an email at email@example.com. There's a real person on the other end (me!) and I'll gladly do what I can to help.