Socialization

176: How to begin healing shame with A.J. Bond

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 29, 2023

Do you ever feel ashamed? Many people find it among their most physical emotions, resulting in a big knot of tension or a hot flush that washes over their whole body. But what is shame, and where does it come from?     I recently read a LOT of academic papers and books, and also…

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175: I’ll be me; can you be you?

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 8, 2023

In this most personal episode I’ve ever created, I’ll share with you how my autism self-diagnosis has helped me to understand the experiences I’ve had in ways that bring a great deal more clarity and insight than I’ve had up to now.   In addition to hearing from me, you’ll hear the actual voicemail the…

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167: Healing and Helping with Mutual Aid with Dean Spade

By Jen Lumanlan | Sep 25, 2022

In this conversation with Dean Spade we resolve a long-running challenge in my understanding: when we talked with Dr. john powell on the topic of Othering and Belonging a couple of years ago we discussed how volunteering promotes othering, because it perpetuates the idea that the volunteer is a person with resources to give, and…

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159: Supporting Girls’ Relationships with Dr. Marnina Gonick

By Jen Lumanlan | Jun 19, 2022

I’ve been wanting to do this episode for a loooong time. We covered episodes a long time ago on how children form social groups, and what happens when they exclude each other from play, but I wanted to do an episode exploring this issue related to slightly older girls, and from a cultural perspective. There…

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157: How to find your village

By Jen Lumanlan | May 19, 2022

For the first time, in this episode I bow out and and let listeners Jenny and Emma take over, who wanted to share how they’ve been supporting each other over the last few months.   They started from pretty different points: Emma wasn’t having parenting struggles, but often over-communicated with her husband and he would…

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