Socialization

131: Implicit Bias with Dr. Mahzarin Banaji

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 7, 2021

Explicitly, nobody really believes in gender stereotypes anymore, but when we look at the world, and who’s where and how much money people make, and so on, it still seems to be there. And the answer to that is yeah, because it’s there. It’s just not something we say. It’s more of something we do.…

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128: Should I Redshirt My Child?

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 24, 2021

Parents – worried about their child’s lack of maturity or ability to ‘fit in’ in a classroom environment – often ask me whether they should hold their child back a year before entering kindergarten or first grade.  In this episode I review the origins of the redshirting phenomenon (which lie in Malcolm Gladwell’s book Outliers,…

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Responding to the U.S. Capitol Siege

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 10, 2021

In this ad hoc episode, I outline a response to the U.S. Capitol siege.  I provide some suggestions for ways to talk with your child about the events, but also ask that you take two more steps: (1) examine your own role in these events, even if you condemn them yourself (as I do); (2)…

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126: Problem Solving with Dr. Ross Greene

By Jen Lumanlan | Dec 6, 2020

Let’s talk problem solving!  Many of us have tried it, but it’s so common to get stuck…and to think that the method doesn’t work, and then return in exasperation to the methods we’d been using all along.  These often involve coercion, or forcing the child to do something they don’t want to do – but…

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125: Should you worry about technoference?

By Jen Lumanlan | Nov 20, 2020

I often hear two related ideas about adults’ screen usage around children. Sometimes the parent asking the question guiltily confesses to using screens around their children more than they would like, and to using screens as a momentary escape from the demands of parenting. Or the parent asking the question feels that they have found…

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