Socialization

167: Healing and Helping with Mutual Aid with Dean Spade

By Jen Lumanlan | Sep 25, 2022

In this conversation with Dean Spade we resolve a long-running challenge in my understanding: when we talked with Dr. john powell on the topic of Othering and Belonging a couple of years ago we discussed how volunteering promotes othering, because it perpetuates the idea that the volunteer is a person with resources to give, and…

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157: How to find your village

By Jen Lumanlan | May 19, 2022

For the first time, in this episode I bow out and and let listeners Jenny and Emma take over, who wanted to share how they’ve been supporting each other over the last few months.   They started from pretty different points: Emma wasn’t having parenting struggles, but often over-communicated with her husband and he would…

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155: How to get your child to listen to you

By Jen Lumanlan | May 1, 2022

Recently someone posted a question in one of my communities:   “Is it really so wrong to want my child to just LISTEN to me sometimes?  It seems like such a no-no in gentle parenting circles, and I’m worried that my child is growing up to be entitled and won’t know how to respect authority…

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SYPM 014: The power of healing in community

By Jen Lumanlan | Aug 1, 2021

When you’re learning a new skill, information is critical.  Without that, it’s very difficult to make any kind of meaningful change.   But I see a parallel between learning new skills and respectful parenting: I like to say that love between parent and child is necessary but not sufficient – and that respect is the…

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141: The Body Keeps The Score with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk

By Jen Lumanlan | Jul 25, 2021

How does trauma affect us?   Yes, we feel it in our brains – we get scared, frustrated, and angry – often for reasons we don’t fully understand.   But even if our brains have managed to cover up the trauma; to paper a veneer over it so everything seems fine, that doesn’t mean everything…

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