Five practical steps for parents to break the Kavanaugh cycle

By Jen Lumanlan | September 28, 2018

One in three women will experience sexual violence. Where do men learn it’s okay to force sex? Where do women learn their worth comes from being wanted? Parents: it starts with us.

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Social Exclusion: What to do when a child says "I never want to play with [Friend] again!"

By Jen Lumanlan | September 22, 2018

“I’m never playing with her again!” sounds like typical preschooler drama, but relational aggression causes real harm to both kids. Research shows most parents and teachers accidentally encourage it by ignoring the damage it does.

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Is your child’s school separation anxiety a real problem – or not?

By Jen Lumanlan | September 9, 2018

Your child clings to you at drop-off, screaming “Don’t go!” Is this normal transition tears or a real problem? The key indicator happens fifteen minutes after you leave and most parents never find out.

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An age-by-age guide to teaching your child to share

By Jen Lumanlan | July 25, 2018
A blonde child with bangs on the left is looking at a toy elephant being held out by another child with curly hair on the right.

Your toddler refuses to share and you’re embarrassed at the playground. But forcing them to “share” actually teaches obedience, not generosity. Most kids can’t truly share until age 3.5 – here’s what to do instead.

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Why isn’t my child grateful?

By Jen Lumanlan | June 28, 2018

Your child throws aside expensive gifts and pouts at Disney World. You’re mortified, but here’s the truth: young children literally cannot feel gratitude. Their brains aren’t developed enough yet – and forcing it backfires.

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How to stop preschooler tantrums

By Jen Lumanlan | June 22, 2018

Your preschooler melts down over the same things repeatedly – breakfast choices, getting dressed, bedtime routines. What if one strategic “giving in” during a tantrum could prevent all future tantrums about that issue forever?

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How to get a toddler to brush teeth!

By Jen Lumanlan | June 9, 2018

Tired of toothbrushing battles with your toddler? The usual tricks – choices, games, bribes – aren’t working anymore. Discover how one surprising conversation technique transformed our family’s biggest bedtime struggle into effortless cooperation. The solution might shock you.

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Don’t homeschool because you’re afraid of school shootings

By Jen Lumanlan | May 4, 2018

Thinking about homeschooling because of school safety fears? That’s not the right reason. But there are five powerful arguments for pulling your kids out that have nothing to do with shootings and everything to do with better learning

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I'm featured on the How to Get Away with Parenting podcast!

By Jen Lumanlan | December 30, 2016

  Malaika Dower, who hosts the podcast How To Get Away With Parenting, found my podcast recently on iTunes and reached out to see if she could interview me.

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