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102: From confusion and conflict to confident parenting

Do you ever feel ‘lost’ in your parenting?  Like you’ve read all the books (and even listened to the podcast episodes!) and you’ve agreed with them in principle, but somehow nothing ever seems to change?

Your family feels directionless; you just muddle along having the same old fights with your partner about the same old things:

  • Should you praise your child when they do what you ask, so they’ll do it again next time? Or punish them for disobeying you?
  • Should you worry about (quality or quantity of) screen time?
  • Does it matter if you and your partner have completely different parenting styles?

In this episode I interviewed Kathryn, and discussed:

  • The cultural differences between living in the U.K. and Canada (saying “please!” and certain differences in directness of humor😊)
  • How to begin to approach differences in opinion about parenting with your spouse in a way that doesn’t get their back up, but instead focuses on your (and their) values
  • The value of interacting with parents who are a little ahead of you and who can give you advice, as well as parents with younger children so you can see how far you’ve come and offer some support to them
  • How to align your daily interactions with your child with your overall values
  • The importance of bringing fun and playfulness to your parenting in a way that feels relaxed to you (and the positive impact this can have on your child)
  • How to problem solve with a child in a way that encourages them to bring their own solutions to the table

If you’re interested in learning more about the Finding Your Parenting Mojo membership, you can find all the info on it at – and also sign up for the FREE Top 5 Strategies to Tame Your Triggers webinar (scheduled for Wednesday September 30th at 11am PT) there as well.


About the author, Jen

Jen Lumanlan (M.S., M.Ed.) hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast (, which examines scientific research related to child development through the lens of respectful parenting.

Her Finding Your Parenting Mojo membership group supports parents in putting the research into action in their real lives, with their real families. Find more info at

She also launched the most comprehensive course available to help parents decide whether homeschooling could be right for their family. Find out more about it – and take a free seven-question quiz to get a personalized assessment of your own homeschooling readiness at

And for parents who are committed to public school but recognize the limitations in that system, she has a course to help support children's learning in school at

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