168: Feeling Triggered by Current Events

I know it can be really difficult to navigate all the events happening in the world today.  It seems like things are falling apart, with wars, climate change-caused drought and wildfires in some areas and flooding in others, with hunger not following far behind.  And things aren’t any better on the political front either.

 

When difficult things happen out there in the world, they spill over into our relationships with our children.  We suddenly find ourselves snapping at them far more easily than usual.  The things they do that are normally mildly irritating now push us to the limit, and we end up reacting to them in ways that we don’t like.  

 

In this episode we discuss the reasons why you feel emotionally yanked around by things that are happening out there in the wider world, as well as by the ways these things are discussed online and in our families as well.  

 

We look at the tools you can use to regulate your emotions when this happens…but also that regulating your emotions and then voting to express your feelings about how the world should be isn’t going to make a meaningful difference.  We learn tools you can use instead to create a sense of autonomy, which reduces stress and also change the circumstances themselves so they are less triggering in the future.

 

If you know you need support with your triggered feelings, whether these are related to:

 

  • Events that are going in in the wider world
  • Seeing discussion of those events online or hearing about them from family members or friends
  • Traumatic events that you experienced in your childhood
  • Events in your childhood that you don’t think of as traumatic, and yet left marks on you
  • Difficulties you’re having now

 

…the Taming Your Triggers workshop will help.  In the workshop you’ll learn what are the real causes of your triggered feelings (which really aren’t about your child’s behavior), and you’ll get support in taking on these ideas deeply so they aren’t just things you have to remember, but that you actually believe and live.

 

The difficult things that happened to us happened in relationships with other people, and so we heal most effectively through relationships with other people as well.  We’ll support you in an amazing community of parents who are all on this journey alongside you, and you’ll also get the opportunity to pair up with one of them so you can hold each other (gently!) accountable to keep going through the workshop even when things get hard, and to deepen your learning as you go.  Registration is open right now until Wednesday October 11th, and sliding scale pricing is available.  Click the image below to learn more and sign up:

 

Episodes mentioned in this episode

No Self, No Problem

Mutual Aid

 

Jump to highlights

(00:08) Societal factors that make us feel triggered

(03:15) The Yerkes-Dodson law describes the empirical relationship between stress and performance

(04:53) Broadhurst’s research has made it possible to see stress as a positive thing

(07:12) A moderate amount of stress, time pressure and role conflict can all enhance your creativity

(09:09) How feeling triggered is connected to our trauma in the past

(11:50) Techniques to cope with stress when triggered by a trauma

(12:50) What will you get out of Taming Your Triggers workshop

(13:25) Our brains spend a good deal of the time telling stories about what’s happening to us

(16:09) Why do we create new threats in our brain

(18:49) Why dealing with our child’s emotions can be difficult enough when we are completely present and capable

(21:34) The value of mindfulness in dealing with an oppressive society

(22:27) How Mutual Aid group work for people who need help with the system

(24:26) Ways we can work together with others to bring the changes we want to see

(27:35) The small wins of the Gay Rights Movement

(33:22) The success story of two parents in the Taming Your Triggers community who help each other on their healing journey

(36:27) Invitation to join the Taming Your Triggers workshop

 

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About the author, Jen

Jen Lumanlan (M.S., M.Ed.) hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast (www.YourParentingMojo.com), which examines scientific research related to child development through the lens of respectful parenting.

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