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104: How to help a child to overcome anxiety

Listeners have been asking me for an episode on supporting anxious children for a loooooong time, but I was really struggling to find anyone who didn’t take a behaviorist-based approach (where behaviors are reinforced using the parent’s attention (or stickers) or the withdrawal of the parent’s attention or other ‘privileges.’).

Long-time listeners will see that these approaches don’t really fit with how we usually view behavior on the show, which is an expression of a need – if you just focus on extinguishing ‘undesirable’ behavior, you haven’t really done anything about the child’s need and – even worse – you’ve sent a message to the child that they can’t express their true feelings and needs to you.

Listener Jamie sent me a link a book called Beyond Behaviors written by today’s guest, Dr. Mona Delahooke, and I immediately knew that Dr. Delahooke was the right person to guide us through this. Listener Jamie comes onto the show for the first time as well to co-interview Dr. Delahooke so we can really deeply understand our children’s feelings and support them in meeting their true needs – and overcome their anxiety as well.

Also a reminder that the Your Child’s Learning Mojo membership closes to new members on January 31 2020 – click here to learn more!

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About the author, Jen

Jen Lumanlan (M.S., M.Ed.) hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast (www.YourParentingMojo.com), which examines scientific research related to child development through the lens of respectful parenting.

Her Finding Your Parenting Mojo membership group supports parents in putting the research into action in their real lives, with their real families. Find more info at www.YourParentingMojo.com/Membership

She also launched the most comprehensive course available to help parents decide whether homeschooling could be right for their family. Find out more about it – and take a free seven-question quiz to get a personalized assessment of your own homeschooling readiness at www.YourHomeschoolingMojo.com

And for parents who are committed to public school but recognize the limitations in that system, she has a course to help support children's learning in school at https://jenlumanlan.teachable.com/p/school

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