10 Episodes to Get You Started
Latest Episodes & Transcripts
185: How can we raise resilient children?
A lot of parents (and teachers) are concerned right now about children’s resilience. Will they ‘bounce back’ from the difficulties of the pandemic? But is ‘bouncing back’ really the way we should be thinking about this? We have all been changed by the pandemic; shouldn’t we acknowledge this and see how we can be the…
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184: How to get on the same page as your co-parent
Do you sometimes wish your co-parent would join you on the respectful parenting journey you’re on? Would things be easier if you were on the same page? Does it seem like you try to convince them using all the research you’ve done respectful parenting…only to have them throw up the “I don’t think…
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183: What I wish I’d known about parenting
Recently, a number of parents in the Parenting Membership have posted in our community about challenges they’ve faced that they’ve navigated with grace that would have seemed insurmountable a couple of years ago. Many of these are parents of children who are already through the toddler stage, and the parents are starting to see…
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182: How to get frustrating behavior to stop
This episode addresses common challenging behaviors in children, especially their frustrating behavior. Offering hope and practical strategies for parents to navigate and resolve these issues effectively.
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181: Why ‘giving choices’ doesn’t work – and what to do instead
‘Giving choices’ is a hot tool in the respectful parenting world. In the scripts, it usually goes like this: Child: “I want a snack!” Parent: “OK! Would you like an apple or a banana?” Child: “A banana, please!” And the parent hands over the banana. …
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180: How to get your children to stop fighting
If there’s one topic that never fails to rile parents up, it’s sibling fighting. Why does it affect us so much? (There are two main reasons.) Why is this happening, and what can we do about it? There are two main reasons, and one strategy to use with each reason. That’s it!…
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Q&A #2: How do we help children who are ‘falling behind’ without using milestones?
This Q&A episode comes from a special education preschool teacher had listened to the Why We Shouldn’t Read The Your X-Year-Old Child books anymore, and wondered: My first thought was: There’s no way I’m touching that question, because I don’t have the relevant qualifications and I’ll get torn apart. I’ve been in…
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179: I Never Thought of It That Way with Mónica Guzmán and Lulu
If you’re anything like me, navigating conflict comes pretty easily to you. You always know what to say to make your point in a tone that’s firm but still inviting, right? You listen for the purpose of understanding the other person and don’t just use the time while the other person is speaking to form…
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178: How to heal your inner critic
Do you ever have that voice in your head that tells you things like: “You shouldn’t have laid in bed for so long; you should have got up earlier to get ready for the day”? Or how about: “You shouldn’t let your kids watch TV; good mothers don’t let their kids watch TV”? Or: “If…
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177: Three ways to be a good parent, even on bad days
In this episode I take a look at the main reasons why we have these hard days – from our child’s temperament to our temperament to attachment relationships, trauma, and neurodivergences – all of these intersect especially tightly on the hard days. Then we look at three ways to get through…
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176: How to begin healing shame with A.J. Bond
Do you ever feel ashamed? Many people find it among their most physical emotions, resulting in a big knot of tension or a hot flush that washes over their whole body. But what is shame, and where does it come from? I recently read a LOT of academic papers and books, and also…
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Q&A #1: Should I let my child hit me, or a pillow?
This episode kicks off a series of new episodes that I’m very excited about, which is based on listeners’ questions. My goal is to produce shorter episodes that cut across the research base to help you answer the questions that are on your mind about your child’s behavior and development. Our first question comes…
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