Respectful Parenting
214: Ask Alvin Anything: Part 2
Want to know how my autism self-diagnosis has affected my relationship with my husband? (I will apologize to autistic listeners here as an ableist perspective is still something we’re working on, and he also uses some outdated terminology probably from an old book he’s started twice – but not yet finished – on supporting partners…
Listen to the full episode213: How to stop using power over your child (and still get things done)
Do you hate punishing (with Time Outs, withdrawing privileges, or even yelling at) your child? Do you feel guilty after you punish them, wishing there was a way to just get them to listen? And do bribes (“If you brush your teeth now, you can have 5 minutes of screen time…”) feel just…
Listen to the full episode211: How to raise a child who doesn’t experience shame
Are there parts of yourself that you don’t share with other people? Things that you think: “If people knew that about me, they wouldn’t love me / they’d think I’m a terrible person / they wouldn’t even want to be around me”? When you mess up, does it seem like it’s not that you…
Listen to the full episode210: The power of learning in community
Do you have a core group of parent friends who are always there for you? Friends who might not be 100% aligned with your parenting philosophy, but they’re close enough that you know that when they do offer suggestions you would at least consider doing them? And on the days when you just want…
Listen to the full episode209: How to get on the same page as your parenting partner
Do you ever fight with your partner? Do you ever fight with your partner about parenting? (Pretty much all of the couples I work with do both of those things.) And these arguments tend to follow a pretty well-defined formula: Child misbehaves. Parent A gets overwhelmed, criticizes the child and snaps at…
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