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Parents: Learn How to Stop Being Triggered by Your Child's Behavior

Finally figure out why you have huge reactions to your child's age-appropriate behavior, and parent from a place of calm, clarity and confidence

Parents:

Learn How to Stop Being Triggered by Your Child's Behavior

Finally figure out why you have huge reactions to your child's age-appropriate behavior

Parent from a place of calm, clarity and confidence

Dear Fellow Parent,

Maybe parenting feels easy to you most of the time.

Or maybe it feels like you're lost at sea.

Either way, there are times when your child does something that all children do:

Expresses uncomfortable emotions

Makes a big mess

Wastes food

Talks back

Screams / shouts LOUDLY

Stalls endlessly when you're getting dressed, leaving the house, getting ready for bed...

And then you SNAP.

I want you to know that this isn't your fault.

It's not something you're doing wrong.

It's not something your child is doing wrong.

It's often caused by some kind of unresolved trauma - even if you had "good parents" who were trying their best.

When you understand and begin to resolve that trauma, you'll feel triggered less often.

And then you'll be able to interact with your children in the respect-based, love-filled way that you do when you're at your best.

The good news is that it doesn't take years of therapy to make this shift.

But before I tell you how to make this huge and really important shift, let me quickly introduce myself:

Dear Fellow Parent,

Maybe parenting feels easy to you most of the time.

Or maybe it feels like you're lost at sea.

Either way, there are times when your child does something that all children do:

Expresses uncomfortable emotions

Makes a big mess

Wastes food

Talks back

Screams / shouts LOUDLY

Stalls endlessly when you're getting dressed, leaving the house, getting ready for bed...

And then you SNAP.

When you understand
and begin to resolve that trauma, you'll
feel triggered less often.

And then you'll be able to interact with your children in the respect-based, love-filled way that you do when you're at your best.

The good news is that
it doesn't take years of
therapy to make this shift.

If we haven't met before then Hi! I'm Jen

(and that's Carys)!

I host the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which compiles the more than 10,000 hours I've spent researching parenting and child development to help you really understand an issue from all sides.

We aren't short on information on parenting: It's available everywhere online.

What you need is someone who can help you sort through what's worth paying attention to from what isn't (I have a Masters in Psychology focused on Child Development and another in Education).

And because I'm a Co-Active Coach, I can help you go far beyond just memorizing the right words to say to your child to truly taking on this new way of being in relationships.

I do want to be clear that I'm not a therapist and this isn't therapy.

But I can tell you that in addition to so many 'regular' parents, I've also had therapists take the workshop to tame their own triggers...

If we haven't
met before then
Hi! I'm Jen

(and that's Carys)!

I host the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which compiles the more than 10,000 hours I've spent researching parenting and child development to help you really understand an issue
from all sides.

We aren't short on
information on parenting:
It's available everywhere online.

What you need is someone who can help you sort through what's worth paying attention to from what isn't (I have a Masters in Psychology focused on Child Development and another in Education).

And because I'm a Co-Active Coach, I can help you go far beyond just memorizing the right words to say to your child to truly taking on this new way of being in relationships.

I do want to be clear that I'm not a therapist and this isn't therapy. But I can tell you that in addition to so many 'regular' parents, I've also had therapists take the workshop to tame their own triggers.

meet sasha

Helping a therapist
put knowledge into practice

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In this short video, Sasha shares how the workshop helped her to go from knowing what to do, to actually doing it with her child

Want to hear more about the tools Sasha is using to interrupt the cycle?
Click here to see the full video >>

Here's the thing...
if I can help therapists who already basically know everything there is to know about feeling triggered and yet still can't keep from yelling at their own kids,
I can probably help you too

Therapist-Approved Insights

"The Taming Your Triggers Workshop is an excellent tool for any parent interested in understanding the "why" behind their triggers. This workshop is trauma informed and aligns with best practices in trauma treatment.

As a trauma therapist, I see every day how unresolved stressors and trauma can show up every day if not addressed. This workshop is a great first step to mitigate trauma reactions from affecting our parenting. I highly recommend it!"

- Joanna Filidor, LMFT

Therapist-Approved Insights

- Joanna Filidor, LMFT

Tame Your Triggers & Break the Cycle

More often than you would like, your child:

Doesn't listen
Doesn't do what you ask
Seems 'out of control'

When this happens, you feel:

Angry
Frustrated
Defeated

Then, you:

Shout
Humiliate

("I can't believe you did that! Why would you do something like that?!")

Maybe even swat or spank

Tame Your Triggers &
Break the Cycle

More often than you would like, your child:

Doesn't listen
Doesn't do what you ask
Seems 'out of control'

When this happens, you feel:

Angry
Frustrated
Defeated

Then, you:

Shout
Humiliate

("I can't believe you did that! Why would you do something like that?!")

Maybe even swat or spank

After you've calmed down, you feel:

Shame > You know this isn't how you want to parent
Guilt > You know these interactions aren't helping your child develop the skills they need
Hopelessness > You don't know what to do differently

After you've
calmed down, you feel:

Shame > You know this isn't how you want to parent

Guilt > You know these interactions aren't helping your child develop the skills they need

Hopelessness > You don't know what to do differently

The feeling of being triggered tells us:

"Those old traumas that you thought you had a lid on are still there."

And because it's our trauma that causes the triggered feeling, not our child's behavior,
we need to work on changing our response rather than our child's behavior.

The Time is Right... Now

The Time
is Right... Now

The human race is (still!) living through one of the most stressful periods in our history - and our children are feeling it.

We're doing the best we can right now...but we can probably still remember how our parents' difficult reactions to stress hurt us.

Is your child going to come out of this intact?

Are they coming out stronger than they went in, confident and secure that they can tell anything that's on their mind and express difficult feelings through their behavior and you won't flip your lid?

If not, it's time for Taming Your Triggers.

It isn't selfish to spend money on this.

Yes, it's going to benefit you - and you should take the workshop for that reason alone. But many of the parents I work with have a hard time justifying spending money on themselves, and will only spend on their children.

The human race is (still!) living through one of the most stressful periods in our history - and our children are feeling it.

We're doing the best we can right now...but we can probably still remember how our parents' difficult reactions to stress hurt us.

Is your child going to come out of it intact?

Are they coming out stronger than they went in, confident and secure that they can tell anything that's on their mind and express difficult feelings through their behavior and you won't flip your lid?

If not, it's time for Taming Your Triggers.

It isn't selfish to spend
money on this.

Yes, it's going to benefit you - and you should take the workshop for that reason alone. But many of the parents I work with have a hard time justifying spending money on themselves, and will only spend on their children.

So if you took the money you were going to spend on your next gift / outing / museum visit with your child and spent it on Taming Your Triggers instead, the benefits to your child will be far more profound and long-lasting:

Because you will be calmer, happier, more effective parent even in the first few weeks of the workshop

So if you took the money you were going to spend on your next gift / outing / museum visit with your child and spent it on Taming Your Triggers instead,

the benefits to your child we be far more profound and long-lasting

because you will be a calmer, happier, more effective parent even in the first few weeks of the workshop

If you want to:

Be triggered less often by your child's behavior of reacting in the heat of the moment....

Feel compassion and empathy instead of anger and frustration

Respond to your child from a place that's aligned with your values instead of reacting in the heat of the moment....

Taming Your Triggers will help you make this shift.

If you want to:

Be triggered less often by your child's behavior

Feel compassion and empathy instead of anger and frustration

Respond to your child from a place that's aligned with your values instead of reacting in the heat of the moment....

Taming Your Triggers
will help you make this shift.

meet chrystal

Becoming a Fulfilled Parent
Whose Needs Are Met

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Chrystal learned tools to inspire genuine cooperation from her children where there used to be resistance and struggle.

Feel the Difference, See the Difference:

"I've been determined to break the generational trauma with my own children while holding my triggers like an inevitable nuisance at best and as only human when I lost it and react. It's so incredibly freeing to consider that possibility that I could lay down those chains all together.

I knew coming in that the work to do was my own and only my own. My children are quite literally perfectly imperfect. My triggers are about ME, not them. By doing MY work I free all of us from carrying unhealed pain forward into future generations. What I'm constantly searching for is HOW to do my work. What does "do my work" even mean?

The Taming Your Triggers workshop was a clear, concise and actionable path forward. The workshop gave me very clear steps to take toward being the mother I aspire to be by helping me heal my own hurt.

Since the workshop I'm more patient and have greater capacity. And that's really saying something because it's summer; I'm with my kids 24/7 for 11 weeks!

- K.D.

"I never would have imagined that my own childhood experiences were having such a huge impact on my daily life as a parent.

Through this workshop I've discovered that my outbursts aren't a character flaw, they're something that can be healed, creating a stronger, healthier relationship with my own children in the process."

- E.B.

"I used to feel really alone and 'out at sea' with my triggered feelings; I didn't know how much my past trauma had impacted the feelings I have right now. Now I have a plan and support structure, and I've learned really helpful tools to change the way I talk with my children in these difficult moments.

I've realized that how I feel and behave sets the tone for the rest of my family, and when I felt triggered my actions haven't been aligned with my values. Now I have specific tools I can use that DO align with my values and believes, and that alone makes me feel more calm and grounded.

- M.M.

"Where do I start saying how this workshop has helped me? It has helped me to identify that I was even being triggered in the first place. I thought I was just an anxious person and there was no other way. Because of this workshop, I can now identify when I am triggered and step away from my narrow perspective, understand the root of the trigger from my past, and see the bigger picture including what my partner or child might be feeling and perceiving in that moment from me.

The whole workshop was really well structured to both give me insight and help find solutions that work for me. Now I understand much more about how the intergenerational trauma that has happened in my family is impacting my relationship with my son. And I had always known I had issues with my mom, but not the extent to which it affected me on an hourly basis - that module of content dropped a bomb on me that I never saw coming. I'm so glad that I learned tools in the workshop so I don't have to be ruled by that any more. I also learned what hypoarousal is - I saw that I probably spent 50% of my time in this state and had no idea it was even a thing.

I still get triggered and give in to impulse every once in a while now, but FAR less often. What I've learned in the workshop has improved my relationship with both my child and husband and even my relationship with myself. I can honestly say this is the most important and significant accomplishment I've had in my personal life... maybe ever. I wish there was a way to fully convey the value that parents who are experiencing these feelings will get out of this workshop.

- A.H.

"The way the content was curated, sequenced, and explained made a lot of sense to me. Even though some of the material is already available online, the way the modules were planned out was really helpful on my journey of learning about triggers. The pacing of the workshop helped to give me enough space to do the self-reflection, have time to think over topics, and make the connections across the weeks. I enjoyed the support from other participants and supporting them as well.

I cannot stress enough how much weight this workshop has lifted off my shoulders. It has helped me to tie in everything I've learned on my own journey of respectful parenting, understanding why I was having such a hard time even though I had all the knowledge, and given me a framework to navigate the difficult moments I have with my child more effectively.

- J.F.

Feel the Difference,
See the Difference:

I knew coming in that the work to do was my own and only my own. My children are quite literally perfectly imperfect. My triggers are about ME, not them. By doing MY work I free all of us from carrying unhealed pain forward into future generations. What I'm constantly searching for is HOW to do my work. What does "do my work" even mean?

Since the workshop I'm more patient and have greater capacity. And that's really saying something because it's summer; I'm with my kids 24/7 for 11 weeks!"

- K.D.

"I never would have imagined that my own childhood experiences were having such a huge impact on my daily life as a parent.

- E.B.

I've realized that how I feel and behave sets the tone for the rest of my family, and when I felt triggered my actions haven't been aligned with how I want them. Now I have specific tools I can use that DO align with my values and believes, and that alone makes me feel more calm and grounded.

- M.M.

I still get triggered and give in to impulse every once in a while now, but FAR less often. What I've learned in the workshop has improved my relationship with both my child and husband and even my relationship with myself. I can honestly say this is the most important and significant accomplishment I've had in my personal life... maybe ever. I wish there was a way to fully convey the value that parents who are experiencing these feelings will get out of this workshop.

- A.H.

- J.F.

meet iris

From Constant Anger
to Compassion, and
Self-Compassion

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Iris' daughter asked her: "Why are you always so angry?"

Now Iris takes care of herself first, so she can respond to her child's difficult feelings from a place of love and connection.

Knowledge is important...
but we're really looking for
a non-cognitive shift

Knowledge is Important...
But We're Really
Looking for a
Non-Cognitive Shift

So many parents have found success with the techniques you'll learn in the Taming Your Triggers workshop.

In the course you'll learn the real causes of your triggered feelings, and new tools to respond to your child from a place that's grounded in your values.

We alternate this content so you can gain insight into the sources of your triggers even as you're learning and practicing the tools you'll need to do things differently.

Yes, the knowledge is important. You can't do this without it.

In Western culture, we're taught that knowledge is everything:

So many parents have found success with the techniques you'll learn in the Taming Your Triggers workshop.

In the course you'll learn the real causes of your triggered feelings, and new tools to respond to your child from a place that's grounded in your values.

We alternate this content so you can gain insight into the sources of your triggers even as you're learning and practicing the tools you'll need to do things differently.

Yes, the knowledge is important. You can't do this without it.

In Western culture, we're taught that knowledge is everything:

Knowledge + Willpower = Change

Knowledge +
Willpower = Change

If you have the knowledge and you haven't made the change you want to see, then clearly you lack the needed willpower.

If you're reading this page, then probably you've tried a good number of things already - but you still haven't made the change you want to see. So you're at fault, right? Your lack of willpower is the problem.

But what I see when I work with parents is that the knowledge isn't actually the thing that shifts for them.

It's seeing other parents struggle with the same things they're struggling with...

It's understanding that they aren't alone...

It's watching insights unfold for other people that cast new light on their own struggles

If you have the knowledge and you haven't made the change you want to see, then clearly you lack the needed willpower.

If you're reading this page, then probably you've tried a good number of things already - but you still haven't made the change you want to see. So you're at fault, right? Your lack of will power is the problem.

But what I see when I work with parents is that the knowledge isn't actually the thing that shifts for them.

It's seeing other parents struggle with the same things they're struggling with...

It's understanding that they aren't alone... on their own struggles.

It's watching insights unfold for other people that cast new light on their own struggles

meet liann

When We Care For Ourselves,
We're Triggered Less Often

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Liann used to be so angry... now she meets her needs first, not so she can be a better parent, but because she's human and deserves to have her needs met.

And from there, she's angry much less often.

Here's how the community shifted things for Parent N.

With less stress coming from her relationship with her mother, N has more emotional bandwidth for her child and feels triggered less often.

Knowledge was important here - but not the most important part of N's learning.

What really brought about the shift was learning in community - seeing others struggle and imagining her own mother struggling too helped her to translate her sympathy into empathy.

It wasn't something she convinced herself to do in her brain; it was a non-cognitive shift in her body.

There's simply no other community like this, which forms around a shared dedication to interrupting cycles of intergenerational trauma so our children don't have to suffer in the same way that we have suffered.

(Please note that the workshop isn't just for people whose parents were alcoholics...people who feel triggered for all kinds of different reasons can experience these non-cognitive shifts.)

Here's a non-cognitive shift that parent N. described at the end of the workshop:

"I've been in therapy around my mom stuff for a long time. I learned that she really didn't remember what I did due to her alcoholism... she just really doesn't remember what I remember. It's been hard for me to accept because it formed me so much.

But over the course of this program I have felt a lot unfold. I think seeing other moms be in the place that I think my mom was helped me to see her as a 20 something mom with lots of unprocessed trauma. Though I "knew" the trauma she had suffered before, I couldn't let go of my anger. I had sympathy, but not empathy.

And for the first time in my life I wanted to make amends. I've wanted to be 'ok' before, I worked very hard to keep a relationship. But for me to clear this piece of my karmic path, I needed to forgive.

But I couldn't just say it, I needed to be it. I needed to be forgiveness. I don't know how to explain it, but it's like a whole body forgiveness.

And not once in my life of learning and working on this have I felt this deep inside. But I did now. During this program. And this is the text I wrote to my mom:

Me: So, this isn't the best thing to text and you're with friends but I just need to say it. I've been in a parenting class that's been super helpful for me in processing a lot of feelings. And I just want you to know that I love you, and I truly and deeply forgive you for everything in the past. And I hope we can just keep moving forward, because you're a great mom and grandma. I love you.

Mom: Thank you for this. It makes my life so much better. I love you too.

Me: I mean it.

Mom: I really appreciate your tell me. I worry about you and me all the time. I'm so happy now. It feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

Me: Me too ;) Sorry it's taken me so long to get here."

(Please note that the workshop isn't just for people whose parents were alcoholics...people who feel triggered for all kinds of different reasons can experience these non-cognitive shifts.)

With less stress coming from her relationship with her mother, N has more emotional bandwidth for her child and feels triggered a lot less often.

Knowledge was important here - but not the most important part of N's learning.

What really brought about the shift was learning in community - seeing others struggle and imagining her own mother struggling too helped her to translate her sympathy into empathy.

It wasn't something she convinced herself to do in her brain; it was a non-cognitive shift in her body.

There's simply no other community like this, which forms around a shared dedication to interrupting cycles of intergenerational trauma so our children don't have to suffer in the same way that we have suffered.

Deepening the Experience: AccountaBuddies

You'll learn a lot by engaging with the content and being in our private community. But the folks who really want to take it to the next level sign up for an AccountaBuddy. You can bring your own Buddy by signing up with a friend, or we'll help to match you with someone who resonates with you.

You'll communicate via whatever means you prefer: some Buddies do phone or Zoom calls; some only text or email; others send Marco Polos.

Each new module contains discussion questions to kick-start your own conversations so you'll never struggle to find something to talk about.

You don't need to have any special knowledge or insights to be an effective AccountaBuddy or to have a Buddy support you - the essential role is of listening, empathizing, and supporting the other person in finding their own solutions to the challenges they face.

It's also possible that you'll end up communicating so regularly about so many different topics that you become friends that far outlast the workshop.

That's what happened to Marci and Elizabeth.

Deepening
the Experience:
AccountaBuddies

You'll communicate via whatever means you prefer: some Buddies do phone or Zoom calls; some only text or email; others send Marco Polos.

You don't need to have any special knowledge or insights to be an effective AccountaBuddy or to have a Buddy support you - the essential role is of listening, empathizing and supporting the other person in finding their own solutions to the challenges they face.

It's also possible that you'll end up communicating so regularly about so many different topics that you become friends that far outlast the workshop.

That's what happened
to Marci and Elizabeth

Pattern-Breaking Practices to Make Your Learning Real

One of the core skills we learn in the workshop is how to create a pause between your child's difficult behavior and your triggered response using mindfulness-based tools. But too often we have a nice quiet mindfulness practice by ourselves... and then can't translate that to the challenging moments.

I'm providing a set of 20+ short (3-5 minutes!) audio practices to help you create the pause, and to heal from the hurts that have caused your triggered feelings. When you do these 2-3 times per day (this is about 1% of the minutes in your day), you will see a dramatic increase in your ability to remember and use these tools when you need them - and also avoid feeling triggered as often in the first place.

Once you have that pause, everything becomes possible. We'll help you to work with your child to meet the need that's underneath their difficult behavior - and also meet your needs.

Pattern-Breaking Practices to Make Your Learning Real

One of the core skills we learn in the workshop is how to create a pause between your child's difficult behavior and your triggered response using mindfulness-based tools. But too often we have a nice quiet mindfulness practice by ourselves... and then can't translate that to the challenging moments.

I'm providing a set of 20+ short (3-5 minutes!) audio practices to help you create the pause, and to heal from the hurts that have caused your triggered feelings. When you do these 2-3 times per day (this is about 1% of the minutes in your day), you will see a dramatic increase in your ability to remember and use these tools when you need them - and also avoid feeling triggered as often in the first place.

Once you have that pause, everything becomes possible. from there, we'll help you to work with your child to meet the need that's underneath their difficult behavior - and also meet your needs.

Maximum Progress in 10 weeks:
Add the Support that Comes with
Group Coaching Calls

Iris shares with us how the calls supported her alongside the rest of the workshop

Some parents see the vastness of the gap between the way they're currently interacting with their children and the way they want to respond in difficult moments and would prefer to get more personalized support.

That's why I also offer optional group coaching calls for an additional fee.

We meet for 90 minutes every other week during the 10 week workshop, on Wednesdays at 9am Pacific starting on Wednesday October 25. Calls are recorded in case you can't attend live.

We'll be a small enough group (maximum 20 participants) that if you want to talk on the call you'll be able to do that.

People who are new to group coaching are often shocked that they learn just as much from seeing other parents being coached from being coached themselves. Very often after one participant describes a very unique experience, another participant will speak up: "You just described me. The situation was different but my experience was exactly the same."

I am present in the online community almost every day and I do try to give detailed responses there. But if you already know that you learn best by hearing others being coached, or you want to talk with me directly about your situation, group coaching could be a good fit for you.

You can select an option to join group coaching calls on this page. If you elect to add them later, it will cost 10% more.

Maximum Progress
in 10 weeks:
Add the Support That Comes with Group Coaching Calls

Some parents who see the vastness of the gap between the way they're currently interacting with their children and the way they want to respond in difficult moments and would prefer to get more personalized support.

That's why I also offer optional group coaching calls for an additional fee.

We meet for 90 minutes every other week during the 10 week workshop, on Wednesdays at 9am Pacific starting on Wednesday October 25. Calls are recorded in case you can't attend.

We'll be a small enough group that if you want to talk on the call you'll be able to do that.

You can select an option to join group coaching calls on this page. If you elect to add them later, it will cost 10% more.

People who are new to group coaching are often shocked that they learn just as much from seeing other parents being coached from being coached themselves. Very often after one participant describes a very unique experience, another participant will speak up: "You just described me. The situation was different by my experience was exactly the same."

I am present in the online community almost every day and I do try to give detailed responses there. But if you already know that you learn best by hearing others being coached, or you want to talk with me directly about your situation, group coaching could be a good fit for you.

for kaja, adding group coaching calls was invaluable

"The coaching calls were my favorite part"

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Kaja felt 'seen' on the coaching calls, and found a shared space to be vulnerable, in service of her own healing - and everyone else's, too

for Kaja,
adding group coaching calls was invaluable

"The coaching calls were my favorite part"

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Kaja felt 'seen' on the coaching calls, and found a shared space to be vulnerable, in service of her own healing - and everyone else's, too

Alternatives to Taming Your Triggers are
Expensive and Time-Consuming, or May Not Be Effective

You've made it this far down the page because you're reacting to your child's difficult behavior in a way that doesn't feel good to you.

Maybe you just know you want to stop yelling; maybe you know you want to parent from a place that's aligned with your values but you have no idea how to actually DO that in those stressful moments.

Here are some things you could try:

Keep doing what you're doing. This means you'll keep getting the same results. More frustration for you; more difficult behavior from your child; less alignment between the way you know you want to parent and how you actually show up when things get tough.

Read a book. There are a few decent ones out there on this topic, but SO OFTEN I see that the real transformations parents make in this course don't actually come from the knowledge I provide (it's pretty humbling, actually). The deep-in-your-bones, something-is-really-different-now transformations come through processing what you're learning in community with others. A book gives you knowledge, but you may still not be able to apply it.

Therapy. I'm going to be straight up with you here: some parents who go through the workshop realize they need therapy for more support.

I have nothing at all against therapy; I've done it myself and found it very helpful. But even parents who have been in therapy for years (and therapists themselves!) have found big changes in this workshop - and for far less money.

Alternatives to Taming Your Triggers are Expensive and Time-Consuming, or May Not Be Effective

Here are some things
you could try:

Read a book. There are a few decent ones out there on this topic, but SO OFTEN I see that the real transformations parents make in this course don't actually come from the knowledge I provide (it's pretty humbling, actually.) The deep-in-your-bones, something-is-really-different now transformations come through processing what you're learning in community with others. A book gives you knowledge, but you may still not be able to apply it.

Therapy. I'm going to be straight up with you here: some parents who go through the workshop realize they need therapy for more support.

I have nothing at all against therapy; I've done it myself and found it very helpful. But for the cost of this workshop you'll get just a few therapy sessions, which is about how long it takes to get the therapist familiar with your history.

I'm a coach, not a therapist; I don't need to know your life history to be able to help you find the answers you need which are so often ones that you, rather than I, hold.

And most parents don't come out of the workshop needing more therapy; they just use the new tools they've learned.

So why not save hundreds of hours and thousands of dollars and try this first?

I'm a coach, not a therapist; I don't need to know your life history to be able to help you find the answers you need which are so often ones that you, rather than I, hold.

And most parents don't come out of the workshop needing more therapy; they just use the new tools they've learned.

So why not save thousands of dollars and try this first?

When you sign up for Taming Your Triggers you'll receive:

10 modules of content spread over 10 weeks (the volume of reading is not huge and the pace is relaxed so that you can really take in the content, but you get LIFETIME access in case you do fall behind)

Short weekly homework assignments to think about, write, and/or practice new tools with your child

A not-on-Facebook community of parents who are on this journey together. We're all ready to support you. There's NO requirement to be online at any specific time; participate on your schedule!

The opportunity to connect with an AccountaBuddy to hold you (gently) accountable to make progress

20+ Pattern-Breaking Practices to help you create the pause between your child's difficult behavior and your response

The option to upgrade to have five group coaching calls with Jen over the course of the workshop (which will be recorded in case you can't attend) live

When You Sign Up for
Taming Your Triggers
You'll Receive:

Short weekly homework assignments to think about, write, and/or practice new tools with your child

A not-on-Facebook community of parents who are on this journey alongside you We're all ready to support you. There's NO requirement to be online at any specific time; participate on your schedule!

The opportunity to connect with an AccountaBuddy to hold you (gently) accountable to make progress

20+ Pattern-Breaking Practices to help you create the pause between your child's difficult behavior and your response

The option to upgrade to have five group coaching calls with Jen over the course of the workshop (which will be recorded in case you can't attend)

In the Taming Your Triggers workshop, you'll learn:

By the end of the online workshop, you will:

What is a trigger, and how to identify yours

Understand why your child's behavior leaves you so frustrated and angry (hint: it isn't really all about your child!)

Where triggers come from - examining previously experienced trauma, as well as the stresses of daily life

Feel triggered less often

How to use mindfulness (in just a few minutes a day!) to help you avoid being triggered in the first place, and respond more effectively when you are occasionally still triggered

Be able to create space to think after your child does something that drives you up the wall, so you don't just explode but instead respond with empathy and compassion

How to recognize when you're in frame of mind that makes you susceptible to feeling triggered, and take specific steps to make yourself more trigger-proof

Know how to understand and articulate your needs, and get these met while also meeting your child's needs - skills that set them up for success in relationships with you and others throughout their lives

How to help your child WANT to cooperate with you, so you don't have to lose your cool

Effectively repair your relationship with your child on the fewer occasions when you fall into old habits so these become strengthening rather than harmful

In the Taming Your Triggers workshop, You'll Learn:

What is a trigger, and how to identify yours

Where triggers come from - examining previously experienced trauma, as well as the stresses of daily life

How to use mindfulness (in just a few minutes a day!) to help you avoid being triggered in the first place, and respond more effectively when you are occasionally still triggered

How to recognize when you're in frame of mind that makes you susceptible to feeling triggered, and take specific steps to make yourself more trigger-proof

How to help your child WANT to cooperate with you, so you don't have to lose your cool

By the End of the
Online Workshop,
You Will:

Understand why your child's behavior leaves you so frustrated and angry (hint: it isn't really all about your child!)

Feel triggered less often

Be able to create space to think after your child does something that drives you up the wall, so you don't just explode but instead respond with empathy and compassion

Effectively repair your relationship with your child on the fewer occasions when you fall into old habits so these become strengthening rather than harmful

How Do I Participate In the Online Workshop?

Sign Up on this Page

Select the sliding scale payment option most appropriate for you

Read the Content

Ten modules of content over the course of ten weeks starting on Monday October 16th, each designed to shift the way you see your triggers and how you can feel less controlled by them. Each module will take 5-10 minutes to read, with a 5-10 minute video as well (we keep the pace relaxed to make sure you can keep up, as well as process the emotions that may arise as you do this work).

Do the Homework

Each one consists of a short quiz, exercise, or journaling prompt - most can be done in ~ 30 minutes. Do your Pattern-Breaking Practices on a daily basis and you'll start to see changes within a week.

Participate in the Community

Ask questions, get answers, and receive ideas and support from me (I'm in the community answering questions almost every day) and the other workshop participants. You'll get a chance to work with an AccountaBuddy to help keep you on track. We'll help you find someone in our private community (hosted on a non-Facebook platform) - or bring your own friend! Participate whenever you like - there's no requirement to be available at a certain time. We have folks enrolled from around the globe.

Watch the Atmosphere Shift in Your Home

• You feel triggered less often
• You're able to respond to your child more effectively when you are occasionally triggered
• You and your children are more connected and better able to work together to solve problems

How Do I
Participate In the
Online Workshop?

Sign Up on this Page

Select the sliding scale payment option most appropriate for you

Read the Emails

Ten modules of content over the course of ten weeks starting on Monday October16th, each designed to shift the way you see your triggers and how you can feel less controlled by them.

Each module will take 5-10 minutes to read, with a 5-10 minute video as well (we keep the pace relaxed to make sure you can keep up, as well as process the emotions that may arise as you do this work).

Do the Homework

Participate in
the Community

Ask questions, get answers, and receive ideas and support from me and the other workshop participants (I'm in the community answering questions almost every day).

You'll get a chance to work with an AccountaBuddy to help keep you on track. We'll help you find someone in our private community (hosted on a non-Facebook platform) - or bring your own friend!

Watch the Atmosphere Shift in Your Home

• You feel triggered less often
• You're able to respond more effectively when you are occasionally triggered
• You and your children are more connected and better able to work together to solve problems

The "This Time It's Different" Guarantee

I'm so sure that you'll be able to shift the way you show up in your relationship with your child that I guarantee your experience in this workshop.

If at any point up to and including the very end of the workshop you've read the modules and done the homework and you feel like you have not been able to make meaningful progress on taming your triggers, then just send us a copy of your homework (a photo is fine) to support@yourparentingmojo.com and we'll give you your money back.

It's that simple.

Why am I so confident doing this?

Because I've seen the results that so many parents have had in this workshop (did you check out those testimonials?!)

The "This Time It's Different" Guarantee

I'm so sure that you'll be able to shift the way you show up in your relationship with your child that I guarantee your experience in this workshop.

It's that simple.

Why am I so confident doing this?

Because I've seen the results that so many parents have had in this workshop (did you check out those testimonials?!)

Questions that parents just like you have asked before jumping into Taming their Triggers

1. I want to do this, but I’m already spread wayyyy to thin. How much time is this going to take?

I hear you:-)

The amount of benefit you get for the work you put into this workshop is unparalleled.

You'll receive new content once a week which will take you 10 minutes to read. A homework exercise will take another 5-30 minutes. The Pattern-Breaking Practices will take 10-15 minutes each day.

You'll likely appreciate giving support to others and receiving it from them in our private community as you see that you are not alone on this journey.

It's a very minimal time commitment for what most parents find to be a life-changing benefit.

2. Do I need to be on Facebook to participate in the community?

No! I've been hearing from parents for a while now that they want to join my programs but don't want to be on Facebook, so I'm using a new (distraction-free!) service to host this community. No Facebook required.

3. Do you offer any kind of discount?

In the past, parents have found the interaction between sliding scale pricing and the coaching calls to be difficult to understand. Many thought that coaching calls were included in the main workshop price, but to do this with four sliding scale options would require eight different prices - too much for anyone to navigate.

This is why we have simplified the options this time around. If you cannot afford even the lowest potential option, please get in touch at support@yourparentingmojo.com and propose a price that balances the value you think you will get out of the workshop and your ability to pay.

My ability to provide this option relies on other parents' willingness to pay the full fee. Please do pay the highest price you can afford.

4. I'd like to take this workshop with my partner. Do we need to pay twice?

Firstly, welcome! I definitely encourage couples to take this workshop together as it helps you to be more supportive of each other in the difficult moments because you'll both know how hard you're working on this. I ask that couples who are taking the workshop together each sign up individiually.

This enables each of you to be able to post and comment in our community, and also be matched with your own AccountaBuddy. Your partner has too much at stake in your relationship to be an effective Buddy - it sounds strange, but someone you'll never meet can provide a container for complete honesty as you're addressing trauma much more effectively than your partner can. You can always share your insights with your partner later!

If you cannot afford to pay for two enrollments at the full fee, please email support@yourparentingmojo.com and propose a price that balances the value you think you will get out of the workshop and your ability to pay.

Because this workshop offers so much support, it does add work for me and my team to support two people than to support one, and my ability to offer discounted pricing relies on other parents' willingness to pay the full fee. Please do pay the highest price you can afford.

5. Who will benefit most from the workshop?

If you find yourself having (what you feel to be) extreme reactions - whether these are the yelling/punishing kind, the shutting down kind, the walking away kind or even the "I'll do anything to make it stop" kind - to your child's age-appropriate behavior, this workshop is for you.

If you know all the peaceful/respectful parenting tools but just can't figure out how to apply them in the heat of the moment, this workshop is for you.

If you realize you've been trying to change your child's behavior so you won't have these kinds of reactions any more (so you're focusing on your child, instead of yourself), this workshop is for you.

6. For how long can I access the workshop materials?

You'll have lifetime access to the materials on our beautiful, custom-designed learning platform.

But please don't sign up for the workshop thinking "I don't really have time now but I'll sign up and come back to it later." I want you to gain the full benefit of being in the workshop and you're most likely to do that if you go through most of the material with the group, when we can support you in staying on track and answer your questions as you go.

7. How much access do I get to Jen during the workshop?

I'm in the community almost every day. This isn't me selling you a workshop and then waving goodbye as you go off and access all the materials by yourself, and talk only with the other participants.If you have a question, you'll hear thoughts shared by other participants, but you'll also get input from our community manager, one of our amazing peer coaches, and/or me.

We make sure you get the information and support you need to make progress on this journey.

Fortunately I type quickly, and you may even get long responses. But we are limited by how much I can physically type in the hours I have, so if you know you need a LOT of support, then you may want to add group coaching calls so we can speak directly.

8. I'm still just not sure the workshop is right for me. How can I decide?

If you were my coaching client, I’d encourage you to take these steps to help you make the decision:

Ask your logical left brain: What are the benefits I would get from joining?

Ask your intuitive right brain and your body: Do I want to join? Do you feel a sense of longing or anticipation in your body as you imagine creating a different relationship with your child? Does it ‘feel’ like a fit, even if you can’t fully articulate why in words? We are taught to ignore our intuition in favor of rational arguments, but our physical sensations can tell us a lot about our experience if we know how to listen.

Ask both your logical left brain and intuitive right brain/body: What’s holding me back? Are you wondering how this could work when so many other tools you’ve tried have failed? Are you worried about needing to interact with other parents as you do this work? What’s behind these fears? Are these voices the ones that should make the decisions about your relationship with your child?

Cast your mind forward just ten weeks. What would you like your relationship with your child to be like by then? Would you like to feel confident that no matter what your child does, that you can respond (rather than react!) with calm and confidence - and that you won't wish afterward that you'd handled it differently? If so, come on in!

Have more questions? Just email support@yourparentingmojo.com and we’ll get right back to you.

Note: I'm indebted to Alexis Cunningham at Worts & Cunning Apothecary for her ideas on sliding scales that I have adopted.

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