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156: From desperation to collaboration

By Jen Lumanlan | May 15, 2022

Adrianna and Tim had read all the parenting books. (And I mean ALL the books.)   But NOTHING seemed to be working.   They were still feeling frustrated with their kids on a very regular basis.   And their kids were fighting what seemed like every second of the day.   They joined the Parenting…

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155: How to get your child to listen to you

By Jen Lumanlan | May 1, 2022

Recently someone posted a question in one of my communities:   “Is it really so wrong to want my child to just LISTEN to me sometimes?  It seems like such a no-no in gentle parenting circles, and I’m worried that my child is growing up to be entitled and won’t know how to respect authority…

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154: Authoritative isn’t the best Parenting “Style”

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 24, 2022

“On average, authoritative parents spanked just as much as the average of all other parents.  Undoubtedly, some parents can be authoritative without using spanking but we have no evidence that all or even most parents can achieve authoritative parenting without an occasional spank.”    I was fascinated by this statement, since authoritative parenting is the…

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153: Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 17, 2022

In her book Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home, Toko-pa Turner talks about the disconnection we feel from others, as well as from our own selves, because of the experiences we’ve had in our childhood.  While Toko-pa’s childhood was traumatic by any definition, even those of us who didn’t experience severe trauma were told – either verbally…

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SYPM 020: Preparing for the afterbirth with Renee Reina

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 4, 2022

I don’t know about you, but I spent a LOT of time thinking about my birth plan before Carys was born.  I mean, that thing went through multiple iterations as I read new books about the birth process and thought about what I wanted mine to be like.   And I got lucky; we didn’t…

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152: Everything you need to know about sleep training

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 27, 2022

We’ve already covered a couple of episodes on sleep, including the cultural issues associated with sleep, then more recently we talked with Dr. Chris Winter about his book The Rested Child where we looked at sleep issues in older children.   But if you have a young child who isn’t sleeping well, from the baby stage all the…

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151: The Alphabet Rockers with Kaitlin McGaw and Tommy Shepherd

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 20, 2022

The band The Alphabet Rockers consists of lead members Kaitlin McGaw and Tommy Shepherd, and a multi-racial group of children who are also involved in writing and performing.  They write about their real lived experiences and their desire to live in a world where everyone belongs. Kaitlin and Tommy are actually fellows at the Othering…

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150: How to avoid passing on an eating disorder to our child with Dr. Shiri Sadeh-Sharvit

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 6, 2022

This episode is a continuation of the series on the intersection of children and food.  We’ve also heard from Dr. Lindo Bacon on busting myths about fat, Dr. Michael Goran on how sugar affects our children, Dr. Karen Throsby with a more high-level view on the sugar topic, and Ellyn Satter on her Division of…

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SYPM 019: Why are you always so angry?

By Jen Lumanlan | Feb 20, 2022

One day Iris took her daughter to the park, with enough snacks with for both of them.  When Iris got hungry, she asked her daughter to share some of the food – but her daughter refused.  Iris knows that hunger is a factor that dramatically narrows her Window of Tolerance and makes it more likely…

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149: How to set the boundaries you need

By Jen Lumanlan | Feb 13, 2022

We’ve covered the topic of boundaries before, in our conversation with Xavier Dagba.  In my work with parents, I see that an inability to set boundaries is a MAJOR cause of feeling triggered by our child’s behavior.     When we snap at our child’s behavior, it often (not always, but often) comes somewhat later in…

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148: Is spanking a child really so bad?

By Jen Lumanlan | Feb 6, 2022

I’ve been thinking about producing this episode for several years now, and I always wished I wouldn’t need to do it.  Then every few months I’d see a post in an online community saying something like “Is spanking really that bad? I was spanked and I turned out fine” and I knew that one day…

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SYPM 018: No Set Bedtime with Gila and Katherine

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 30, 2022

When I interviewed Dr. Chris Winters last year, I described how we’ve been using a No Set Bedtime method with our daughter Carys.  He used it with his children starting in the Elementary years, and his eyes nearly fell out of his head when I told him we’d been using it since Carys was about…

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