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Start Here: A Guide to Research-Based,
Collaborative Parenting
Collaborative Parenting
These 10 short episodes will help you understand how to move from power struggles to collaboration with your child. You'll learn to see difficult behavior as communication about needs, find strategies that work for everyone, and build a relationship based on connection instead of control.
Total time: About 2.5 hours | Episode length: ~15 minutes each
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These 10 short episodes will help you understand how to move from power struggles to collaboration with your child. You'll learn to see difficult behavior as communication about needs, find strategies that work for everyone, and build a relationship based on connection instead of control.
Total time: About 2.5 hours |
Episode length: ~15 minutes each
How to Listen
On this page:
Click play on any episode below to listen right here.
In your podcast app:
Sign up for the private feed to have all 10 episodes delivered to your favorite podcast app. You can listen at your own pace, skip around if something specific calls to you, or follow the sequence from beginning to end.
The Foundation: Understanding the Approach
Episode 1: Welcome to Your Parenting Mojo
What you'll learn: Who I am, why I started this work, and how understanding feelings and needs makes parenting soooo much easier.
Why start here: This episode introduces the core idea that will show up in every other episode - that behavior is communication about unmet needs, and both your needs and your child's needs matter equally.
Episode 2: Why Kids Don't Listen (And What's Underneath It)
What you'll learn: Your child isn't being defiant when they resist. They're trying to meet important needs.
The difference you'll notice: You'll stop asking "How do I get my child to listen?" and start asking "What does my child need right now?," which encourages your child to collaborate with you.
Episode 3: The Secret to Getting Cooperation (Without Yelling or Bribes)
What you'll learn: How to have problem-solving conversations that create real collaboration. You'll learn specific questions to ask when your child resists, and how to find strategies that meet both of your needs.
How this helps: Morning battles, bedtime struggles, and daily conflicts get easier when you're working together instead of trying to control your child's behavior.
The Foundation:
Understanding the Approach
Understanding the Approach
Episode 1: Welcome to
Your Parenting Mojo
Your Parenting Mojo
What you'll learn: Who am, why I started this work, and how understanding feelings and needs makes parenting soooo much easier.
Why start here: This episode introduces the core idea that will show up in every other episode - that behavior is communication
about unmet needs, and both your needs and your child's needs matter equally.
Episode 2: Why Kids Don't Listen
(And What's Underneath It)
(And What's Underneath It)
What you'll learn: Your child isn't being defiant when they resist. They're trying to meet important needs.
The difference you'll notice: You'll stop asking "How do I get my child to listen?" and start asking "What does my child need right now?" This encourages your child to collaborate with you.
Episode 3: The Secret to Getting Cooperation (Without Yelling or Bribes)
What you'll learn: How to have problem-solving conversations that create real collaboration. You'll learn specific questions to ask when your child resists, and how to find strategies that meet both of your needs.
How this helps: Morning battles, bedtime struggles, and daily conflicts get easier when you're working together instead of trying to control your child's behavior.
Working with Yourself
Episode 4: When You Feel Triggered by Your Child's Behavior
What you'll learn: What's happening in your nervous system when you snap at your kids, and how to catch it earlier so you can respond instead of react.
The result: You'll notice your physical signals of stress sooner, which gives you more choice about what happens next. You'll also learn why repair matters more than perfection.
Episode 5: Meeting Your Own Needs as a Parent
What you'll learn: Your child isn't responsible for making your life easier. When you meet your own needs directly instead of trying to change your child's behavior, you both benefit.
You'll find yourself: Feeling less resentful when your child doesn't cooperate, because you'll have other ways to meet your needs for rest, ease, and peace.
Episode 6: Limits vs. Boundaries
What you'll learn: Limits try to change your child's behavior. Boundaries protect your own well-being. Understanding the difference reduces power struggles dramatically.
Why this matters: You'll set far fewer limits once you see that boundaries often work better. And when you do need to set a limit, you'll know why it's truly necessary. Fewer limits creates a willingness in kids to collaborate.
Working with Yourself
Episode 4: When You Feel Triggered by Your Child's Behavior
What you'll learn: What's happening in your nervous system when you snap at your kids, and how to catch it earlier so you can respond instead of react.
The result: You'll notice your physical signals of stress sooner, which gives you more choice about what happens next. You'll also learn why repair matters more than perfection.
Episode 5: Meeting Your Own Needs as a Parent
What you'll learn: Your child isn't responsible for making your life easier. When you meet your own needs directly instead of trying to change your child's behavior, you both benefit.
You'll find yourself: Feeling less resentful when your child doesn't cooperate, because you'll have other ways to meet your needs for rest, ease, and peace.
Episode 6: Limits vs. Boundaries
What you'll learn: Limits try to change your child's behavior. Boundaries protect your own well-being. Understanding the difference reduces power struggles dramatically.
Why this matters: You'll set far fewer limits once you see that boundaries often work better. And when you do need to set a limit, you'll know why it's truly necessary. Fewer limits creates a willingness in kids to collaborate.
Expanding the Circle
Episode 7: When You and Your Partner Parent Differently
What you'll learn: How to find alignment with your partner when you disagree about parenting approaches. You'll learn to understand each other's needs and values instead of arguing about strategies.
How this helps: Parenting conflicts decrease when you're both working to meet everyone's needs, even if your approaches look different on the surface.
Expanding the Circle
Episode 7: When You and Your Partner
Parent Differently
Parent Differently
What you'll learn: How to find alignment with your partner when you disagree about parenting approaches. You'll learn to understand each other's needs and values instead of arguing about strategies.
How this helps: Parenting conflicts decrease when you're both working to meet everyone's needs, even if your approaches look different on the surface.
The Bigger Picture
Episode 8: What "Research-Based" Means at Your Parenting Mojo
What you'll learn: How I use research as a starting point for critical thinking, not as a rulebook. You'll learn which questions to ask about studies, and why your lived experience matters just as much as research findings.
The result: You'll feel more confident making parenting decisions that align with your values, even when they differ from what the research seems to recommend.
Episode 9: How Your Parenting Shapes the World Around You
What you'll learn: When you see your child's needs as just as important as yours, you're teaching them something profound about how people can be with each other. This ripples outward into their relationships and eventually into creating a more equitable world.
Why this matters: You'll see how this work extends beyond your family, and how teaching children that everyone's needs matter helps us build the kind of world we want to live in.
Episode 10: Your Next Step
What you'll learn: Reflect on what's resonated with you in this series, where you've already started to change, and how to keep practicing with support from the Your Parenting Mojo community.
The result: You'll have clarity about your next step in this journey, whether that's continuing to practice on your own or joining a community of parents walking the same path.
The Bigger Picture
Episode 8: What "Research-Based" Means at Your Parenting Mojo
What you'll learn: How I use research as a starting point for critical thinking, not as a rulebook. You'll learn which questions to ask about studies, and why your lived experience matters just as much as research findings.
The result: You'll feel more confident making parenting decisions that align with your values, even when they differ from what the research seems to recommend.
Episode 9: How Your Parenting Shapes the World Around You
What you'll learn: When you see your child's needs as just as important as yours, you're teaching them something profound about how people can be with each other. This ripples outward into their relationships and eventually into creating a more equitable world.
Why this matters: You'll see how this work extends beyond your family, and how teaching children that everyone's needs matter helps us build the kind of world we want to live in.
Episode 10: Your Next Step
What you'll learn: Reflect on what's resonated with you in this series, where you've already started to change, and how to keep practicing with support from the Your Parenting Mojo community.
The result: You'll have clarity about your next step in this journey, whether that's continuing to practice on your own or joining a community of parents walking the same path.
What Comes Next?
Want to see how this research-informed approach works in real time? Join me for a Beyond the Behavior call.
These are live group calls every second Wednesday of the month (9-10:30am Pacific) where parents bring their real challenges - the moments where you're stuck, confused, or just not sure what's happening underneath your child's behavior.
I’ll coach you and other parents to understand behavior as communication, identify everyone's needs, and find strategies that meet those needs.
Many parents find that watching others get coached helps them uncover insights about their own situations, too.
IT'S TOTALLY FREE WITH NO COMMITMENT. JOIN ANYTIME YOU HAVE A CHALLENGE.
Or continue exploring with the main Your Parenting Mojo podcast, yourparentingmojo.com/episodes/, where I interview researchers and share tools you can use right away.
What Comes Next?
Want to see how this research-informed approach works in real time? Join me for a Beyond the Behavior call.
These are live group calls every second Wednesday of the month (9-10:30am Pacific) where parents bring their real challenges - the moments where you're stuck, confused, or just not sure what's happening underneath your child's behavior.
I’ll coach you and other parents to understand behavior as communication, identify everyone's needs, and find strategies that meet those needs.
Many parents find that watching others get coached helps them uncover insights about their own situations, too.
IT'S TOTALLY FREE WITH NO COMMITMENT. JOIN ANYTIME YOU HAVE A CHALLENGE.
Or continue exploring with the main
Your Parenting Mojo podcast, yourparentingmojo.com/episodes/, where I interview researchers and share tools you can use right away.
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