Screens in the time of COVID: Why it’s OK to let loose!

By Jen Lumanlan | May 17, 2020

Could more screen time actually benefit my child? Remember playing the telephone game at school and summer camp? The leader would give a message like, “There’s supposed to be a storm tonight with thunder and lightning.” Everyone whispered the message to the person next to them and by the time the statement got to the…

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Want to stop playing Tug of War with your child?

By Jen Lumanlan | April 28, 2020

“Please put your shoes away.” “I don’t want to.” “Put your shoes away now.” “No!” “If you don’t put them away you can’t watch cartoons tonight, and maybe we won’t have dessert either!” ~sigh~  (A conversation like this has never happened in your house, right?  Didn’t think so.  Mine either😉)  When we ask our child…

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How to keep your child busy (and learning!) while you work

By Jen Lumanlan | April 3, 2020

I’m guessing you’re feeling somewhere between ‘just keeping it together’ and ‘sheer panic’ right now.  Perhaps you previously had one or some of your child(ren) at home with you…and now they’re all around all the time. Or maybe you work outside the home and now you’re trying to do that inside the home…while being attacked by…

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Why The Whole-Brain Child is only half of the story

By Jen Lumanlan | March 2, 2020

Back in college, a good friend and I had our hearts broken at about the same time. I remember being embarrassed by how physically sore I felt. It wasn’t cool to have your heart broken. I knew I was supposed to tell myself the break-up was ‘for the best’ and bounce back, but I felt…

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The 4 best resilience-building strategies for children and adults

By Jen Lumanlan | February 17, 2020

Trauma from events like Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) can dramatically impact both individuals and their families long after the event itself is over. Even people who have experienced things that you wouldn’t necessarily think was a huge deal (which psychologists call “little t trauma”) can elevate a person’s risk for a wide-range of social, emotional,…

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How to break the cycle of trauma

By Jen Lumanlan | February 2, 2020

Helen Keller said: “Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.” Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) hadn’t been formally named and studied yet back in Helen Keller’s day (the landmark study was published in 1998), but she still recognized both trauma and resilience in the world. We all…

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Why children ask ‘why?’ – and how to stop it from driving you crazy

By Jen Lumanlan | January 19, 2020

‘Building a foundation for life-long learning’ is a common phrase to find in school mission statements, yet student motivation is an ongoing concern in public education: children’s engagement with learning actually decreases as time spent in traditional school increases. For parents of preschoolers, this news may be surprising.  After all, our young children have an…

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The six skills children REALLY need to succeed as adults

By Jen Lumanlan | January 5, 2020

Have you heard of Gitanjali Rao? She’s from Colorado, and she was named America’s Top Young Scientist in the Discovery Education 3M Young Scientist Challenge in 2017 – at age 11. She’s a brilliant kid. Her award-winning project was an inexpensive device that detects the presence of lead in tap water faster than currently used…

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When a crying child is a sign of good parenting

By Jen Lumanlan | December 13, 2019
A father in a yellow t-shirt gently embraces and comforts a small child with curly hair who is wearing a light green shirt.

Key Takeaways Children have meltdowns over small things because they process accumulated stress, making minor incidents trigger big emotional reactions. What’s the difference between suppressing emotions and reappraising? Suppression hides feelings while reappraisal acknowledges and manages them. Parents say “you’re ok” when children cry because adults feel uncomfortable with crying and want to stop pain,…

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The ultimate holiday gift giving guide

By Jen Lumanlan | December 5, 2019

It’s that time of year again: Black Friday (the day when we spend more than $6 billion (and $2 billion of that on smartphones) is past, and the end-of-year holidays are on the way. Everywhere you turn there are suggestions and promotions for the best gift you can buy for your loved ones: a simple…

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