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Respectful Parenting

075: Should we Go Ahead and Heap Rewards On Our Kid?

By Jen Lumanlan | Oct 14, 2018

A couple of months ago, an article by journalist Melinda Wenner Moyer – whose work I normally greatly respect – started making the rounds on Facebook.  Then (knowing my approach to parenting) a couple of readers emailed it to me and asked me what I thought of it. The article was called Go Ahead: Heap…

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056: Beyond "You’re OK!": Modeling Emotion Regulation

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 28, 2018

I hear a huge crash. It’s my favorite glass vase.  I hear “I didn’t mean to hurt it, Mommy!  It just fell!” as I run full-pelt from the other end of the house. It was a family heirloom passed down by my grandmother.  I’ve asked her not to touch it a hundred times.  I am…

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054: Three reasons not to say "You’re OK!"

By Jen Lumanlan | Dec 31, 2017

“I hear parents on the playground all the time saying “You’re OK!” after their child falls over. Often it does make the child stop crying…but doesn’t it invalidate the child’s feelings?” It turns out that this question is related to a skill that psychologists call emotional regulation, and learning how to regulate emotions is one…

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046: How to potty train a child

By Jen Lumanlan | Aug 27, 2017

When should I start potty training?  What books should I read?  Can I do it in a day (or a week)?  Do I need stickers (for rewards)?  Does it have to be stressful? I get these kinds of questions pretty often, and I’d resisted doing an episode on potty training because there are so many…

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022: How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: Author Interview!

By Jen Lumanlan | Jan 19, 2017

Have you read the now-classic book How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk?  Ever wished there was a version that would help you with younger children who perhaps aren’t quite ready for a detailed problem-solving session? Well now there is!  Adele Faber is a co-author of the original book;…

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