Modern Parenting

214: Ask Alvin Anything: Part 2

By Jen Lumanlan | May 26, 2024

Want to know how my autism self-diagnosis has affected my relationship with my husband? (I will apologize to autistic listeners here as an ableist perspective is still something we’re working on, and he also uses some outdated terminology probably from an old book he’s started twice – but not yet finished – on supporting partners…

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213: How to stop using power over your child (and still get things done)

By Jen Lumanlan | May 12, 2024

Do you hate punishing (with Time Outs, withdrawing privileges, or even yelling at) your child?   Do you feel guilty after you punish them, wishing there was a way to just get them to listen?   And do bribes (“If you brush your teeth now, you can have 5 minutes of screen time…”) feel just…

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211: How to raise a child who doesn’t experience shame

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 28, 2024

Are there parts of yourself that you don’t share with other people?   Things that you think: “If people knew that about me, they wouldn’t love me / they’d think I’m a terrible person / they wouldn’t even want to be around me”?   When you mess up, does it seem like it’s not that you…

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210: The power of learning in community

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 21, 2024

Do you have a core group of parent friends who are always there for you? Friends who might not be 100% aligned with your parenting philosophy, but they’re close enough that you know that when they do offer suggestions you would at least consider doing them?   And on the days when you just want…

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209: How to get on the same page as your parenting partner

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 14, 2024

Do you ever fight with your partner?   Do you ever fight with your partner about parenting?   (Pretty much all of the couples I work with do both of those things.)   And these arguments tend to follow a pretty well-defined formula: Child misbehaves. Parent A gets overwhelmed, criticizes the child and snaps at…

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