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192: What to do with the myth of Polyvagal Theory

By Jen Lumanlan | Sep 17, 2023

  Polyvagal Theory is everywhere these days.   Psychologists talk about it; parenting coaches talk about it; if you’re in the mental health field you’re probably referring to polyvagal theory in some way. So one would assume that there’s lots of evidence for it, right?  Well, maybe. Maybe not.   In this episode I dig…

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191: Parenting Beyond Power launch celebration

By Jen Lumanlan | Sep 5, 2023

Parenting Beyond Power is officially available today! Come join a mini-celebration with me in this podcast episode, and TODAY on Zoom at 11am Pacific/2pm Eastern/8pm Central Europe, and in-person this weekend if you’re in the Bay Area!   Do you celebrate your achievements? I don’t know about you, but I find it pretty difficult.  …

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190 – How to use the tools in Parenting Beyond Power

By Jen Lumanlan | Aug 27, 2023

One of the questions I’m asked most often about Parenting Beyond Power (preorder bonuses are available for just a few more days!) is: So when a group of listeners volunteered to get together to discuss what they got out of the book, that was the first thing I wanted to ask them.   The core…

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189: Childhood Unlimited with Virginia Mendez

By Jen Lumanlan | Aug 13, 2023

Do you try to give your children messages about gender that are aligned with your values? Do you tell your daughter that she can do anything she wants to do, and look for shows that have equal representation of male- and female-presenting characters?   If so, you’re off to a good start.   And…there’s so…

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Q&A 4: Is it safe to delay math learning?

By Jen Lumanlan | Jul 30, 2023

  In this episode we hear from listener Lindsay who wonders whether it’s safe to delay math learning, since (they’ve heard) there’s a ‘critical window’ for learning language.   Would delaying math learning mean that our child can’t catch up later? Will they develop a negative view of their own learning? What if they can’t…

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188: How to learn way beyond ‘doing well in school’

By Jen Lumanlan | Jul 16, 2023

When you listen to this episode you may get a bit of a sense of deja vu – way back in 2020, listener Kelly reached out to me and asked if I would be willing to do an episode on parental burnout, which she was struggling to navigate at the time. We ended up interviewing…

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187: What to do when my child says: “I’m booored!”?

By Jen Lumanlan | Jul 9, 2023

  Those of us in the Northern Hemisphere are in the middle of summer now, with the whirlwind of cobbled together childcare and kids at home saying: “I’m booored!”.   What’s happening for them when they’re saying this?   And, more importantly, what should we DO about it?   We don’t want to have to…

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Q&A #3: Why do you have to go to work?

By Jen Lumanlan | Jun 25, 2023

Listener Kelsey posted in the Your Parenting Mojo Facebook community a while ago asking how she should respond when her child asks: “Why does Daddy have to go to work?” She got some great answers from community members…and yet there was also a lot more to explore. I asked her to record her question so…

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186: How to meet your needs with Mara Glatzel

By Jen Lumanlan | Jun 11, 2023

We talk a lot about meeting needs on the show. And mostly we focus on meeting your child’s needs, because when those are met then your needs for peace and ease and collaboration with your child get met as well.   But of course those are not your only needs. You also have needs independent…

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185: How can we raise resilient children?

By Jen Lumanlan | May 28, 2023

A lot of parents (and teachers) are concerned right now about children’s resilience. Will they ‘bounce back’ from the difficulties of the pandemic?   But is ‘bouncing back’ really the way we should be thinking about this? We have all been changed by the pandemic; shouldn’t we acknowledge this and see how we can be the…

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184: How to get on the same page as your co-parent

By Jen Lumanlan | May 7, 2023

Do you sometimes wish your co-parent would join you on the respectful parenting journey you’re on?   Would things be easier if you were on the same page?   Does it seem like you try to convince them using all the research you’ve done respectful parenting…only to have them throw up the “I don’t think…

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183: What I wish I’d known about parenting

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 30, 2023

Recently, a number of parents in the Parenting Membership have posted in our community about challenges they’ve faced that they’ve navigated with grace that would have seemed insurmountable a couple of years ago.   Many of these are parents of children who are already through the toddler stage, and the parents are starting to see…

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