Growth & Development

180: How to get your children to stop fighting

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 26, 2023

If there’s one topic that never fails to rile parents up, it’s sibling fighting.   Why does it affect us so much?  (There are two main reasons.)   Why is this happening, and what can we do about it?  There are two main reasons, and one strategy to use with each reason.    That’s it!…

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Q&A #2: How do we help children who are ‘falling behind’ without using milestones?

By Jen Lumanlan | Mar 19, 2023

This Q&A episode comes from a special education preschool teacher had listened to the Why We Shouldn’t Read The Your X-Year-Old Child books anymore, and wondered:      My first thought was: There’s no way I’m touching that question, because I don’t have the relevant qualifications and I’ll get torn apart.   I’ve been in…

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Q&A #1: Should I let my child hit me, or a pillow?

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 22, 2023

This episode kicks off a series of new episodes that I’m very excited about, which is based on listeners’ questions. My goal is to produce shorter episodes that cut across the research base to help you answer the questions that are on your mind about your child’s behavior and development.   Our first question comes…

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175: I’ll be me; can you be you?

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 8, 2023

In this most personal episode I’ve ever created, I’ll share with you how my autism self-diagnosis has helped me to understand the experiences I’ve had in ways that bring a great deal more clarity and insight than I’ve had up to now.   In addition to hearing from me, you’ll hear the actual voicemail the…

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173: Why we shouldn’t read the “Your X-Year-Old Child” books any more

By Jen Lumanlan | Dec 4, 2022

Have you ever seen recommendations for the books called Your One Year Old, Your Two Year Old, and so on, by Louise Bates Ames?  Every few weeks I see parents posting in online communities asking about some aspect of their child’s behavior that is confusing or annoying to them, and somebody responds: “You should read…

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