SYPM 009: How to Set Boundaries in Parenting

Episode banner for this episode of Sharing Your Parenting Mojo with a picture of the guest Xavier Dagba of Reparenting on the left side and the episode number and title which reads, SYPM 009: How to set boundaries on parenting. The Your Parenting Mojo logo and slogan Research-based ideas to help kids thrive is displayed on the bottom right.

My guest for this episode is life coach and reparenting expert Xavier Dagba, who is here to discuss the topic of boundaries in parenting.

We don’t tend to learn much about having boundaries when we’re young, because our culture teaches that children shouldn’t really need or have them (and those of us who are using respectful parenting approaches are working against the tide here).  This then translates to us not knowing how to set boundaries as adults, and feeling ‘walked all over’ – without fully understanding why, or what to do about it.

We also talk about the limit between boundaries and limits, an important distinction as we interact with our children.

If you need more support in setting limits that your child will respect (and using far fewer of them than you might ever have thought possible – while still having your boundaries respected!), I hope you’ll join my FREE Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop that runs between December 7-11.  When you learn how to set limits that are grounded in your values, you’ll hold them with confidence and you’ll see MUCH less testing behavior from your child.  We’ll also introduce tools to help you find ways to engage your child’s collaboration so you can really see a shift in the emotional climate of your home.

Click here to join the FREE Setting Loving and Effective Limits workshop


Other resources from this episode:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

Xavier’s website

Follow Xavier on Instagram



About the author, Jen

Jen Lumanlan (M.S., M.Ed.) hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast (, which examines scientific research related to child development through the lens of respectful parenting.

Her Finding Your Parenting Mojo membership group supports parents in putting the research into action in their real lives, with their real families. Find more info at

She also launched the most comprehensive course available to help parents decide whether homeschooling could be right for their family. Find out more about it – and take a free seven-question quiz to get a personalized assessment of your own homeschooling readiness at

And for parents who are committed to public school but recognize the limitations in that system, she has a course to help support children's learning in school at

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