021: Talk Sex Today!

I was scrolling down my Facebook feed recently when I saw a post in a parenting group saying “My two year-old daughter seems to have a “special relationship” with her rocking horse.  Is she masturbating?”  And I thought to myself “Whoa, two year-olds masturbate?  I gotta do an episode on this!”  So I looked around to see who is writing about this and I found Saleema Noon, who has a Master degree in sexual health education, and who co-wrote the recent book Talk Sex Today (Affiliate link), which is chock-full of information on how to talk with children of all ages about sex.

There are lots of resources available on Saleema’s website to help with these kinds of conversations, including a ‘what kids need to know and when’ list, a selection of books (for you and for your child), and other helpful tips and links.


Note: Books that Saleema recommends during the podcast are linked directly to Amazon via affiliate links.

Albert, B (2004). With one voice 2004: America’s adults and teens sound off about teen pregnancy. The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy. Retrieved from: https://thenationalcampaign.org/sites/default/files/resource-primary-download/wov_2004.pdf

Brown, L.K., & Brown, M. (2000). What’s the big secret? Talking about sex with girls and boys. New York: Little, Brown.

CBS Miami (2014, May 6). Broward school board approves sex ed overhaul. Retrieved from: http://miami.cbslocal.com/2014/05/06/broward-school-board-to-vote-on-new-sex-ed-policy/

Chicago Department of Public Health (2013, June). Sexual education policy in Illinois and Chicago. Retrieved from: https://www.cityofchicago.org/content/dam/city/depts/cdph/CDPH/HCPolicyBriefJune2013.pdf

Guttmacher Institute (2016, November 1). Sex and HIV Education: State laws and policies. Retrieved from: https://www.guttmacher.org/state-policy/explore/sex-and-hiv-education

Mayle, P. & Robins, A. (2000). Where did I come from? New York, NY: Lyle Stuart.

Noon, S. & Hickling, M. (2016). Talk Sex Today: What kids need to know and how adults can teach them. Kelowna, BC: Wood Lake Publishing

Scarry, R. (2008). This is me. New York, NY: Sterling.

Schalet, A.T. (2011). Beyond abstinence and risk: A new paradigm for adolescent sexual health. Women’s Health Issues 21(3), S5-S7. Full article available at: http://www.whijournal.com/article/S1049-3867%2811%2900008-9/fulltext

Silverberg, C, & Smyth, F. (2013). What makes a baby. New York, NY: Triangle Square.

UNESCO 2009: International technical guidance on sexuality Education: An evidence-informed approach for schools, teachers, and health educators. Retrieved from: http://unesdoc.unesco.org/images/0018/001832/183281e.pdf

Utah Administrative Code (2016, November 1). Rule R277-474. School instruction and human sexuality. Retrieved from: http://www.rules.utah.gov/publicat/code/r277/r277-474.htm#T3



  1. Dayle on May 26, 2018 at 7:04 AM

    This is an outstanding podcast. As a grandmother raising my 2 young grandchildren, this episode has done much to restore my faith in myself and to get some external validation for what seemed pretty instinctual to me. Vastly different attitudes and approach than my own childhood and, sadly, that of my daughter too, really. It’s good to feel on solid ground with this topic and the next time something is said or done that affects my confidence, I’ll remind myself to re-listen to a podcast here. Thank you for this amazing resource.

    • Jen Lumanlan on July 11, 2018 at 4:13 PM

      You’re welcome, Dayle! Honestly, I was pretty uncomfortable saying “vulva” when we first started this approach as well. I KNEW it was ridiculous but I still felt uncomfortable!

  2. Rei on July 16, 2018 at 5:55 PM

    I’m loving your podcast.
    However, I can’t help but comment on this particular one since Canada and predator was mention. I would just send a link to say my point https://torontolife.com/city/ben-levin-child-pornography-sting/

    • Jen Lumanlan on July 17, 2018 at 3:50 AM

      Thanks for the comment, Rei. I’m actually working on finding someone to talk with us about keeping children safe – thought I had someone but she’s gone quiet. I’ll get to it when I can…:-)

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