How to break the cycle of trauma

By Jen Lumanlan | February 2, 2020

Helen Keller said: “Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.” Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) hadn’t been formally named and studied yet back in Helen Keller’s day (the landmark study was published in 1998), but she still recognized both trauma and resilience in the world. We all…

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Why children ask ‘why?’ – and how to stop it from driving you crazy

By Jen Lumanlan | January 19, 2020

‘Building a foundation for life-long learning’ is a common phrase to find in school mission statements, yet student motivation is an ongoing concern in public education: children’s engagement with learning actually decreases as time spent in traditional school increases. For parents of preschoolers, this news may be surprising.  After all, our young children have an…

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The six skills children REALLY need to succeed as adults

By Jen Lumanlan | January 5, 2020

Have you heard of Gitanjali Rao? She’s from Colorado, and she was named America’s Top Young Scientist in the Discovery Education 3M Young Scientist Challenge in 2017 – at age 11. She’s a brilliant kid. Her award-winning project was an inexpensive device that detects the presence of lead in tap water faster than currently used…

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When a crying child is a sign of good parenting

By Jen Lumanlan | December 13, 2019

My daughter was having a meltdown this afternoon when I picked her up from preschool. A friend had ‘taken’ a creation she had made – a plastic bottle and a tube of cardboard, and it had broken. The friend fixed the toy and gave it back to us, but the crying didn’t abate. I leaned…

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The ultimate holiday gift giving guide

By Jen Lumanlan | December 5, 2019

It’s that time of year again: Black Friday (the day when we spend more than $6 billion (and $2 billion of that on smartphones) is past, and the end-of-year holidays are on the way. Everywhere you turn there are suggestions and promotions for the best gift you can buy for your loved ones: a simple…

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The respectful parent’s guide to surviving the holidays

By Jen Lumanlan | December 5, 2019

Holidays are a time of family, friends, and passing on traditions to children. The songs, the sparkly celebration lights, families coming together – everything says that this is the most wonderful time of the year. And most of the time, it is. Although at other times it can be extremely stressful! If you have young…

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4 Ways to celebrate Thanksgiving with children – Respectfully

By Jen Lumanlan | November 15, 2019

Do you have memories of dressing up like Pilgrims and Indians for the annual Thanksgiving school play? Many Americans grew up hearing the tale of the First Thanksgiving repeated by books, teachers, and parents and came to accept this as fact although many of us are now realizing that this story has little basis in…

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6 #OwnVoices Native American books to read with children this Thanksgiving

By Jen Lumanlan | November 15, 2019

Learning the truth about Thanksgiving As I’ve mentioned before, teaching children about Thanksgiving – and even celebrating it – can be extremely problematic once you look beyond the myths that have been perpetuated about it for generations.  The traditional narrative of the Pilgrims with tall black hats and “Indians” wearing headdresses (what is it about…

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Why we feel the rage that mothers don’t talk about

By Jen Lumanlan | September 17, 2019

The rage lives in my hands, rolls down my fingers clenching to fists. I want to hurt someone. I am tears and fury and violence. I want to scream and rip open pillows, toss chairs and punch walls. I want to see my destruction — feathers floating, overturned furniture, ragged holes in drywall. Minna Dubin, The Rage…

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How to Raise a Wild Child

By Jen Lumanlan | March 24, 2019

How do you feel about getting outdoors? Do you look forward to it and love every minute of it while you’re out? Or do you dread it…the cold (or heat, depending on where you are…), the bugs, the dirt (the dirt!)? And what about the endless questions that you don’t know how to answer: “What’s…

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