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208: Three reasons why setting limits is hard (and what to do about each of them)

By Jen Lumanlan | Apr 7, 2024

Do you ever wish that you know the appropriate logical consequence to give your child (aged 1-10) for each different kind of misbehavior you see?   When your toddler empties the water out of the dog’s bowl for the 10th time today… When your preschooler climbs on the table three minutes after you told them…

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207: How to not be a permissive parent

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 31, 2024

Learn about permissive parenting styles, their characteristics, and effects on children. Discover how to practice respectful parenting by being gentle yet firm, setting clear boundaries, and fostering a healthy parent-child relationship.

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206: How to find yourself as a parent

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 24, 2024

It can be really hard to see what’s happening in our struggles with our children. They refuse to go to bed at bedtime; we’re at home alone all day with a baby who doesn’t like being put down, and our older child who is now being aggressive, and there’s no time for us to even…

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205: How patriarchy hurts us…all of us

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 10, 2024

I have to admit, I’m a bit scared to say it… The P-word… “Patriarchy.”(Phew!  I did it!)I know some listeners find it hard to hear. I’ve spoken with more than one woman who has told me: “I sent your podcast to my husband but then he heard the word “Patriarchy” and it was all over.…

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204: How to create more time by taking care of yourself

By Jen Lumanlan | Feb 18, 2024

  Sara has always tried really hard to not just be a good parent, but a really good parent. The best parent. (When I coached her and her partner recently to create some content for the Parenting Membership that you’ll hear more about in a few weeks, her partner said to her: You hold everyone…

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203: How to move toward anti-racism with Kerry Cavers

By Jen Lumanlan | Feb 11, 2024

Last year I hosted a panel event in Vancouver where four people who have been active in helping us to navigate toward an anti-racist, post-patriarchal, post-capitalist future came together to share their ideas in front of a live audience. It was a beautiful event (eventually we’ll process the video of it to share with you!),…

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Q&A#5: What really matters in parenting? Part 1

By Jen Lumanlan | Feb 4, 2024

Listener Roberta submitted a question recently on YourParentingMojo.com/question: What does the research say are the decisions that really matter in parenting?   That question immediately got my brain churning about what could be included, and how we would decide what to include, and how much of what’s included could actually be research-based.   The episode…

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202: How to Heal from Adverse Childhood Experiences with Dr. Nadine Burke Harris and Jackie Thu-Huong Wong

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 28, 2024

My mom died when I was 10, and for a while people in our small village would look at my sister and me as if we were ‘special’ in some weird way. By the time I was a young adult that was just one of a stew of difficult experiences I’d had, and I also…

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201: How to create a culture of consent in our families

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 14, 2024

When Carys was about three, I forced a dropper of antibiotics into her mouth to just get her to take it, so she would start to feel better. We were both tired and hangry and I didn’t see another path forward, when she was refusing something that I knew would help her. What other choice…

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200: Ask Alvin Anything (Part 1!)

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 1, 2024

When I saw that our 200th episode was coming up, I knew I wanted to do something special to celebrate. Listeners called in with questions for me for our 100th episode, which was released in September 2019. The numbering is a bit fuzzy, I have to admit – we’re actually well over 200 episodes because…

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199: Digging Deeper into Parenting Beyond Power with Rachel Disney

By Jen Lumanlan | Dec 10, 2023

Listener Rachel also reached out with some questions, and due to my book tour schedule it took us a little longer to get a call on the calendar, but eventually – on a day in Seattle when I also had a coaching call and two two-hour workshops based on the book – we made it…

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198: The connection between your ideas about childhood and politics with Dr. Toby Rollo

By Jen Lumanlan | Nov 26, 2023

A couple of years ago I was watching a session of the Alliance for Self-Directed Education‘s online conference by unschooling advocate Idzie Desmerais. At some point she dropped a quote into her presentation that I jotted down but didn’t think much of at the time:   What if your ideas about politics were just your…

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