Many parents worry about this (and usually tell me after they sign up). The short answer is: change is hard, and nobody does it alone. Our culture says that knowledge + willpower = change, so if you have the knowledge and haven’t made change, clearly you lack willpower.

In the membership, we know that change becomes possible once you feel safe in a relationship - with a framework, with (gentle!) accountability, and with people who are doing the same work alongside you. That's what the ACTion groups, the coaching calls, and the community are all there for. You don't have to be ready, and you don’t have to do all of it. You just have to show up. We’ll guide you toward the resources that will meet you where you are.

Most parents who join have tried other things first. The reason they didn't work usually isn't a personal failing - it's that the approach didn't have a way to bridge the gap between knowing and doing, especially under pressure. That gap is exactly what the membership is designed to close.

The framework is consistent across all the challenges you’ll face, both with your kids and other relationships in your life. The community holds you to it, and the ACTion group gives you somewhere to work through the week’s challenges - and celebrate what went well.

If you want things to be different, we’ll be there with you every step of the way.

The membership is built for exactly this. Every piece of content is under ten minutes, available as video, audio, or transcript, and you work through what's relevant to you when it's relevant to you. There's no such thing as ‘behind.’

Many parents who join feeling overwhelmed go right into an ACTion group and completely ignore the content. That 40 minutes a week gives back more time than it costs, because you’ll stop spinning on the same problems.

Then, when you’re ready, the content will be there for you.

Most parents want the issues in a membership to be aligned with what they're experiencing. Because we focus on kids aged 1-10 we spend a lot more time talking about sleep, potty learning, elementary-aged peer struggles, and Minecraft than dating and social media.

That said, there is a core group with older kids - you could always try the membership for a month and see if it's a fit.

Yes. A significant portion of members are parenting neurodivergent or highly sensitive children, and many parents are neurodivergent themselves. I have specialized training in working with neurodivergent families (ADHD and Autism/PDA).

The framework we use is built around understanding what's underneath behavior - which means it works especially well when standard advice doesn't. We aren’t trying to get your child to comply; we’re trying to help your child feel safe and regulated enough to collaborate.

“I’ve found it very challenging to seek out support, because very few people understand PDA. Everyone just tells me to set firmer boundaries and ‘be in charge,’ and it doesn’t work. I appreciate your knowledge and understanding and figuring out what will work for all of us.” - Parent Caitlyn

You’re absolutely welcome to dive right in and ask your first question as soon as you join…and you’re equally welcome to lurk for a while first. You never have to say anything on the coaching calls, and you’ll likely find you get a lot of watching other people being coached (or you can watch the recordings).

Many new members are skeptical about the value they’ll get from ACTion groups. They’re completely optional - and you can always give one a try and then bow out if it isn’t for you. Software engineer Katherine said of her ACTion group: "I'm a huge introvert and I look forward to this group every single week."

The vast majority of parents I meet express longing for a village to support them. Well: you found us.

Probably more than you'd expect. While we start with fundamental skills to improve your relationship with your child, we progress from there into working on communication with your partner, so someone doesn’t get triggered every time you talk about parenting disagreements.

We also work on all the typical parenting challenges (screen time, raising healthy eaters, sibling/peer difficulties) and wrap up your first year digging into shame - in you, and in your child. When you can see how each of you is impacted by shame and begin to heal that pain, you show up entirely differently in your own life.

The membership addresses this directly. The problem-solving framework works on adult relationships as well as with children - the same principles apply. I'm trained in the Gottman Method for couples, and partner dynamics come up regularly on the coaching calls. I won’t tell you how to convince your partner that your approach is the right one - but I will help you to see things from their perspective, and for them to see yours, and for the two of you to find a path forward that meets both of your needs.

You don't need your partner to be on board to join. Many members start by themselves and find that as things shift at home, their partner's skepticism shifts too.

And if you’re a single/only parent, the exact same tools work with ex-partners and anyone else you’re parenting alongside - including your own parents.

Most partners who are skeptical about parenting support aren't trying to be difficult. They really do believe things are basically fine - even when the difficult moments at home tell a different story. That gap between how you each see things (and between how parenting is currently going and how you want it to be) can be exhausting to navigate.

A few things that help: at $59/month, this sits below the threshold most partners flag as a significant household expense - for many families it's within the range one person can decide on independently. The membership can be canceled anytime; with the monthly option you have maximum flexibility. And sometimes the most persuasive thing isn't a conversation before you join - it's the change your partner notices after you do.

If you'd find it useful to think this through with someone before joining, my Community Manager Denise is available for a free 20-minute call. You can book that call here, but you don't have to wait for your partner to be on board to get started.

The memberships can be cancelled anytime, for any reason. The monthly option gives you the most flexibility; the annual option gives you two months free.

If you join and something isn't working, email us and we'll sort it out. The free call with Denise before you join is also available if you want to check there’s a fit before you decide - no sales pitch; just guidance in thinking it through.You can book that call here.

This combination of evidence-based research and respectful parenting principles sets our program apart from other online parenting classes that rely on outdated behaviorist approaches.

I will also say that I bring a commitment to helping all of us heal from the harmful impacts of White supremacy, patrairchy, and capitalism. It isn't something that I bring up every time I offer thoughts on the parenting challenges you're facing, but I will mention it where it seems especially relevant and where I know the person is interested in and receptive to deepening their understanding of these topics. These social forces are perpetuated - or healed - within our families, so the Parenting Membership can be a key component of understanding this better if that's something you'd like to do.

A few things. You can talk to me directly - on group coaching calls, and in the community. This isn’t a membership with one person’s face on the front but you never meet them once you’ve paid.

We have a nobody-left-behind philosophy. You're not one of tens of thousands of members that nobody can possibly keep track of. After you join, you’ll get a 20 minute call with my Community Manager Denise to point you toward the resources that will help you most. I’ll know your name, your kids' names, and what you're working on from one coaching call to the next. If you disengage we’ll see it, and we’ll check in to make sure you’re OK. You’re a real person to us - and it costs time and resources to provide that level of support.

We also go places most parenting support doesn't - we’ll look at your relationship with your partner, your own history, and the patterns you're trying to break. We’re not just fixing your child’s behavior. We’re doing deep work, which reflects a different price.