Posts by Jen Lumanlan

Ditch Punishments and Rewards for Respectful Parenting Do you hate punishing (with Time Outs, withdrawing privileges, or even yelling at) your child?   Do you feel guilty after you punish them, wishing there was a way to just get them to listen?   And do bribes (“If you brush your teeth now, you can have…

  Do you have a core group of parent friends who are always there for you? Friends who might not be 100% aligned with your parenting philosophy, but they’re close enough that you know that when they do offer suggestions you would at least consider doing them?   And on the days when you just…

  Do you ever fight with your partner?   Do you ever fight with your partner about parenting?   (Pretty much all of the couples I work with do both of those things.)   And these arguments tend to follow a pretty well-defined formula: Child misbehaves. Parent A gets overwhelmed, criticizes the child and snaps…