If you want to raise an independent child but you step in to fix everything they do, you may not reach your goal. Once you’ve tamed those tantrums and are more effectively parenting as a team, a sensible next step is to discuss your family's goals (having an idea of where you are going) and values (what you want life to be like as you are working towards your goals). But the most important part? Aligning these goals and values with your child, so that daily interactions (verbal and non-verbal) line up with those goals and values, so your actions aren’t unintentionally sending the opposite message.
We're not making goals just for the sake of making goals, but to help us make decisions on issues that can be so challenging right now - like healthy eating, screen time, and others. Then we can feel confident that we are living each day that's aligned with our values, and what were once aspirations are now everyday reality.