026: Is my child lying to me? (Hint: Yes!)

Your kids don’t lie, right?  And if they did, you’d be able to tell, right?
News flash: they do.  And you probably can’t.
Dr. Kang Lee – who is one of the world’s experts in lying – tells us why children lie, how we can (try to) reduce the incidence of lying, and how we should handle it when we catch our children in a lie.


Dr. Lee’s TED talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/kang_lee_can_you_really_tell_if_a_kid_is_lying



  1. Christiane on November 8, 2017 at 12:36 PM

    Ok, so I’ll try not to lie to my daughter (on a regular basis). But what about Santa and x-mas presents? I saw a discussion in a Facebook group that left me more confused.

    • Jen Lumanlan on December 9, 2017 at 6:14 AM

      Sorry for the slow response, Christine – yours was buried among 39 spam comments. Our approach is going to be to tell our 3.5YO that Santa is a person that some people like to believe in, who does nice things for people (like bring them gifts at Christmas). Hopefully this will also help to sidestep the grandparents’ “be a good girl or Santa won’t bring you any presents.” I read that you could probably do whatever you like about Santa without doing much harm to your kids; you could tell them what is technically a lie to preserve their enjoyment and they’ll probably be a bit miffed when they find out the truth, but they’ll get over it. Do what fits best with your family’s beliefs!

  2. Martha Snyder on December 28, 2017 at 8:33 PM

    Hi, Jen. I am looking for the book referenced in the episode. Was it just any version of the George Washington / Cherry tree story?

    • Jen Lumanlan on July 11, 2018 at 8:56 PM

      Yes – any version would suffice:-)

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