Parents: Learn how to stop being triggered by your child's behavior
Parents:
Learn how to stop being triggered by your child's behavior
Or maybe it feels like you're lost at sea.
Either way, there are times when your child does something that all children do:
It's not something you're doing wrong.
It's not something your child is doing wrong.
It's often caused by some kind of unresolved trauma - even if you had "good parents" who were trying their best.
When you understand and begin to resolve that trauma, you'll feel triggered less often.
And then you'll be able to interact with your children in the respect-based, love-filled way that you do when you're at your best.
The good news is that it doesn't take years of therapy to make this shift.
But before I tell you how to make this huge and really important shift, let me quickly introduce myself:
Or maybe it feels like you're lost at sea.
Either way, there are times when your child does something that all children do:
It's not something you're doing wrong.
It's not something your child is doing wrong.
It's often caused by some kind of unresolved trauma - even if you had 'good' parents who were trying their best.
And then you'll be able to interact with your children in the respect-based, love-filled way that you do when you're at your best.
The good news is that it doesn't take years of therapy to make this shift.
What you need is someone who can help you sort through what's worth paying attention to from what isn't (I have a Masters in Psychology focused on Child Development and another in Education).
But I can tell you that in addition to so many 'regular' parents, I've also had therapists take the workshop to tame their own triggers...
What you need is someone who can help you sort through what's worth paying attention to from what isn't (I have a Masters in Psychology focused on Child Development and another in Education).
put knowledge into practice
In this short video, Sasha shares how the workshop helped her to go from knowing what she needs to do, to actually doing it with her child
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I can probably help you too
I can probably help you too
"The Taming Your Triggers Workshop is an excellent tool for any parent interested in understanding the "why" behind their triggers. This workshop is trauma informed and aligns with best practices in trauma treatment.
As a trauma therapist, I see every day how unresolved stressors and trauma can show up every day if not addressed. This workshop is a great first step to mitigate trauma reactions from affecting our parenting. I highly recommend it!"
- Joanna Filidor, LMFT
"The Taming Your Triggers Workshop is an excellent tool for any parent interested in understanding the "why" behind their triggers. This workshop is trauma informed and aligns with best practices in trauma treatment.
As a trauma therapist, I see every day how unresolved stressors and trauma can show up every day if not addressed. This workshop is a great first step to mitigate trauma reactions from affecting our parenting. I highly recommend it!"
- Joanna Filidor, LMFT
Tame your triggers & break the cycle
More often than you would like, your child:
Doesn't listen
Doesn't do what you ask
Seems 'out of control'
When this happens, you feel:
Angry
Frustrated
Defeated
Then, you:
Shout
Humiliate
("I can't believe you did that! Why would you do something like that?!")
Maybe even swat or spank
Tame your triggers &
break the cycle
More often than you would like, your child:
Doesn't listen
Doesn't do what you ask
Seems 'out of control'
When this happens, you feel:
Angry
Frustrated
Defeated
Then, you:
Shout
Humiliate
("I can't believe you did that! Why would you do something like that?!")
Maybe even swat or spank
After you've calmed down, you feel:
- Shame > You know this isn't how you want to parent
- Guilt > You know these interactions aren't helping your child develop the skills they need
- Hopelessness > You don't know what to do differently
After you've calmed down, you feel:
- Shame > You know this isn't how you want to parent
- Guilt > You know these interactions aren't helping your child develop the skills they need
- Hopelessness > You don't know what to do differently
The feeling of being triggered tells us:
"Those old traumas that you thought you had a lid on are still there."
And because it's our trauma that causes the triggered feeling, not our child's behavior,
we need to work on changing our response rather than our child's behavior.
The Time is Right...Now
The Time is Right...Now
People in some places; who hold certain gender roles; whose skin is a certain color may have been especially impacted. But almost everyone was tested to what they might have felt was their personal breaking point.
Is your child going to come out of it intact?
Are they coming out stronger than they went in, confident and secure that they can tell anything that's on their mind and express difficult feelings through their behavior and you won't flip your lid?
If not, it's time for Taming Your Triggers.
I only offer this workshop once every six months. Just think: by the holidays, you could be well on the way to being able to navigate stressful situations with your child - and your extended family - much more effectively.
It isn't selfish to spend money on this. Yes, it's going to benefit you - and you should take the workshop for that reason alone. But many of the parents I work with have a hard time justifying spending money on themselves, and will only spend on their children.
Because you will be calmer, happier, more effective parent even in the first few weeks of the workshop
- Be triggered less often by your child's behavior
- Feel compassion and empathy instead of anger and frustration
- Respond to your child from a place that's aligned with your values instead of reacting in the heat of the moment....
People in some places; who hold certain gender roles; whose skin is a certain color may have been especially impacted. But almost everyone was tested to what they might have felt was their personal breaking point.
Just like our own parents were doing the best they could do with the tools they had, they too reached their breaking point (maybe on more than one occasion) - and we remember the cold shoulders, the glares, and maybe even the spankings that came with those moments.
We're doing the best we can during the most stressful time in human history...
Are they coming out stronger than they went in, confident and secure that they can tell anything that's on their mind and express difficult feelings through their behavior and you won't flip your lid?
If not, it's time for Taming Your Triggers.
the benefits to your child we be far more profound and long-lasting
because you will be a calmer, happier, more effective parent even in the first few weeks of the workshop
will help you make this shift.
Through her experience with the workshop, Chrystal learned tools to inspire genuine cooperation from her children - and is also transforming her relationship with her spouse so she now feels deeply seen and loved for who she is.
"I've been determined to break the generational trauma with my own children while holding my triggers like an inevitable nuisance at best and as only human when I lost it and react. It's so incredibly freeing to consider that possibility that I could lay down those chains all together.
I knew coming in that the work to do was my own and only my own. My children are quite literally perfectly imperfect. My triggers are about ME, not them. By doing MY work I free all of us from carrying unhealed pain forward into future generations. What I'm constantly searching for is HOW to do my work. What does "do my work" even mean?
The Taming Your Triggers workshop was a clear, concise and actionable path forward. The workshop gave me very clear steps to take toward being the mother I aspire to be by helping me heal my own hurt.
Since the workshop I'm more patient and have greater capacity. And that's really saying something because it's summer; I'm with my kids 24/7 for 11 weeks!
- K.D.
"I never would have imagined that my own childhood experiences were having such a huge impact on my daily life as a parent.
Through this workshop I've discovered that my outbursts aren't a character flaw, they're something that can be healed, creating a stronger, healthier relationship with my own children in the process."
- E.B.
"I used to feel really alone and 'out at sea' with my triggered feelings; I didn't know how much my past trauma had impacted the feelings I have right now. Now I have a plan and support structure, and I've learned really helpful tools to change the way I talk with my children in these difficult moments.
I've realized that how I feel and behave sets the tone for the rest of my family, and when I felt triggered my actions haven't been aligned with my values. Now I have specific tools I can use that DO align with my values and believes, and that alone makes me feel more calm and grounded.
- M.M.
"Where do I start saying how this workshop has helped me? It has helped me to identify that I was even being triggered in the first place. I thought I was just an anxious person and there was no other way. Because of this workshop, I can now identify when I am triggered and step away from my narrow perspective, understand the root of the trigger from my past, and see the bigger picture including what my partner or child might be feeling and perceiving in that moment from me.
The whole workshop was really well structured to both give me insight and help find solutions that work for me. Now I understand much more about how the intergenerational trauma that has happened in my family is impacting my relationship with my son. And I had always known I had issues with my mom, but not the extent to which it affected me on an hourly basis - that module of content dropped a bomb on me that I never saw coming. I'm so glad that I learned tools in the workshop so I don't have to be ruled by that any more. I also learned what hypoarousal is - I saw that I probably spent 50% of my time in this state and had no idea it was even a thing.
I still get triggered and give in to impulse every once in a while now, but FAR less often. What I've learned in the workshop has improved my relationship with both my child and husband and even my relationship with myself. I can honestly say this is the most important and significant accomplishment I've had in my personal life... maybe ever. I wish there was a way to fully convey the value that parents who are experiencing these feelings will get out of this workshop.
- A.H.
"The way the content was curated, sequenced, and explained made a lot of sense to me. Even though some of the material is already available online, the way the modules were planned out was really helpful on my journey of learning about triggers. The pacing of the workshop helped to give me enough space to do the self-reflection, have time to think over topics, and make the connections across the weeks. I enjoyed the support from other participants and supporting them as well.
I cannot stress enough how much weight this workshop has lifted off my shoulders. It has helped me to tie in everything I've learned on my own journey of respectful parenting, understanding why I was having such a hard time even though I had all the knowledge, and given me a framework to navigate the difficult moments I have with my child more effectively.
- J.F.
"I've been determined to break the generational trauma with my own children while holding my triggers like an inevitable nuisance at best and as only human when I lost it and react. It's so incredibly freeing to consider that possibility that I could lay down those chains all together.
I knew coming in that the work to do was my own and only my own. My children are quite literally perfectly imperfect. My triggers are about ME, not them. By doing MY work I free all of us from carrying unhealed pain forward into future generations. What I'm constantly searching for is HOW to do my work. What does "do my work" even mean?
The Taming Your Triggers workshop was a clear, concise and actionable path forward. The workshop gave me very clear steps to take toward being the mother I aspire to be by helping me heal my own hurt.
Since the workshop I'm more patient and have greater capacity. And that's really saying something because it's summer; I'm with my kids 24/7 for 11 weeks!"
- K.D.
"I never would have imagined that my own childhood experiences were having such a huge impact on my daily life as a parent.
Through this workshop I've discovered that my outbursts aren't a character flaw, they're something that can be healed, creating a stronger, healthier relationship with my own children in the process."
- E.B.
"I used to feel really alone and 'out at sea' with my triggered feelings; I didn't know how much my past trauma had impacted the feelings I have right now. Now I have a plan and support structure, and I've learned really helpful tools to change the way I talk with my children in these difficult moments.
I've realized that how I feel and behave sets the tone for the rest of my family, and when I felt triggered my actions haven't been aligned with how I want them. Now I have specific tools I can use that DO align with my values and believes, and that alone makes me feel more calm and grounded.
- M.M.
"Where do I start saying how this workshop has helped me? It has helped me to identify that I was even being triggered in the first place. I thought I was just an anxious person and there was no other way. Because of this workshop, I can now identify when I am triggered and step away from my narrow perspective, understand the root of the trigger from my past, and see the bigger picture including what my partner or child might be feeling and perceiving in that moment from me.
The whole workshop was really well structured to both give me insight and help find solutions that work for me. Now I understand much more about how the intergenerational trauma that has happened in my family is impacting my relationship with my son. And I had always known I had issues with my mom, but not the extent to which it affected me on an hourly basis - that module of content dropped a bomb on me that I never saw coming. I'm so glad that I learned tools in the workshop so I don't have to be ruled by that any more. I also learned what hypoarousal is - I saw that I probably spent 50% of my time in this state and had no idea it was even a thing.
I still get triggered and give in to impulse every once in a while now, but FAR less often. What I've learned in the workshop has improved my relationship with both my child and husband and even my relationship with myself. I can honestly say this is the most important and significant accomplishment I've had in my personal life... maybe ever. I wish there was a way to fully convey the value that parents who are experiencing these feelings will get out of this workshop.
- A.H.
"The way the content was curated, sequenced, and explained made a lot of sense to me. Even though some of the material is already available online, the way the modules were planned out was really helpful on my journey of learning about triggers. The pacing of the workshop helped to give me enough space to do the self-reflection, have time to think over topics, and make the connections across the weeks. I enjoyed the support from other participants and supporting them as well.
I cannot stress enough how much weight this workshop has lifted off my shoulders. It has helped me to tie in everything I've learned on my own journey of respectful parenting, understanding why I was having such a hard time even though I had all the knowledge, and given me a framework to navigate the difficult moments I have with my child more effectively.
- J.F.
Knowledge is important...
but we're really looking for a non-cognitive shift
but we're really looking for a non-cognitive shift
I've organized the course so you'll alternate what you learn; each week you'll switch between understanding more about the causes of your triggers and learning the new tools you'll need to respond to your child from a place that's grounded in your values.
It sounds counterintuitive but it helps you gain insight into the sources of your triggers even as you're learning and practicing the tools you'll need to do things differently.
Yes, the knowledge is important. You can't do this without it.
In Western culture, we're taught that knowledge is everything:
It sounds counterintuitive but it helps you gain insight into the sources of your triggers even as you're learning and practicing the tools you'll need to do things differently.
Knowledge + Willpower = Change
Knowledge +
Willpower = Change
If you're reading this page, then probably you've tried a good number of things already - but you still haven't made the change you want to see. So you're at fault, right? Your lack of willpower is the problem.
But what I see when I work with parents is that the knowledge isn't actually the thing that shifts for them.
It's seeing other parents struggle with the same things they're struggling with...
It's understanding that they aren't alone...
It's watching insights unfold for other people that cast new light on their own struggles.
If you're reading this page, then probably you've tried a good number of things already - but you still haven't made the change you want to see. So you're at fault, right? Your lack of will power is the problem.
Life isn't perfect now, but N is triggered less often by their behavior, and on the fewer occasions when it does still happen she's able to create space to respond in a way that's aligned with her values.
Knowledge was important here - but not the most important part of N's learning.
What really brought about the shift was learning in community - seeing others struggle and imagining her own mother struggling too helped her to translate her sympathy into empathy.
It wasn't something she convinced herself to do in her brain; it was a non-cognitive shift in her body that happened as a result of being together with others, sharing stories, and learning from each other.
There's simply no other community like this, which forms around a shared dedication to healing from our own traumas while interrupting cycles of intergenerational trauma so our children don't have to suffer in the same way that we have suffered.
And for the first time in my life I wanted to make amends. I've wanted to be 'ok' before, I worked very hard to keep a relationship. But for me to clear this piece of my karmic path, I needed to forgive.
Mom: Thank you for this. It makes my life so much better. I love you too.
Me: I mean it.
Mom: I really appreciate your tell me. I worry about you and me all the time. I'm so happy now. It feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
Me: Me too ;) Sorry it's taken me so long to get here."
Life isn't perfect now, but N is triggered less often by their behavior, and on the fewer occasions when it does still happen she's able to create space to respond in a way that's aligned with her values.
It wasn't something she convinced herself to do in her brain; it was a non-cognitive shift in her body that happened as a result of being in community with others - through being together, sharing stories, and learning from each other.
You'll communicate via whatever means you prefer: some Buddies do phone or Zoom calls; some only text or email; others send Marco Polos (asynchronous video texts).
Each new module contains discussion questions to kick-start your own conversations so you'll never struggle to find something to talk about.
You don't need to have any special knowledge or insights to be an effective AccountaBuddy or to have a Buddy support you - the essential role is of listening, empathizing, and supporting the other person in finding their own solutions to the challenges they face, not in coaching them toward any kind of 'correct' answer.
That's what happened to Marci and Elizabeth.
That's why I also offer optional group coaching calls for an additional fee.
We meet for 90 minutes every other week during the 10 week workshop, on Wednesdays at 9am Pacific starting on Wednesday October 26 (recorded in case you can't attend).
We'll be a small enough group (maximum 20 participants) that if you want to talk on the call you'll have a chance to do that, and we certainly welcome active participation.
People who are new to group coaching are often shocked that they learn just as much from seeing other parents being coached from being coached themselves - in part because they realize that our struggles really are universal. Very often after one participant describes a very unique experience, another participant will speak up: "You just described me. The situation was different but my experience was exactly the same."
I am present in the online community almost every day and I do try to give detailed responses there. But if you already know that you learn best by hearing others being coached, or you want to talk with me directly about your situation, group coaching could be a good fit for you.
There is an additional fee of $250-500 to participate in the coaching calls (sliding scale)
the experience:
AccountaBuddies
That's what happened to Marci and Elizabeth.
We meet for 90 minutes every other week during the 10 week workshop, on Wednesdays at 9am Pacific starting on Wednesday October 26 (recorded in case you can't attend).
We'll be a small enough group that if you want to talk on the call you'll have a chance to do that, and we certainly welcome active participation.
There is an additional fee of $250-500 to participate in the coaching calls (sliding scale)
expensive and time-consuming, or may not be effective
Maybe you just know you want to stop yelling; maybe you know you want to parent from a place that's aligned with your values but you have no idea how to actually DO that in those stressful moments.
Here are some things you could try:
I have nothing at all against therapy; I've done it myself and found it very helpful. But for the cost of this workshop you'll get just a few therapy sessions, which is about how long it takes to get the therapist familiar with your history.
And most parents don't come out of the workshop needing more therapy; they just use the new tools they've learned.
So why not save thousands of dollars and try this first?
When you sign up for Taming Your Triggers you'll receive:
In the Taming Your Triggers workshop, you'll learn:
By the end of the online workshop, you will:
What is a trigger, and how to identify yours
Understand why your child's behavior leaves you so frustrated and angry (hint: it isn't really all about your child!)
Where triggers come from - examining previously experienced trauma, as well as the stresses of daily life
Feel triggered less often
How to use mindfulness (in just a few minutes a day!) to help you avoid being triggered in the first place, and respond more effectively when you are occasionally still triggered
Be able to create space to think after your child does something that drives you up the wall, so you don't just explode but instead respond with empathy and compassion
How to recognize when you're in frame of mind that makes you susceptible to feeling triggered, and take specific steps to make yourself more trigger-proof
Know how to understand and articulate your needs, and get these met while also meeting your child's needs - skills that set them up for success in relationships with you and others throughout their lives
How to help your child WANT to cooperate with you, so you don't have to lose your cool
Effectively repair your relationship with your child on the fewer occasions when you fall into old habits so these become strengthening rather than harmful
How do I participate in the online workshop?
Sign up on this page
Select the sliding scale payment option most appropriate for you
Read the content
Ten modules of content over the course of ten weeks starting on Monday October 17th, each designed to shift the way you see your triggers and how you can feel less controlled by them. Each module will take 5-10 minutes to read, with a 5-10 minute video as well (we keep the pace relaxed to make sure you can keep up, as well as process the emotions that may arise as you do this work).
Do the homework
Each one consists of a short quiz, exercise, or journaling prompt - most can be done in ~ 30 minutes
Participate in the community
Ask questions, get answers, and receive ideas and support from me (I'm in the community answering questions almost every day) and the other workshop participants. You'll get a chance to work with an AccountaBuddy to help keep you on track. We'll help you find someone in our private community (hosted on a non-Facebook platform) - or bring your own friend! Participate whenever you like - there's no requirement to be available at a certain time. We have folks enrolled from around the globe.
Watch the atmosphere shift in your home
• You feel triggered less often
• You're able to respond to your child more effectively when you are occasionally triggered
• You and your children are more connected and better able to work together to solve problems
Amy found that the pauses between messages with her AccountaBuddy were symbolic of the pauses she was working to create between her children's big feelings and her response.
She and her Buddy have become "dear friends," and their relationship is a safe space to be honest about the ways they feel they're falling short and support each other on their healing journeys.
I'm so sure that you'll be able to shift the way you show up in your relationship with your child that I guarantee your experience in this workshop.
If at any point up to and including the very end of the workshop you've read the modules and done the homework and you feel like you have not been able to make meaningful progress on taming your triggers, then just email support@yourparentingmojo.com and we'll give you your money back.
It's that simple.
Why am I so confident doing this?
Because I've seen the results that so many parents have had in this workshop (did you check out those testimonials?!)
When you understand the true sources of your triggered feelings and create space to respond to your child rather than just reacting, and you can repair effectively on the fewer occasions when you are still triggered, family life gets a whole lot easier!
Maybe you just know you want to stop yelling; maybe you know you want to parent from a place that's aligned with your values but you have no idea how to actually DO that in those stressful moments.
you could try:
I have nothing at all against therapy; I've done it myself and found it very helpful. But for the cost of this workshop you'll get just a few therapy sessions, which is about how long it takes to get the therapist familiar with your history.
And most parents don't come out of the workshop needing more therapy; they just use the new tools they've learned.
So why not save thousands of dollars and try this first?
When you sign up for
Taming Your Triggers
you'll receive:
In the Taming Your Triggers workshop, you'll learn:
What is a trigger, and how to identify yours
Where triggers come from - examining previously experienced trauma, as well as the stresses of daily life
How to use mindfulness (in just a few minutes a day!) to help you avoid being triggered in the first place, and respond more effectively when you are occasionally still triggered
How to recognize when you're in frame of mind that makes you susceptible to feeling triggered, and take specific steps to make yourself more trigger-proof
How to help your child WANT to cooperate with you, so you don't have to lose your cool
So by the end of the
online workshop,
you will:
Understand why your child's behavior leaves you so frustrated and angry (hint: it isn't really all about your child!)
Feel triggered less often
Be able to create space to think after your child does something that drives you up the wall, so you don't just explode but instead respond with empathy and compassion
Know how to understand and articulate your needs, and get these met while also meeting your child's needs - skills that set them up for success in relationships with you and others throughout their lives
Effectively repair your relationship with your child on the fewer occasions when you fall into old habits so these become strengthening rather than harmful
How do I
participate in the
online workshop?
Sign up on this page
Select the sliding scale payment option most appropriate for you
Read the emails
Ten modules of content over the course of ten weeks starting on Monday October 17th, each designed to shift the way you see your triggers and how you can feel less controlled by them.
Each module will take 5-10 minutes to read, with a 5-10 minute video as well (we keep the pace relaxed to make sure you can keep up, as well as process the emotions that may arise as you do this work)
Do the homework
Each one consists of a short quiz, exercise, or journaling prompt - most can be done in ~ 30 minutes
Participate in the community
Ask questions, get answers, and receive ideas and support from me and the other workshop participants (I'm in the community answering questions almost every day).
You'll get a chance to work with an AccountaBuddy to help keep you on track. We'll help you find someone in our private community (hosted on a non-Facebook platform) - or bring your own friend!
Watch the atmosphere shift in your home
• You feel triggered less often
• You're able to respond more effectively when you are occasionally triggered
• You and your children are more connected and better able to work together to solve problems
Amy found that the pauses between messages with her AccountaBuddy were symbolic of the pauses she was working to create between her children's big feelings and her response.
She and her Buddy have become "dear friends," and their relationship is a safe space to be honest about the ways they feel they're falling short and support each other on their healing journeys.
I'm so sure that you'll be able to shift the way you show up in your relationship with your child that I guarantee your experience in this workshop.
If at any point up to and including the very end of the workshop you've read the modules and done the homework and you feel like you have not been able to make meaningful progress on taming your triggers, then just email support@yourparentingmojo.com and we'll give you your money back.
It's that simple.
Why am I so confident doing this?
Because I've seen the results that so many parents have had in this workshop (did you check out those testimonials?!)
When you understand the true sources of your triggered feelings and create space to respond to your child rather than just reacting, and you can repair effectively on the fewer occasions when you are still triggered, family life gets a whole lot easier!
1. I want to do this, but I’m already spread wayyyy to thin. How much time is this going to take?
I hear you:-)
The amount of benefit you get for the work you put into this workshop is unparalleled.
You'll receive new content once a week which will take you 10 minutes to read. A homework exercise will take another 5-30 minutes.
You'll likely appreciate giving support to others and receiving it from them in our private community as you see that you are not alone on this journey.
It's a very minimal time commitment for what most parents find to be a life-changing benefit.
2. Do I need to be on Facebook to participate in the community?
No! I've been hearing from parents for a while now that they want to join my programs but don't want to be on Facebook, so I'm using a new (distraction-free!) service to host this community. No Facebook required.
3. Do you offer any kind of discount?
The sliding scale pricing incorporates a number of discounts. If you cannot afford even the lowest potential option, please get in touch at support@yourparentingmojo.com to briefly explain your situation and propose a price that can work for you.
My ability to provide this option relies on other parents' ability and willingness to pay the full fee. Please do pay the highest price you can afford.
4. I'd like to take this workshop with my partner. Do we need to pay twice?
Firstly, welcome! I definitely encourage couples to take this workshop together as it helps you to be more supportive of each other in the difficult moments because you'll both know how hard you're working on this. I ask that couples who are taking the workshop together each sign up individiually.
This enables each of you to be able to post and comment in our community, and also be matched with your own AccountaBuddy. Your partner has too much at stake in your relationship to be an effective Buddy - it sounds strange, but someone you'll never meet can provide a container for complete honesty as you're addressing trauma much more effectively than your partner can. You can always share your insights with your partner later!
I invite you to pay the price that makes the most sense for your financial situation.
5. Who will benefit most from the workshop?
If you find yourself having (what you feel to be) extreme reactions - whether these are the yelling/punishing kind, the shutting down kind, the walking away kind or even the "I'll do anything to make it stop" kind - to your child's age-appropriate behavior, this workshop is for you.
If you know all the peaceful/respectful parenting tools but just can't figure out how to apply them in the heat of the moment, this workshop is for you.
If you realize you've been trying to change your child's behavior so you won't have these kinds of reactions any more (so you're focusing on your child, instead of yourself), this workshop is for you.
6. For how long can I access the workshop materials?
You'll have lifetime access to the materials on our beautiful, custom-designed learning platform.
But please don't sign up for the workshop thinking "I don't really have time now but I'll sign up and come back to it later." I want you to gain the full benefit of being in the workshop and you're most likely to do that if you go through most of the material with the group, when we can support you in staying on track and answer your questions as you go.
7. How much access do I get to Jen during the workshop?
I'm in the community almost every day. This isn't me selling you a workshop and then waving goodbye as you go off and access all the materials by yourself, and talk only with the other participants.If you have a question, you'll hear thoughts shared by other participants, but you'll also get input from our community manager, one of our amazing peer coaches, and/or me.
We make sure you get the information and support you need to make progress on this journey.
Fortunately I type quickly, and you may even get long responses. But we are limited by how much I can physically type in the hours I have, so if you know you need a LOT of support, then you may want to add group coaching calls to your order after you purchase access to the workshop.
8. I'm still just not sure the workshop is right for me. How can I decide?
If you were my coaching client, I’d encourage you to take these steps to help you make the decision:
Ask your logical left brain: What are the benefits I would get from joining?
Ask your intuitive right brain and your body: Do I want to join? Do you feel a sense of longing or anticipation in your body as you imagine creating a different relationship with your child? Does it ‘feel’ like a fit, even if you can’t fully articulate why in words? We are taught to ignore our intuition in favor of rational arguments, but our physical sensations can tell us a lot about our experience if we know how to listen.
Ask both your logical left brain and intuitive right brain/body: What’s holding me back? Are you wondering how this could work when so many other tools you’ve tried have failed? Are you worried about needing to interact with other parents as you do this work? What’s behind these fears? Are these voices the ones that should make the decisions about your relationship with your child?
Cast your mind forward just ten weeks. What would you like your relationship with your child to be like by then? Would you like to feel confident that no matter what your child does, that you can respond (rather than react!) with calm and confidence - and that you won't wish afterward that you'd handled it differently? If so, come on in!
Have more questions? Just email support@yourparentingmojo.com and we’ll get right back to you.
Note: I'm indebted to Alexis Cunningham at Worts & Cunning Apothecary for her ideas on sliding scales that I have adopted.
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