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213: How to stop using power over your child (and still get things done)

By Jen Lumanlan | May 12, 2024

Do you hate punishing (with Time Outs, withdrawing privileges, or even yelling at) your child?   Do you feel guilty after you punish them, wishing there was a way to just get them to listen?   And do bribes (“If you brush your teeth now, you can have 5 minutes of screen time…”) feel just…

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212: How to make the sustainable change you want to see in your family

By Jen Lumanlan | May 5, 2024

Here’s a little thought exercise: think back to what you were doing this time last year, right around Mother’s Day (in the U.S…I know it has already passed in other places!).   What kinds of things were your children doing that were really endearing?   What kinds of things were they doing that drove you…

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211: How to raise a child who doesn’t experience shame

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 28, 2024

Are there parts of yourself that you don’t share with other people?   Things that you think: “If people knew that about me, they wouldn’t love me / they’d think I’m a terrible person / they wouldn’t even want to be around me”?   When you mess up, does it seem like it’s not that you…

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210: The power of learning in community

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 21, 2024

Do you have a core group of parent friends who are always there for you? Friends who might not be 100% aligned with your parenting philosophy, but they’re close enough that you know that when they do offer suggestions you would at least consider doing them?   And on the days when you just want…

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209: How to get on the same page as your parenting partner

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 14, 2024

Do you ever fight with your partner?   Do you ever fight with your partner about parenting?   (Pretty much all of the couples I work with do both of those things.)   And these arguments tend to follow a pretty well-defined formula: Child misbehaves. Parent A gets overwhelmed, criticizes the child and snaps at…

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208: Three reasons why setting limits is hard (and what to do about each of them)

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 7, 2024

Do you ever wish that you know the appropriate logical consequence to give your child (aged 1-10) for each different kind of misbehavior you see?   When your toddler empties the water out of the dog’s bowl for the 10th time today… When your preschooler climbs on the table three minutes after you told them…

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207: How to not be a permissive parent

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 31, 2024

Sometimes when listeners write to me, fun things happen! 🤪 Listener Diana replied to a recent email because she had listened to quite a lot of my episodes (although more of the earlier ones than the recent ones) and she was generally on board with my approach. But she was having a hard time! Despite…

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206: How to find yourself as a parent

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 24, 2024

It can be really hard to see what’s happening in our struggles with our children. They refuse to go to bed at bedtime; we’re at home alone all day with a baby who doesn’t like being put down, and our older child who is now being aggressive, and there’s no time for us to even…

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205: How patriarchy hurts us…all of us

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 10, 2024

I have to admit, I’m a bit scared to say it… The P-word… “Patriarchy.”(Phew!  I did it!)I know some listeners find it hard to hear. I’ve spoken with more than one woman who has told me: “I sent your podcast to my husband but then he heard the word “Patriarchy” and it was all over.…

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204: How to create more time by taking care of yourself

By Jen Lumanlan | Feb 18, 2024

  Sara has always tried really hard to not just be a good parent, but a really good parent. The best parent. (When I coached her and her partner recently to create some content for the Parenting Membership that you’ll hear more about in a few weeks, her partner said to her: You hold everyone…

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203: How to move toward anti-racism with Kerry Cavers

By Jen Lumanlan | Feb 11, 2024

  Last year I hosted a panel event in Vancouver where four people who have been active in helping us to navigate toward an anti-racist, post-patriarchal, post-capitalist future came together to share their ideas in front of a live audience.   It was a beautiful event (eventually we’ll process the video of it to share…

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Q&A#5: What really matters in parenting? Part 1

By Jen Lumanlan | Feb 4, 2024

  Listener Roberta submitted a question recently on   What does the research say are the decisions that really matter in parenting?   That question immediately got my brain churning about what could be included, and how we would decide what to include, and how much of what’s included could actually be research-based.  …

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