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Latest Episodes & Transcripts

177: Three ways to be a good parent, even on bad days

By Jen Lumanlan | Feb 5, 2023

In this episode, we explore the reasons behind challenging parenting days, delving into factors such as child and parent temperament, attachment relationships, trauma, and neurodivergences. We also provide three valuable strategies for navigating these challenging days with more grace and minimizing the need for apologies.

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176: How to begin healing shame with A.J. Bond

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 29, 2023

In this episode, we explore the complex emotion of shame and its origins in our childhood experiences. Our guest, A.J. Bond, shares insights into the different types of shame and how some forms of shame can be helpful. We also delve into the crucial topic of healing from toxic shame to prevent passing it on to our own children.

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Q&A #1: Should I let my child hit me, or a pillow?

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 22, 2023

Explore the question of how to help your preschooler manage anger in this episode. Should you consider buying inflatable boxing gloves or sticking with hitting a pillow? Delve into the options and their implications to make the best choice for your child.

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175: I’ll be me; can you be you?

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 8, 2023

In this highly personal episode, I share my journey of self-diagnosis with autism and how it’s provided clarity and insight into my life experiences. You’ll hear voicemails from my therapist explaining my screening results and conversations with friends about friendship challenges. I address listener feedback, discussing how my podcast episodes are perceived as both helpful and judgmental. The goal is to help you understand yourself better and recognize that your child’s struggles reflect their needs, not a need for fixing. It’s about better understanding and meeting those needs for both you and your child.

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174: Support for Neurodivergent Parents with Dr. Rahimeh Andalibian & Sara Goodrich

By Jen Lumanlan | Dec 18, 2022

This episode is dedicated to supporting neurodivergent parents. Dr. A offers insights and resources to help identify neurodivergence in yourself or your partner and find the support you need. It’s especially relevant for parents who may have gone undiagnosed into adulthood.

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173: Why we shouldn’t read the “Your X-Year-Old Child” books any more

By Jen Lumanlan | Dec 4, 2022

In this episode, I critically examine the popular parenting books “Your One Year Old,” “Your Two Year Old,” and so on, by Louise Bates Ames. I question whether these books should be used as a guide for understanding children’s development due to their problematic cultural context.

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172: You Are Not A Sh*tty Parent with Carla Naumburg

By Jen Lumanlan | Nov 20, 2022

Struggling with the pressures of modern parenting? Feeling like you fall short of the ‘perfect parent’ ideals? In this episode, we’re joined by Carla Naumburg, author of ‘You Are Not A Sh*tty Parent,’ to explore the origins of these self-doubts, how to overcome them, and ways to bring more compassion into your parenting journey. Get ready to silence that inner critic and embrace a more understanding approach to parenting.

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171: How Good People Can Create A More Just Future with Dr. Dolly Chugh

By Jen Lumanlan | Nov 6, 2022

In this episode, Dr. Dolly Chugh, author of ‘A More Just Future,’ explores why well-intentioned individuals often act counter to their values, especially in the realm of social justice. Discover how to bridge the gap between beliefs and actions in this eye-opening discussion.

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170: How to stop procrastinating with Dr. Fuschia Sirois

By Jen Lumanlan | Oct 23, 2022

This episode delves into the reasons behind procrastination and how it’s not simply about being disorganized or lazy. By understanding the emotional aspects of procrastination, you can find effective strategies to overcome it. Discover ways to support your child in managing procrastination as they grow.

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169: How to take care of yourself first with Liann Jensen

By Jen Lumanlan | Oct 9, 2022

In this episode, Liann shares her challenging journey into motherhood, from traumatic childbirth to a miscarriage and a subsequent pregnancy, all against the backdrop of the COVID-19 pandemic. Her toddler, Hewitt, struggled to adapt to the new baby, leading to behavioral issues that left Liann feeling overwhelmed and angry.

Discover how Liann learned to navigate these challenges and underwent transformative shifts in her parenting approach. By embracing self-compassion and unconventional solutions, she found a path that worked for her family. The episode emphasizes the power of non-cognitive shifts, where new insights become an integral part of the parenting journey.

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168: Feeling Triggered by Current Events

By Jen Lumanlan | Oct 2, 2022

In this episode, we address the emotional impact of global events on parenting and offer strategies to regulate emotions and foster autonomy. If you’re dealing with triggered feelings from external factors or past traumas, this episode provides valuable insights and tools for effective navigation.

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167: Healing and Helping with Mutual Aid with Dean Spade

By Jen Lumanlan | Sep 25, 2022

In this enlightening conversation with Dean Spade, we delve into the concept of mutual aid, exploring how it offers a more effective alternative to traditional volunteering. We discuss the healing power of community and how mutual aid can address the systemic challenges we face. This episode sheds light on how these ideas relate to parenting, especially in the context of the Taming Your Triggers workshop.

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